Children don't know how to be grateful. How can they be educated?

How much homework do parents have to do?

Hu Yuyuan, a third-grade student of Confucius Temple Primary School in Nanjing, Jiangsu Province, was recently photographed and forwarded in the WeChat group, which touched many netizens.

According to media reports, Hu Yuyuan is picked up by his grandfather every day, rain or shine. One night not long ago, it was raining lightly. Grandpa only brought an umbrella and Hu Yuyuan's raincoat. Grandpa carries her by bike, so it's not convenient to open an umbrella. So Hu Yuyuan offered to give grandpa an umbrella. If your left hand is tired, change to your right hand. When your right hand is tired, put your hands together, because you will get home soon and you won't feel cold. But she said with a little regret that she was still too young and her arms were not long enough, and the rain still soaked grandpa's sleeves and trouser legs. She also said: "If one day Grandpa is too old to walk and can't take me by bike, I will help him walk slowly."

Why don't children know how to be grateful?

It is precisely because of the little girl's thoughtfulness and concern for her grandfather that such a young child knows how to care for her family and know how to be grateful, and these photos will be frequently praised and forwarded by people. It is also because such things are too few among the children around us.

What we often see is this picture: children push away their rice bowls after meals, watch TV or play, while parents are busy tidying up; There are delicious things at home, and parents always leave them to their children to taste, but children rarely ask their parents to eat first; Children are sick, parents take care of them in every possible way, and parents are unwell, but children seldom greet them or even turn a blind eye. ...

Children who grow up in this atmosphere are used to receiving care and love from their families, and they will take it for granted that their families love them, but they don't know how to love their families and be grateful to the people around them.

Under the current examination-oriented education system, family education has become a vassal of school education. Most parents only care about their children's academic performance. As long as their children study well and have outstanding skills, they can cover up all the ugliness, but they seldom care about what their children are thinking, rarely guide their children to do something by themselves, and ignore the environment and opportunities to provide services for their families. Parents pay endlessly, and children get endlessly. Finally, parents complain that children don't understand.

Gratitude education should be silent.

The premise of letting children know how to be grateful is that parents know how to be grateful and set an example.

Respecting the old and loving the young is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. Where there is an old home, there is treasure. Parents should establish a reasonable family relationship between the old and the young, set an example by respecting the old and loving the young, and set an example for their children. Because children are good at imitation, and parents will naturally follow suit. Therefore, parents try their best to take their children to visit the elderly, help them do some housework and do their children's due responsibilities and obligations. Treat the elderly with humility, courtesy, care and consideration. Parents' words and deeds, children can see in their eyes, remember in their hearts, and be influenced by them, which can be reflected in their own actions. At the same time, parents often remind their children to do things for the elderly, communicate with the elderly in polite language, and care for and sympathize with their sick grandparents. Over time, they will treat the elderly as well as their parents and develop the moral quality of respecting the elderly.

Parents should also cultivate their children's behavior habits of filial piety, ask their children to listen to their parents' teachings, care about their parents' health, share their parents' worries, participate in housework and not add chaos to their parents. These can be refined into some specific things, such as asking children to greet their parents who come home from work every day; Parents are tired, take the initiative to help or ask their parents to rest; When parents go out, remind them not to forget things or pay attention to weather changes; If your parents are sick, you should take the initiative to take care of them and say more words of comfort.

Birthdays can be used to guide children to know how to repay kindness. For example, when grandparents and grandparents celebrate their birthdays, parents and children make a small gift for the elderly to celebrate their birthdays, let the children give their own "gifts" to the elderly, let the children make out with the elderly and speak their minds. When the child has a birthday, we can ask the child for advice and let him find a way to surprise his parents. This surprise can be a sweet kiss, a sweet whisper, a hug, a service such as patting him on the back, or a small production that you love. Similarly, on Father's Day, Mother's Day, Double Ninth Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival and other festivals, we can continue to carry out similar activities to make children realize the preciousness of family ties and be grateful to their families.