Ancient and modern Chinese and foreign etiquette stories

Ancient and modern Chinese and foreign etiquette stories

Etiquette story 1 1 at all times and all over the world. Etiquette story: Cheng Menxue Pear.

Shi Yang (1053- 1 135) was a gifted scholar in the Northern Song Dynasty and a musician in Nanjianfu (now Fujian). After winning the Jinshi, he gave up being an official and continued his studies.

Cheng Hao (1032- 1085) and Cheng Yi (1033-107) were famous university experts, philosophers and educators at that time, both of whom were founders of Neo-Confucianism in the Northern Song Dynasty. Their theory was inherited by Zhu in the Southern Song Dynasty and was called the School. Shi Yang admired Cheng Cheng's knowledge and went to the school in Hao Cheng to learn from his teacher. Four years later, Cheng Hao died, and he continued to learn from Cheng Yi. At this time, he is 40 years old, still respecting teachers and studying hard.

One day, it snowed heavily and it was freezing. When Shi Yang encountered a problem, he braved the cold wind to ask his classmate You Zuo (1053- 1 123) to go to the teacher's house for advice. When he came to the teacher's house, he found the teacher asleep in the chair. He couldn't bear to disturb him, for fear of affecting the teacher's rest, so he stood quietly outside and waited. When the teacher woke up, the snow under their feet was one foot deep and covered with snow. The teacher invited Shi Yang and others into the room to give them a lecture. Later, "Chengmen Sydney" became a widely circulated model of respecting teachers.

2. Cheap sex

Lin Xiangru was a minister of Zhao during the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period. He is knowledgeable and talented. In the two diplomatic struggles of "returning to Zhao in one piece" and "joining forces with Mianchi", he defended Zhao's dignity, ranking above the famous Lian Po.

This makes Lian Po unconvinced. He said to others, "I was invincible in Lian Po and made great contributions to Zhao Li. Lin Xiangru is just talking with his mouth. What's the big deal? Instead, he climbed on top of me. Be sure to insult him. "

Hearing this, Lin Xiangru tried not to meet Lian Po. Every time I go out, I avoid Lian Po, and sometimes I even pretend to be ill.

Once when Lin Xiangru went out, he saw Lian Po's chariots and horses coming from a distance, and hurriedly asked the driver to take a detour. People in Lin Xiangru felt wronged by his kowtowing concession and asked to leave for home. Lin Xiangru insisted on staying and patiently explained to them, "Which do you think is better, General Lian or King Qin?" Everyone said, "Even the generals are certainly not as good as the king of Qin." Lin Xiangru said, "Yes, everyone is afraid of the King of Qin, but for Zhao's sake, I dare to reprimand him at the Qin court. How can I be afraid when I see General Lian? " I understand your feelings, but have you ever thought that the powerful State of Qin, because of General Lian and I, dare not attack Zhao? If two tigers contend, they will both lose. I don't care about personal grievances, and I let General Lian everywhere, for the benefit of the country. "Hearing these words, everyone cooled down, dismissed the idea of leaving home, but more respect for Lin Xiangru.

Later, someone told Lian Po what Lin Xiangru said. Lian Po was deeply moved and ashamed. He thinks he is so narrow-minded. He was so sorry for Lin Xiangru that he decided to plead guilty to his face.

One day, he took off his shirt and went to Lin Xiangru's mansion with Vitex negundo naked on his back. He knelt on the ground with tears in his eyes and said to Lin Xiangru with tears in his eyes, "I am a humble clown with shallow knowledge and a bad temper. I didn't expect you to be so tolerant of me. I really have no face to see you. Please punish me severely! " I am willing to kill me. "Lin Xiangru saw this scene, quickly help Lian Po, two people embrace together.

From then on, the two men eliminated barriers and strengthened unity. Qi Xin joined forces to defend Zhao, and the powerful Qin State dared not invade Zhao easily.

3. Celebrity etiquette story: Sean's apprentice

Sean (? -Former 186), a strategist of Liu Bang, the ancestor of the Western Han Dynasty. His ancestors were Koreans. After Qin destroyed Korea, he decided to avenge South Korea.

Once, because of the attempted assassination of Qin Shihuang, he was hunted down and took refuge in Xiapi. Sean has nothing to do next time. One day, while walking on Xiapi Bridge, he met an old man wearing a coarse cloth and a short coat. He walked beside Sean and deliberately dropped his shoes under the bridge. Then he turned to Sean and said, "Son! Get off the bridge and pick up my shoes! " Sean was shocked and wanted to give him a beating, but when he saw that he was an old man, he held back his anger and picked up the shoes under the bridge. The old man ordered again: "put on your shoes!" " "Sean thought that since he picked up the shoes, he might as well put them on, so he knelt on the ground and put them on himself. The old man put out his foot and asked Sean to help him put it on. Then he left with a smile.

Sean has been watching his whereabouts with surprised eyes. The old man walked down the corridor, then turned to Sean and said, "You are a child who can be trained to be a successful person. Five days later, in the morning, meet me here at dawn! " Sean knelt down and said, "Yes." At first light on the fifth day, Sean came to Xiapi Bridge. Unexpectedly, the old man was already waiting there. When he saw Zhang Liang, he said angrily, "Why are you late for your date with the old man? Come back the next morning on the fifth day! " Say that finish and left.

On the morning of the fifth day, as soon as the chicken crowed, Sean rushed over, but the old man was waiting there again. When he saw Zhang Liang, he said angrily, "Why are you behind me again?" Come early in five days! "Then he left again.

On the fifth day, Sean arrived at the bridge before midnight. After a long wait, the old man came. He said happily, "Great." Then he took out a book, pointed to it and said, "If you study this book carefully, you can be the emperor's teacher!" " ! In ten years, the world will change and you will be rich. In the next 13 years, you will see me at the foot of Gucheng Mountain in Jibei County-there is a yellow stone there that is me. "The old man said and went away.

At dawn in the morning, Sean took out his book and read it. It turned out to be Sun Tzu's Art of War (assisted by Zhou Wuwang)! Sean cherishes it very much, often reads it carefully, and studies and studies it repeatedly.

10 years later, Chen Sheng and others rose up against the state of Qin, and more than 100 people responded. Pei Gong Liu Bang led thousands of troops and captured some places west of Xiapi. Sean joined him and became his subordinate. From then on, Sean often made suggestions to Pei according to Sun Tzu's Art of War. Pei thought it was very good and often adopted his strategies. Later, he became Liu Bang's strategist who strategized and won thousands of miles. After Liu Bang proclaimed himself emperor, he was named Liu Hou.

Sean will never forget the old man who taught him the art of war. 13 years later, when he followed Liu Bang through Jibei, he saw a yellow stone at the foot of the ancient city mountain and took it back, calling it "Huang Shigong", which was a treasure and sacrificed on time. After Sean died, his family buried Yellowstone National Park with him. Think about it: this is a touching legend. Sean learned from his teacher and met his teacher for the third time. If it were you, would you go for the third time? Why?

4, etiquette story: a thousand miles to send goose feathers

The story of "sending goose feathers a thousand miles away" took place in the Tang Dynasty.

At that time, a minority leader in Yunnan sent a special envoy to Mian Bogao to offer a swan to Emperor Taizong. When passing Mianyang Lake, kind Mian Bogao released the swan from its cage and wanted to give it a bath. Unexpectedly, the swan soared into the sky. Mian Bogao was busy reaching for it, only pulling out a few goose feathers. Mian Bogao was so anxious that he stamped his feet and began to cry. His entourage advised him, "It's no use crying because it has already flown away. Let's think of a remedy. " Mian Bogao thought, also can only be so.

Etiquette story in ancient and modern China and foreign countries 2: A friendship becomes a war.

In 592 BC, Qi Qinggong, then the monarch of the State of Qi, met the envoys of Jin, Lu, Wei and Cao in the court. Ambassadors from various countries brought precious gifts such as jet, coins and silk to Qi Qinggong. When offering gifts, Qi Qinggong looked down and saw that Yaqing Ke Yu of the State of Jin was one-eyed, Shang Qing of the State of Lu was bald, patriotic and lame, and the head of the doctor's son of Cao was hunchbacked. He couldn't help laughing to himself: Why did the envoys of the four countries have flaws?

That night, when Qi Qinggong met his mother Xiao Furen, he told Xiao Furen the four people he met during the day as jokes. Xiao Furen was very happy and insisted on seeing for himself. Just the next day, Qi Qinggong gave a banquet to entertain the envoys of various countries, so he promised to let Xiao Furen hide behind the curtain and watch. The next day, when the cars of the envoys of the four countries arrived together and entered the hall in turn, Xiao Furen lifted the curtain and looked out. At the sight of the four envoys, she couldn't help laughing, and her followers all laughed their heads off. Laughter alarmed the messenger. When they realized that Qi Qinggong made this arrangement to please his mother, they were all furious and left without saying goodbye. The envoys of the four countries agreed to return to their respective countries to invite soldiers to cut Qi and wash away the humiliation suffered by Qi. Four years later, the four countries joined forces to crusade against Qi, and they were defeated, so Qi Qinggong had to make peace. This is the famous "saddle war" in the Spring and Autumn Period.

Yang Xiang strangled the tiger to save his relatives.

Yang Xiang's saving relatives is a traditional etiquette story in China.

Yang Xiang is a fourteen-year-old girl. One day, she followed her father Yang Feng to the field to harvest crops. Just halfway through, they suddenly jumped out of a big tiger, bit Yang Xiang's father and ran back. Yang Xiang was unarmed at that time, but she was not afraid of danger. She only thinks about her father who was dragged away by the tiger, and ignores her life and death. She ran quickly, grabbed the tiger by the neck and strangled it. At first, the tiger fought back, but Yang Xiang refused to let go. The tiger gradually lost its strength, ground its teeth and finally died. Yang Xiang's father is finally out of danger and out of the tiger.

Later generations praised Yang Xiang for writing an essay:

Yang Xiang is fourteen years old. With my father, I collected millet in the field, and my father pulled it for the tiger to eat. When Xiang was unarmed, he only knew that he had a father, but he didn't know that he had a body. Enthusiastically stepped forward and grabbed the tiger by the neck. The tiger gritted his teeth and saved his father from harm.

Mencius divorced his wife.

Mencius, a thinker, politician and educator in the Warring States period, was the main representative of the Confucian school after Confucius, and was honored as the "sage" after Confucius by later generations.

Mencius' achievements in his life are inseparable from his mother's education since childhood. Meng Mu is a great mother who combines kindness, strictness and wisdom. As early as Mencius' childhood, later generations left stories with profound educational significance, such as "Meng Mu's Three Movements" and "Meng Mu's Broken Weaving". After Mencius got married, Meng Mu continued to enlighten and educate him by dealing with trivial matters of family life, helping him to further improve his personality in all aspects.

On one occasion, Mencius' wife was resting in her room. Because she was alone, she sat with her legs crossed without scruple. At this moment, Mencius pushed the door and came in. He was very angry when he saw his wife sitting like this.

It turns out that the ancients said that it is impolite to sit with your legs spread forward in a basket, and it is also impolite to stand on people. Mencius went out without a word. When he met Meng Mu, he said, "I want to divorce my wife and go back to her house." Meng Mu asked him, "Why?" Mencius said, "She has neither grace nor grace." Meng Mu asked again, "Why do you think she is rude?" "She sits with her legs crossed and leans against someone," Mencius replied, "so I want to divorce her." "Then how do you know?" Meng Mu asked.

Mencius told Meng Mu the scene just now. Meng Mu said, "You should be the rude person, not your wife. Have you forgotten how the Book of Rites teaches people? Before entering the house, ask who is inside; Speak loudly when you go to the hall; To avoid seeing other people's privacy, bow your head after entering the room. Think about it, the bedroom is a place to rest. You broke in without making a sound or bowing your head. You have lost your talent. How can you blame others for being rude? The rude person is yourself! "

Mencius was so convinced of what he said that he never mentioned divorcing his wife and returning to her family again.