In the face of children's comparison, will you reflect on yourself? Shouldn't we bring him into this world unconditionally?

# Parenting Office # # Why don't young people want to have children #

Two days ago, I was looking at the new real estate introduced by the intermediary and looking at the floor plan. The daughter came into the house to play with her brother. I said let her see it, and my daughter said, "I don't want to see it. I just want to buy a new house. My family has a balcony and a big bookcase. "

I smiled and said, "well, then you can live in a room with a balcony and let your brother live in a room without a balcony." Then if you buy a new house, the house will definitely be bigger than it is now, and the big bookcase is no problem. "

"Oh, my classmates all have their own big houses and bookcases. My house is too small. Mom, why is our family so poor? "

"Not bad, our house is so-so. Your classmates have too many rich people, and those who don't have a house are better than ours. " I smiled. My daughter said so.

It seems that we have discussed this issue for five or six years, and it seems that I always say the same thing to her.

The daughter said that a pair of shoes in her class cost 10 thousand yuan. Said her friend had a 5000-yuan down jacket, but it was not expensive.

Every time my daughter tells me this, I won't scold her or say that you go to school. Why not learn from others is better than learning? I think it is normal to compare with others. Who doesn't envy people who are better than themselves? What's more, children just talk and ask for nothing.

I will only tell my daughter that although mom and dad don't have much money, they are all trying to give you the best.

You see, dad is busy from morning till night, and our family is not rich, but the best primary school and junior high school dad found for you in the city are among the best, and it costs a lot of money, but dad is reluctant to buy a pair of shoes with a price of 150.

Families are born unequal and destined to be poor and noble. But the opportunity to work hard is equal, and everyone's youth time is the same. We should cherish our own conditions and strive for progress. You see, your good friend's family is richer than ours, but you study better than her. Of course, there are more children who study better than you and have more money than you. We still have to work hard. Now we are trying to lay the foundation for getting rich in the future.

My daughter always listens with an open mind, and I try to be considerate of my daughter and give her what she wants.

For example, after she said that everyone else wore Nike shoes, I kept it in mind. My daughter's shoes are small, so I took her to buy shoes and asked her to choose a pair of Nike shoes. I wanted her to buy the cheapest one, but she chose a pair and got a discount of nearly 1000 yuan. For the sake of children's happiness, I paid quietly, without letting my husband know. My daughter is very happy.

I told her that my mother wants to buy you a good one, and other mothers want you to have it, but our family conditions don't allow it, but my mother loves you more and cares more about you than others, and my daughter nodded.

She cherishes those shoes very much because she knows they are very expensive and she doesn't want them anymore. She wears it occasionally, but not often. When her classmates saw that she bought a new model, more people bought it in successive classes. My daughter is a low-key child and doesn't like people watching her all the time. Moreover, I also told her that the moral position is good, and our family has not reached that level, so let's be ourselves. My daughter is still wearing the shoes that I bought for her at tens of dollars. Now these shoes are too small for her, and they are still very new, just for me.

For more than two years, my daughter never asked for expensive shoes again.

Similarly, my husband and I have been trying to give our children good conditions in recent years.

My husband takes care of my family and I take care of my children. I tell them coquetry words every day and try my best to give them the best care.

I remember when I was a child, I liked the little red leather shoes worn by our village doctor's daughter, but I knew that my family was poor and it was impossible to have them. Everyone else has mechanical pencil, but I don't. I always walk sixteen miles back and forth to the store to see the glittering mechanical pencil on weekends. I didn't save enough money to buy one until they sold out. Not to mention telling my mother, because I know my family is poor.

As long as I can remember, my mother hasn't held my hand across the street and bought me new clothes that I like.

Therefore, I don't want my children to have a childhood like mine. I always want to take them very intimately and say that I love them. Of course, I also want to thank my husband for his efforts. He gave the children better material conditions and a relaxed living environment, so that I had time to grow up with them and love them.

Children live a better life than the poor. With my love, they should be happy!

When I was a child, my family was poor and could not compare with others. I really feel inferior. The only thing comparable is good academic performance.

At home, my mother often beats and scolds. I sometimes feel ugly, poor at home and very inferior. Why did my parents give birth to me?

Fortunately, at that time, at school, learning was the main thing, and teachers liked children who studied well.

At this time, the children are not well dressed and the conditions at home are poor. It is estimated that students will also despise them.

I remember a little video the other day. A daughter doesn't like her father riding a bike to pick her up. She doesn't like her father's lack of a car and poor clothes. Everyone condemned the girl.

Everyone stands on the moral high ground and says that her daughter is unfilial and ungrateful, but who has considered the girl's mood? Students are luxury cars, their parents are glamorous and unique, and they are looked down upon by their classmates.

If we have children and just let them come into this world to be bullied and looked down upon, we really might as well not have children.

We always condemn children's comparison. Yes, it's not good for children to compare too much. They should recognize themselves and their family conditions. But as parents, shouldn't we also reflect? Are we not working hard enough to give our children a better life?

Nowadays, more and more young people are reluctant to have children, saying that life is too stressful.

At this time, I always say that children bring us endless fun, and the best result of marriage is to have their own legal children. This is my consistent idea. But today, I was shocked by a netizen's comment, and I thought it was very reasonable. He said: "Can you guarantee that your child will go abroad to study or be admitted to a civil servant? Otherwise, it is better not to be born, and don't let the children suffer like their parents. "

I sent my son to kindergarten this morning and saw Komatsu running to school in the yard. I guess he didn't eat again. The child is untidy, but very sensible. I often see him take out the garbage, fetch water and go home to do his homework after school. Although he is only in the fifth grade, he doesn't have to pick him up two years earlier.

Other people's children are extremely precious, and when they pick up and drop off every day, the children are already independent. It is said that study is still very good. But students often laugh at him on the road, at his tattered clothes and lack of money to buy food. I have always felt sorry for this child.

Are his parents busy? Why don't you care about the children?

Yes, his father is very busy. He is an interior decorator. He often comes back in plaster and rides an electric car with the same plaster. Dad will buy food for Komatsu when he comes home, and make good food.

Where's mom? Soak in the mahjong room every day. I never cook for my husband and children. I heard that I got divorced because I was too lazy to play mahjong. I found this much older husband and gave birth to a son. She rightfully waited for the food and went out to play mahjong.

She rented a house at home and her children were older, but she never wanted to work in the past and fight for her children together. Therefore, I look down on such people.

Why should such a woman have children? Why don't you take care of him and wait for him to be laughed at?

I think Komatsu must envy those well-dressed children and those who are picked up and sent to buy delicious food.

For this reason, don't say that children keep up with the joneses. In my mind, I also think that this will have a great impact on children's living conditions.

As parents, we should strive to create good conditions for our children, covering all aspects of material and spiritual conditions.

If the material conditions are average, children can be enriched spiritually. Can give children more love and more companionship. If you don't have much time to spend with your child because you are busy making money, you can at least make him rich in material conditions.

What I fear most is that as parents, I have no money and no conditions, and I don't care about teaching my children. It's as simple as raising a puppy. It is good to provide food and clothes to the school. In that case, it is better not to have children.

Giving birth to children is not only for carrying on the family line, raising children to prevent old age and brightening the threshold. We should also make children happy and comfortable, and get good care and education. Moreover, if you don't give your child good conditions, how can you make him phoenix nirvana and shine brilliantly? Now educational resources are also linked to money. Instead of staying in the 70 s and 80 s, everyone was equal before receiving education. Now cram schools and aristocratic schools are everywhere. Therefore, it is difficult to have noble children, because the education of children from poor families is far behind.

So more and more young people are unwilling to have children, # Why are young people unwilling to have children #? Many of them think that they can't give their children a good life, so why bring them into this world to suffer!

I have always felt that giving birth to children is very happy, and giving birth to children is also for human reproduction. This lofty idea, in the face of these young people's ideas, I am speechless!

You have a point. Some people say that if you don't want to have children, you just don't want to take responsibility. Saying you can't afford it is an excuse. How can a child not afford it? He doesn't even have the ability to give a child a bite to eat, and he is not worthy to be a man.

Maybe some people don't want to have children and don't take responsibility because they are idle. I don't see anything wrong. We are all selfish. Wouldn't it be better to live for yourself?

There are still some people who say that they don't have children and don't take responsibility. I think they are more responsible for their children's lives. They see higher and farther.

I am afraid that I can't give my children something better, that my children feel inferior to others, and that I can't educate them well. ...

In short, various reasons! I still want to say, having children is the inheritance of blood, how to have children! With children, responsibility and responsibility, there is still a lot of fun! There better be one.

If you don't want your child to live a miserable life, try to create conditions for him to live a good life. Don't have a second child if the conditions are really bad, okay?

And don't aim too high, so that the child can't compare with anyone in the high environment. You also ignore the appearance of the image from time to time, which makes him bored. You also blame the child for not being sensible and giving birth to a baiwenhang.

I also want to tell you that if you really don't like children and don't want to have children, you will be born. If you don't want to take care of them, leave them to your parents, leave them to your nanny, or don't even cook for your children like Komatsu's mother, you don't love this child from the bottom of your heart. It's best not to let them suffer in the world.

Because children without parents' love are really miserable, how can children who have lived in pain since childhood pass on their happiness to others? It's better to live a less miserable life.