"Your wife didn't go to work, didn't get paid. Why does she eat meat? " Do you have such a mother-in-law around you?

Many of us know that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good and we can't do without a man, but in many people's minds, this man is the son of mother-in-law. In fact, this man also includes her husband.

If a woman's marriage is happy and her man loves her, then she will be kind to her daughter-in-law. It is often unhappy women in marriage who will put more feelings into their sons. When the son is getting married, the mother-in-law is prone to psychological imbalance.

In such a relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is often prone to disputes and even affect the feelings of husband and wife, but the key is that men should be clear.

Recently, a male reader wrote to me about his mother-in-law relationship. Let's see what is going on.

I never thought that the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law would affect my relationship with my wife, because it seems that this problem does not exist to me. First of all, I love my wife very much, second, I can handle it, and finally, my relationship with my mother is average.

It's not that I'm unfilial, but that I've been used to her various behaviors since I was a child, which makes me feel that she is rude. My mother didn't get along well with my grandmother when she was young. My father was a timid guy who didn't help anyone, as if it had nothing to do with him. The more he does this, the more unhappy my mother is. I often take it out on her.

I remember once, when I didn't do well in the exam, she hit me. Before I cried, she cried, saying that my father and I were both baiwenhang, which was not good for her. Everyone is not suitable for her. I just want to stay away from home.

I don't understand why she took out her dissatisfaction with my father on me. I'm still a child. Why did she marry me?

Later, when I grew up, I tried to resist and settled down to talk to her, but as long as I had my own ideas, she said I was unfilial and couldn't talk at all. In desperation, I gave up, thinking that as long as I tried not to have a direct conflict with her.

But escaping can't solve the problem, it must be solved, otherwise it will only roll bigger and bigger like a snowball.

After coming out to work, except for the needs of daily life, I basically send money home to my mother, because my father doesn't earn much, and my mother hasn't liked my father since I can remember. I don't want them to continue arguing about money, so I think. But later, after I talked about my girlfriend, I found that I needed to spend money and sent less money home. My mother was dissatisfied with my girlfriend, that is, my wife, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law began.

But actually, my girlfriend is a very considerate girl. It's just that I can't bear her suffering with me, and I always want to give her something good. She doesn't mind that I don't have a house, a car or a deposit, and she is willing to follow me. I was very touched, but I thought about how to give the bride price and remembered that I had sent a lot of money to my family over the years. My mother has to have a deposit of 50 thousand for flowers anyway. I didn't expect my mother not to pay this money, saying that she.

I told her that she would give me 30,000 yuan, provided that she got pregnant first. She also said that I was afraid of giving a bride price and would lose money if I didn't get pregnant. I also said it was for my own good. I think she is ugly and don't want to argue with her. She said that if she didn't give me this 30 thousand, I would never get married in my life! Reluctantly, she took out the money.

Shortly after marriage, my wife became pregnant. My mother is naturally happy, but I know her well and don't want her to come and take care of her. I'm afraid she will have a conflict with my wife. I forgot to mention that the house we live in now is because my mother-in-law loves her daughter dearly and paid us a down payment. I am very grateful, so I don't want my mother to come and cause conflicts.

Moreover, my mother often said in front of relatives and friends that I "married my daughter-in-law and forgot my mother", which made me very disgusted. Just because I asked her to take out 30 thousand bride price, she has been bitter. My wife's mother-in-law helped me during my pregnancy. When I was confined, my mother-in-law said to let my mother come and take care of me. I think so, too, but my heart is always uneasy. My wife comforted me and told me not to think too much, saying that my grandmother always felt sorry for her granddaughter, so I asked my mother to come.

On the first day of my mother's arrival, she talked to me about the conditions, asking me to give her my salary and let her dare to take care of my wife, otherwise she wouldn't have the money to buy food, for fear of poor hospitality. I think she thinks too much and won't say anything, but my wife says it doesn't matter. Anyway, she didn't need to spend money. For a month, I didn't expect conflict, so I agreed.

Unexpectedly, something happened. I didn't know at first, because every time I eat good food, there are meat and vegetables, which are quite nutritious, but I often have to work overtime and don't eat at home, so I don't know the truth. Every time I work overtime, my wife asks me to pack something to eat and give it back to her. I laughed at her for eating too much, and she just smiled.

Until one day, I had to rush back to the company to deal with something before eating, so I let them eat first. My mother heard that I was going back, so she put the meat back in the refrigerator. I'm confused. Ask my mother. My mother solemnly said to me, "Mom loves you. It is good for the daughter-in-law to eat more vegetables in the confinement, and leave the meat to her son. " When I said that my wife just needed to mend her body, my mother reacted very strongly and said, "Your wife didn't go to work and didn't get paid. Why does she eat meat? " When I have a baby, you go to work in the fields! This question is habitual! "

At that time, I thought she had gone too far and said three words:

1. She is my wife, and it is my responsibility to let her eat and sleep well.

She suffered for giving birth to my child. What's wrong with eating some meat?

The hostess of this family is my wife, and she eats whatever she likes.

My mother heard that she was born in the past, and it was hard to support me. Now that she is old, she is no longer enjoying happiness, and she has to endure the pain and suffering of taking care of her daughter-in-law. She also said that she was ungrateful for my kindness and cried that she was unlucky. At that time, my head was really big and I felt very tired and weak, so I said, "Go back to your hometown!" "

I don't understand why my mother is like this. Maybe I let her go back to her hometown a little heartless, but if I keep letting her stay, something will definitely happen at home.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often inseparable from men. Most mother-in-law is biased against her daughter-in-law, which stems from her past experience, and her mother-in-law's experience cannot be separated from her father-in-law. If the father-in-law can be a husband's responsibility, the mother-in-law will not be wronged and will not have such a deep prejudice against the daughter-in-law.

So, I think you did the right thing. A good relationship between husband and wife must put each other first in all relationships, so that the relationship between husband and wife will become more and more intimate.

In fact, you have always been very kind to your mother, but your mother has been eating you subconsciously, thinking that it is right to always deal with problems according to her way of doing things. I didn't expect you to be so disgusted.

But after this incident, I believe your mother will reflect, which is also a good thing, but she will often go home to accompany her wife to visit the elderly in the future. After all, parents have really paid a lot for us, and it is the responsibility of children to go home often.