As a human being, is it necessary to be too soft-hearted? What should I do if my heart is too soft?

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A person can be kind, but not too kind; a person can be soft-hearted, but not too soft-hearted.

Life is like a play, it is difficult to tell the truth from the false; human relationships are like paper, each piece is thin and transparent.

People who are soft-hearted are often kind, but being too soft-hearted is cowardly and allows others to manipulate them. Therefore, kindness must be measured, learn to distinguish, and learn to protect.

People who are too soft-hearted, attach importance to feelings, always take everything on their own, would rather suffer themselves, and respond to others' requests. They would rather be hurt and shed tears than make others sad. Sometimes, just Even reasonable rejection feels like it's my fault.

However, the human heart is always too difficult to be satisfied. The softer you are, the easier it is to be taken advantage of; the more you give for free, the less grateful the person you receive will be; the more you give in, the more time you give, the more time you give. As time goes by, others will think you are easy to bully.

As a human being, don’t be honest with others, just be warm to things. Don’t be too true. If you are true, you will get sad easily. You always choose to forgive, but you will eventually be betrayed; you always choose to understand, Some people will eventually misunderstand you; if you always choose to be kind, you will eventually be let down.

Since ancient times, good people have been bullied by others, and good horses have been ridden by others.

In this world, not everyone will compare their hearts with others, and not everyone will think in their shoes. Others may take advantage of you because you are too soft-hearted. Being too soft-hearted towards others is the greatest harm to yourself, too. If you care about others, you will definitely feel uncomfortable.

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As a person, you should not be too soft-hearted. You need to be round on the outside and square on the inside. Be ruthless when you need to be.

People who are too kind and emotional tend to be soft-hearted. Being soft-hearted is a good thing, but you cannot let yourself lose your principles.

As a person, you can give the impression that you are a very talkative person on the surface, but you must have your own edges and corners in your heart, and know what should be done and what should not be done. There is a limit to everything. Bottom line and principle, if you can't learn to say no, you will become a bad person in the eyes of others. Anyone who encounters something they don't like will think of you. Anyway, you are soft-hearted and willing to accept anything. They will reject both good and bad things. for you.

Sometimes someone asks you for help. Although you have difficulties, you still agree because you are too soft-hearted. After the hard work is completed, the other person doesn’t even say a word of thanks, as if this is what you should do for them. ; If what you do is not satisfactory, they will feel that you are not doing your job well and deliberately neglect them.

Even if you have helped many times, in the end, you will still give advice and even help your enemies, because human nature has a greedy side. You often help others with a soft heart, but instead allow others to take advantage of them. No conscience.

Everything is too much and too soft. In the end, you will hurt yourself. A soft heart without a bottom line may seem very kind, but it is actually a sign of hurting yourself. As a person, you cannot be too soft-hearted. Just do it just right. You must not be soft-hearted when it is time to refuse.

As a human being, you must be measured and measured, round on the outside and square on the inside, with ethics on the inside and rounded on the outside, so that life can proceed smoothly.

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Being soft-hearted is compassion, but you cannot make yourself humble.

People who are soft-hearted generally have no sense of proportion, because they are used to retreating and have no bottom line. If you are soft-hearted and have no bottom line, others will have no principles for you. When kindness loses its principles, it encourages the reproduction of evil.

Bai Yansong said: Why do people take you less and less seriously? It’s because you are so talkative. Whatever I ask for, I will agree to it; whatever I ask for, I will give it to you. You have successfully created an unprincipled self. Since you have no principles, people will naturally have no bottom line for you.

If you are too soft-hearted and take care of other people's feelings, you will make yourself uncomfortable. The softer you are, the more people will trouble you, so don't be a good person and only consider other people's feelings when things happen. , never consider yourself, so that you often suffer losses, others will only think you are a fool.

When dealing with friends, be tolerant but not indulgent; when dealing with feelings, cherish but do not spoil them. Kindness is a strength, but it cannot become your weakness. You must have a bottom line when you are soft-hearted, and you must have a sharp edge when being kind, and pay in a measured way. , Only in this way can the relationship between people be neither humble nor overbearing, equal and comfortable.

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To be too soft-hearted is a kind of unfair kindness, which makes others happy but wrongs oneself.

A person's heart is always too soft, and he still persists in leaving after love is gone, which is too cruel to himself; his heart is not strong enough, and he is still indecisive when his heart is confused, which is too harmful to the soul.

If the heart is too soft, they will be controlled by emotions and taken advantage of by others. They are easily defeated by other people's sweet words and easily give in and compromise.

A kind-hearted person has the most sincere heart, but also lives the most tiring life. He will tolerate any harm and let it go; he is used to considering everything, but forgets his own grievances; he endures pain to fulfill everything, but Cover up your sadness.

You always think about others all the time, but no one understands the embarrassment and sadness behind you. You are always unable to let go of unworthy feelings, but no one thanks you for your passionate efforts.

As the saying goes: People cannot be accustomed; love cannot be expected.

For those who don’t know how to be grateful, there is no need to be kind and tolerant all the time. Why should they be greedy to enjoy your kindness? For those who are not worthy of nostalgia, there is no need to call affectionately all the time. Why should you let them feel at ease? There is no need to always give in to people who are pushing their limits. Why should you let them get your things unscrupulously?