Why don't most children want to bring the old man to their side to be filial when he is old?

When you get old, you will understand that raising children can't stop you from getting old. It doesn't matter whether you have children or not. If you spend all your efforts on raising children, he will still dislike you in the end. It is really: it is a task to have a son, it is an obligation to raise a son, and it is wrong to rely on a son.

Living habits are different, and some old people are in the wrong position. This may make some old people disagree. These old people are old, but they still like to "give orders" when enjoying the care of their families, thinking that they are in their own homes, as many old people in China do;

There are also children who have their own children and grandchildren and have no energy to take care of their elderly parents. Of course, this will happen to children when they are older. Love and patience are downward, and generations of old people will be rejected when they get old. Nursing homes will be the home of most people, and children's "filial piety" will become more and more scarce because they are too "hard".

Why are the elderly old and most of their children unwilling to take them with them for filial piety? This question is very common. I'll take part in a chat.

Why don't most children want to bring the elderly to their side for filial piety? First of all, living habits and other aspects are not synchronized, and there is a generation gap between the two generations. The young couple and their parents are two generations now. Old people like to go to bed early and get up early, and have a light diet. Young people are night owls and like to stay up late. Young people like to eat kebabs, barbecues and seafood. Two generations have different eating habits and working habits, so it is uncomfortable to live together. Coupled with some trivial matters of life, it is easy to produce contradictions. I am 7 1 this year, and my wife has 70 children and 44 children. Not long ago, he bought a house of 140 meters in a high-end residential area. I hope we can live in the past together. After repeated weighing, my wife and I saidno. Later, in order to take care of us, my son bought us a house of115m in the same community. Now the two families are short of a bowl of soup. Take care of each other and have fun.

Most children don't want to take the old man with them and be filial, which is also a helpless move. To bring the old people to live together, at least have a house. Now, house prices are not to mention ordinary cities. Most of them are above 10,000 yuan, and three bedrooms 1 hall will cost 1 more than 10,000 yuan. Most young people live on a small salary. Where can they afford to buy such a big house? Even if they can get a loan, they are facing enormous loan pressure.

On this issue, don't blame children more, don't ask children more, and understand their difficulties. As an old man, there is a nest. It is good to have a certain pension. Pay attention to your health and spend every day happily. Most children can visit their parents often, so be content. These are my views. Let's communicate with each other. Thank you for your reading and attention.

Why don't most children want to bring the old man to their side to be filial when he is old? In my opinion, it's not that children are unfilial, but reality. For most people, that's it Let me talk about my own opinion:

Conditions are not allowed. Although everyone's living standard has been greatly improved, the accompanying work pressure is also much greater than before. If nothing else, just talking about housing is nerve-racking. First-tier cities are prone to tens of thousands of square meters of housing prices. It costs millions to buy a suite, and there are only two or three bedrooms. After buying a house, the child has to pay back the loan every month. In the city, it seems that the income is high, but the expenses are also high. Every month's mortgage, children's schooling, chess and calligraphy in their spare time are all very expensive. In fact, children are also under great pressure.

If you take the old man to your side for filial piety, you have to work during the day and work overtime at night, so you have no time to take care of the old man. Instead, the old people want to clean them up and become cooks. Besides, such a small house, their own family of three, or four, is crowded enough. How can four old people live again?

And children can't afford a big villa, so they will come as soon as they come. This runs in the family and they will do their best. In fact, this kind of family inheritance is not popular in today's society. After all, young people have a world of young people, and it is always inconvenient to be with the old. What's more, today's generation of young people are mostly one-child families, and the basic structure is 1 (or 2)+2+4, that is, one or two children, plus a young couple and four old people on both sides. It seems that a family of seven or eight people live together. How can they live? We must understand this, not that they are unfilial, but that the reality can only be that most people do.

Need a small world. Besides, young couples also need a small world. Everyone knows that his family needs a relatively quiet little world, whether psychologically or physically, in order to live a quiet life. Therefore, the old people should not rely on everything, but also have their own independent lives. Just treat the child's family as relatives and go for a walk when you need us. In general, don't disturb them. So are children. When they have time, they should go back to see the old people, pay more regards and make more phone calls. Be filial in your heart and don't forget your parents' kindness.

To sum up, it's not that children are unfilial, but that realistic conditions don't allow it. Being filial, always greeting and visiting is also filial. Isn't it? I have seen an analysis before. When two people are together, you only need to deal with one kind of relationship: (husband and wife), three people (husband and wife, mother and son, father and son), four people (husband and wife, father and son, mother and daughter, brother and sister), five people (the first six plus mother and daughter, two grandparents), and six people are 15. Therefore, no matter whose parents can live independently, don't live with their children. Not unfilial, but tired. You can live closer and take care of it.

On this day, everyone is old, no one should abandon anyone, and no one can predict what will happen when they are old. Therefore, everyone should be psychologically prepared, save some money for the elderly, and then hire a care worker to give up the old-age care.

Raising children to prevent old age has been circulating for a long time. When parents are capable, parents in front of and behind the children cry, and when the children are old and far away, they will abandon them. This kind of psychology is unhealthy. Your parents are your closest relatives. If they support you when they are young, you have an obligation to support them until they are old. No matter where you live, your parents will receive their filial piety when they are old.

If you are old, don't feel inferior, be old and have a sense of security. If you can take care of yourself, do it yourself, do more exercise, keep fit, ensure that you are not sick and in good health, live for a few more years, help your children, and then go to your side to support the elderly when the children are in good health.

Why are young people unwilling to pull the old man to their side? There are mainly the following factors:

First, people are old, eating habits, the elderly like soft food, willing to drink porridge, young people like big fish and big meat, language communication can not be consistent with young people, there is a generation gap. Second, hobbies cannot be integrated with youth. Sometimes old people like watching TV programs that children don't like. Third, life and daily life, the elderly get up early and go to bed early every day, children like to sleep late and get up late, and their living habits are the opposite. The above factors are realistic, but it is the obligation of the younger generation to respect the elderly. You can't abandon your parents just because they are old. What you do is to set an example for your next generation. Your tomorrow is your parents' today.

In any case, when parents are old, they should fulfill their responsibilities and obligations of providing for the aged. If they don't have the time and conditions, they should hire a housekeeper to serve the elderly. There are really no conditions, and you can't put the elderly aside to support the elderly. Growing up in today's era, they are their parents and give you life. Don't forget, only the intersection with their parents can make you what you are today. It is natural to be filial to the elderly and treat their own elderly well, which is a kind of feedback to their parents' upbringing.

The phenomenon of "I don't know what it is" is mainly related to the cultivation and education of children by families.

At present, some children are mostly brought up in a pampered environment.

Some parents put the cultivation of children's growth in the first place, ignoring their own existence value, making some children feel that only themselves are the most important.

Everything is self-centered and self-interested. Only consider your own needs and never test your parents' emotional state.

Some children don't even have emotional intelligence.

In order to keep their children from losing at the starting line, parents ask their children to learn cultural knowledge from an early age. Focus on strengthening IQ training, lack of family values, and lack of social morality and shame.

Parents did not cultivate their children's filial piety from an early age and did not guide and restrain their children's filial piety behavior.

When children grow up, they don't know the meaning of filial piety. What is filial piety?

What they did was completely divorced from the expectations of society and parents.

Accompanied by it, there are cultural levels, concepts, values and outlook on life.

Their emotions cannot and will not resonate with their parents' emotions. So most children don't want to take the old man with them to be filial?

In fact, most people understand. There is a generation gap between ages. The understanding of the problem is different. Old people have a low level of education and a serious paternalistic style. They just talk and train people all day. Young people are under great pressure at work, and it is always restless to go home. This old man is always nagging, which is wrong. As long as young people talk back, there will be no good life these days.

It is easy for the old man to talk about his children. Who can tolerate nagging or scolding his daughter-in-law or uncle for a long time? The young couple must often quarrel. For the sake of family harmony, children are unwilling to take the elderly with them to perform filial piety, which is the main reason.

Therefore, if you can give in, you should consider more for your children, share more difficulties for them, and be a kind and reasonable old man. I'm sure your child won't be like that.

My children are very filial. They always want to change houses and live together. If the elderly are too old to live together or live far away, it is inconvenient to take care of them.

Therefore, the elderly should find reasons from themselves. You have done well, and your children will do better than you.

It's hard to say, some are due to work problems, some are really afraid of trouble, and some are the most common mother-in-law relationship. This is a long story.

This problem didn't really exist 70 years ago. First of all, they all live under one roof or on the roof. The idea at that time was that children had to support the elderly, so how could they live in reverse?

It's very different now. Great changes have taken place in the environment, habits, opinions and hobbies. If someone does something abnormal, it will gradually become normal.

The old man is also very wronged! A nest of gold and silver is not as good as my kennel! You don't want to ask me if I want to, old neighbor and old partner. Tell me about Zhang San, Li Si and Wang. How comfortable and happy are parents? Not lonely, not lonely!

And you young people, pay attention to this and that, but it doesn't work, it doesn't work, it's too humbled and embarrassing! It's not as good as my parents living alone …

This is not a generation gap, but a habit and a cognitive difference. Times are different, we must care about it and sigh! Also need to sigh: people's hearts are not ancient!