The mother-in-law asked her wife to wash the dishes.

Jing yuan, a reader from Zhejiang, came to consult and told me about the contradiction in her family. She said in a proud tone: "The fundamental problem of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is bullying. You have to tell your mother-in-law that you are not easy to bully, and she will be polite to you. "

Jing yuan's hometown is in Shaanxi, and she married in Zhejiang. She went to Zhejiang to go to college and met her husband when she was working in her senior year.

Jing yuan has been very independent since childhood. Besides her, she has a younger brother at home. Her family can't take care of her daughter, so she adopts stocking education. Her parents don't criticize her and don't want it. They just give her enough money and just don't want to worry about it.

Therefore, since she went to school, jing yuan has been well fed and clothed. She chose to live on campus in high school and went home for a few days in winter and summer vacations. She knew early on that she was not the favorite child in her family, and she wanted to open a lot and didn't force her parents' love.

"It's good to have money. When I was in high school, everyone else ate in the canteen. I can eat out every meal. I never lack money to buy books and play games. People should learn to be content. " Jing yuan consoled himself.

Speaking of which, people really need to know how to be content. According to readers who came to consult in the past, there are many cases where parents prefer sons to daughters, not to mention some parents shamelessly ask their daughters to be "helpers" when their children grow up.

Comparatively speaking, jing yuan is not short of money, but it lacks some care, which is harmless.

It is because of jing yuan's independence that she believes that no one owes anyone in this world, and whoever should serve should say so.

"Parents gave birth to me to raise me, for granted. I will take care of them when they are old, but my in-laws are different. "

When jing yuan talked about the first time she went to see her in-laws, she couldn't stop getting angry.

The first time I went home with my boyfriend, my mother-in-law looked her up and down and secretly asked about her family conditions.

When she was sure that the family was not short of money and would not raise a younger brother, she smiled and said, "Let's settle down when the two families meet. Let's live together and consider the house after two years with children. "

When jing yuan first met her mother-in-law, she was not pleasing to the eye. She thought she would be unhappy in the future. When she came back, she wanted to break up. However, after the boyfriend left and right, the breakup naturally failed.

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Before getting married, jing yuan's parents gave her nearly 200,000 pocket money. Tell her that the most important thing after marriage is not to suffer. If she has no money, she will ask for it from home. As long as she has money, she has confidence.

At that moment, she suddenly realized that her parents treated her and her brother equally, and her brother didn't have much pocket money until now. She was very happy because she had never been wronged since she was a child and never lacked money.

When the new wife comes to the door, everything is strange.

For a woman, most of her married life is not her own, because the situation forces her to adapt to the new environment as soon as possible.

The husband's family is his own home, but for the daughter-in-law, it is a strange place, and everything must be adapted.

Before getting married, my mother told jing yuan that living in her husband's house should be the same as living in her own house. Mother-in-law is prejudiced against her if she doesn't treat her as a daughter. Don't be silly. Do everything.

Work, if you want to do it, if you don't want to do it, don't do it. There is no need to do it under the eyes of others.

In this way, jing yuan's mother is quite transparent.

Of course, such a "confession" also laid a hidden danger in jing yuan's mind.

The first day I stayed at my in-laws' house, my mother-in-law asked her to help wash the dishes. Jing yuan smiled and said, "Mom, I used to eat takeout, and I was not very good at washing."

My mother-in-law didn't care: "Just do more. If you don't do it, you will never. "

Seeing this, the husband hurried out to make an enclosure: "I'll do it." I will do it. I don't need these bowls. I'm just moving. "

But the next morning, her mother-in-law told jing yuan to get up and wash clothes, and taught her which clothes to wash separately and which clothes to rub by hand.

Jing yuan was puzzled: "Mom, I have seven days' wedding leave. Are you going to let me rest every day? "

"I have to wait on you at my age? Serve me for you! " Said the mother-in-law threw away her clothes and turned back to the house.

On the third day, the men at home went out to buy food, leaving only jing yuan and her mother-in-law at home.

Mother-in-law looked at the chopsticks still on the table after breakfast in the morning, knocked on the table and said to Jingyuan, "Daughter-in-law, it's time to learn to brush the dishes!"

Jing yuan retorted with a smile: "Mom, you also know that I am a daughter-in-law, not a nanny!"

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Later, jing yuan saw that her mother-in-law didn't answer at the moment, so she asked her a few questions:

"Mom, before I get married, you don't want to cook and wash dishes. Why do I have to take over these jobs when I come? Accordingly, does my family's economic rights belong to me?

Then, you said let me be filial to you, which is true, but your son should be in front of me. I'm not yours, and I'm not yours. Who are you to ask me to be more filial than your son?

Moreover, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not mother and daughter, so there is no need for hard integration. Just fooling around on the surface. On the surface, the family broke up. It depends on whether you accept me or not. You want this family to stay together. "

After asking three questions, my mother-in-law seems to have been unresponsive, sitting on the sofa and shaking her head.

Jing yuan said: "I have been thinking about this question for several days, and now I have finally said it."

After a while, my husband came back, and my mother-in-law was even more difficult to do. Without saying a few words, she had to quietly clean up the dishes until the evening.

After listening to jing yuan's story, I think that although she is a little impatient, it is not unreasonable.

Mother-in-law makes things difficult for her daughter-in-law, because her daughter-in-law doesn't get any favor from her mother-in-law, so she can live in peace. Naturally, it is necessary for both parties to pay, rather than blindly asking one of them to serve and make concessions.

Sometimes, women really can't be bullied, and some of their temper and principles can at least make themselves happy.

Jing yuan explained: "I don't do nothing, but don't tell me what to do, let alone take my daughter-in-law for granted."

In fact, this is how people get along with each other. Calm suggestions and communication will not attract anger, but bossing around and showing off will make people bored.

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