Why is it that living separately between daughter-in-law and in-laws can reduce many contradictions? Is it easy to have conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law since ancient times?

Sometimes, distance can really produce beauty. Because the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is mostly a trivial matter in life.

Take my family as an example. To outsiders, my wife is an easy-going person. She is considerate and diligent.

Outsiders commented on my mother, who is able to practice both inside and outside, is reasonable, open-minded and knows how to put herself in others' shoes. In my opinion, mother is willing to pay for her children, very dedicated, and a typical wife and mother.

So, there will be no contradiction between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, right?

No! All wet!

Now living together, although not out of place, but still friction, I need to constantly mediate and reconcile.

My mother is quick-tempered and does everything quickly, while my wife is slow-tempered. My mother doesn't like going out to eat, thinking it is expensive and unhealthy, while my wife wants to go out to eat every once in a while; When traveling, my mother likes to get up early, while my wife likes to wake up naturally and relax. My wife thinks that we should also use public chopsticks for dinner at home, and my mother thinks that we should not be so particular at home.

Some people will say that my mother and I have a lot of disagreements. Why are there not so many contradictions? Because the mother-in-law is not a mother and the daughter-in-law is not a prostitute.

Your mother doesn't like you, so start talking. When your mother upset you, you talked back. No one will hold a grudge after that.

Mother-in-law doesn't like you, and she doesn't say nothing. This is her inner struggle. Daughter-in-law and mother-in-law have contradictions and can't say it in person. After all, she doesn't kiss. She thinks it is inappropriate to talk too much, but she is also afraid that the other party will hate herself.

After a long time, the accumulated grievances are getting deeper and deeper, either erupting in silence or being wronged to death in silence. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will become more and more serious.

In fact, this problem is not unbreakable, the key lies in men.

In our family, if my mother has any complaints about her wife, she will nag me. I will accept all orders and pretend to be United by the way. Needless to say, mom, when she comes back, watch what I do to her! ""Oh, come on, you won't! The couple live, have something to say, don't be awkward, let me worry! "

If my wife has any questions about my mother, she will talk to me every night, and she will get my certification and understanding every time, and then I will be filled with indignation. "No, I have to ask my mother tomorrow!" What's the matter? How many times have I told you! ""no, no, no! I'm just saying, it's actually no big deal. Take it easy! "

Now, don't say there is no contradiction between them, but everything is under my control ~

I'm not asking you to copy my method. I want you to understand my strategic thinking. You are the buffer zone and lubricant between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Of course, living separately is the best way at present. The two do not interfere with each other and do not affect each other. Distance produces beauty, so you will never get tired of looking at each other.