How to communicate with your daughter?

You must be patient and be able to think about problems from your daughter's perspective. Understand the following skills to better communicate with your daughter:

1. Listen with kindness

Do you communicate sincerely, and are you good at considering your child’s perspective and expressing effectively? It not only includes understanding the child's situation and state of mind, but also protecting the child's self-esteem, strengthening the child's self-confidence, and then asking the child to express his true feelings.

During listening, both parties should look at each other, listen to each other, and look attentive. Don't look around, don't make unnecessary little moves, don't treat the child carelessly, don't interrupt the child while they are talking, and don't make harsh comments. These are not good listening behaviors.

A true communicator is a person who loves to listen. Being good at listening is the most basic quality that parents have for their children. If you can understand the meaning of your child's words when you listen to them, understand them from heart, and feel your child's thoughts and respond to them, it means that you have mastered the key to listening, and your communication with your child will be more effective.

2. Good emotions

As a parent, you should try your best to avoid using too strong words in communication. Don't communicate when you are angry. Some parents are unable to control themselves because of their angry emotions. They are prone to saying a lot of things that hurt their children's hearts. When parents are stuck in bad emotions, they cannot educate their children. "Communication" at this time often results in parents venting their emotions, but putting a mental burden on their children.

If you often say: "You make me sad"; "You break my heart"; "You drive me crazy". This can easily make the child feel blamed and resent it, and may even cause the child to retort: ??"You are the one who wants to be angry", or "It's not my business to be upset". If you are unable to take responsibility for your own emotional reactions, don't blame your children at this time, because your state at this time is not suitable for good communication.

Parents’ language always expresses their emotions and mentality. Although young children are not as capable as adults in understanding language, they are very sensitive to emotions. Even a swaddled baby cannot understand what the mother is saying, but the baby can understand whether the mother is full of patient care or impatient boredom when speaking.

3. Speak skillfully

The content of what you say is important, but if you say the same content in different ways, you will have completely different effects. Even adults will feel this way, not to mention young children, who have no ability to analyze the good intentions of their parents' words. If parents pay more attention to their language methods, the effect of education may be very different. If you want to see the result of something, you have to express the result you want to the other party.

For example, you want your children to help you wash the dishes. If you say, "Go and wash the dishes for me," this kind of commanding language always makes people feel uncomfortable and resistant. The same meaning is expressed in a clever way: "I would be happy if someone helped me wash the dishes." It feels completely different.

So, if you directly ask someone to do something, you will usually be rejected. But if you clearly state the results you want, the other person will know how to do it and will be willing to do it. This method is not only suitable for parent-child communication, but also for good expression between couples.