What will the old man look like when he grows up with his big children?

It is a double-edged sword for the elderly to take care of their children.

As an experienced person, the elderly have rich life experience and mature parenting experience, and they have enough time to retire at home, so they can be more patient with their children and give them full love.

In addition, modern young parents are busy at work, and parents can help take care of their children, which can relieve a lot of stress for their children, both physically and psychologically.

Moreover, for the elderly who retire at home, it is the greatest happiness for their children and grandchildren to live in peace around their knees.

So on the whole, it seems to be a beautiful thing to kill three birds with one stone.

However, from a realistic point of view, the living environment of the old people is very different from the present, so their values, lifestyles and educational methods may be out of touch with the present society and cannot perfectly adapt to the modern education system, which may have a negative impact on the growth of children.

So? Intergenerational education? This contemporary universal education method has always been controversial in the circle of parents.

What will happen to old people with big children?

1, simple love is full of sunshine.

The movie "Love? On the way home, the young mother sent her son to the countryside to be taken care of by her dumb grandmother because of her work.

When they first arrived in the countryside, the children didn't like the environment and kept venting their emotions. They take grandma's hair clips to the grocery store to change things. They want to eat fried chicken and kick grandma's chicken soup. Every day, they complain endlessly.

But grandma didn't preach, didn't whip the child, and didn't complain to the mother. Instead, I drew a circle on my chest to apologize.

Finally, grandma's simple love warmed the children who were full of negative energy and began to admit their mistakes, help with housework and care about grandma's health.

In fact, the love of the next generation, although a bit clumsy but simple, is essentially for the good of children, and most of their hearts are pure. After understanding the good intentions of elders, their hearts can often be filled with sunshine and grow up in the sun.

2. Spoiled love lacks self-care ability.

Old people dote on their children, but many people don't grasp the degree, fall into unprincipled accommodation and doting, do everything for their children's diet and daily life, indulge bad behavior and meet their physical needs indefinitely.

This will easily lead children to develop a self-centered psychology, form a selfish and arrogant bad character, and eventually lack the ability to take care of themselves and live independently from their families.

3. Stable love inhibits children's growth.

Many old people's ideas can't keep up with the times, and they will educate their children in the old way. Children's imaginative and creative behaviors are often seriously mischievous and destructive, so restricting their behaviors inhibits children's balanced and all-round development, which is not conducive to the development of character and ability.

And this practical problem is likely to lead the younger generation of parents to blame the elderly for the crime. In the end, the old man who worked hard with the baby became thankless and distressing.

4. Lack of love and alienation of parents

Behind the intergenerational education is actually the absence of parents, making parents and children the most familiar strangers.

I have a husband's work unit a little far from home. In order to facilitate my work, I rented a room in the company and went home to see the children every weekend.

However, I found that children seem to have no expectation and joy for the arrival of their parents. When he took the initiative to play with the children, the children said coldly? Don't move? .

When he helped the children with vegetables, he said politely: Thanks, mom. But in a flash, I smiled at grandma's food. Their intimacy made them feel the distance between their children and themselves.

The first of these situations is satisfactory, but there may be many endings in real life, which also reflects the problems existing in intergenerational education.

First, the elderly can't master the scale well, and it is easy to spoil each other or improper educational methods, which will affect the growth of children;

Second, the elderly are too close to their children, and the children are alienated from their parents.

For many children with intergenerational education, parents are not a part of their lives, which leads them to psychologically refuse to communicate with their parents, so that they gradually alienate their parents when they grow up, which looks very pitiful.

What should parents do to educate generations of parents?

Although the troops in real life? Intergenerational education? It has become the normal state of society, but it is also important for parents to have a sense of existence in it, especially for children to realize this. Therefore, parents must do the following.

1, praise children's growth in time, affirm every progress they have made, and enjoy the joy of success with them.

2. When children fail and are frustrated, they should be encouraged in time, and the difficulties faced by children in learning and making friends should be given timely guidance to enhance their self-confidence.

3. Participate in every important node in the process of children's growth, from parents' meeting to adult ceremony and graduation ceremony, so that important moments can leave each other behind.