What does your imagined home look like?

"Have you ever thought about what a home would look like?"

"I have."

When I was a kid, I always wanted to run away from home, so that I could go crazy like a tomboy without my parents. I had to wait until I ran out of energy and it was getting late before I remembered that I should go home.

The concept of home was very simple in my young mind. There would always be meals cooked by my mother.

When I went to school and returned home, my parents were still busy in the fields and didn't come back. I opened the door and walked in, feeling empty.

I stood on the mound in front of our house at the top of my lungs and shouted loudly to the wheat field: "Mom, Mom, Mom..."

What is home? A place neither big nor small. There are my parents, brothers and sisters who I care about the most. Every night, my mother is busy in the kitchen, burning firewood and cooking vegetables. My sister and I came back from school and put our schoolbags on the table: "Mom, I'm starving. When are you going to eat?" My mother was smiling and still busy. While waiting for the meal, my sister and I started to argue again. The voice was loud enough, and my mother roared, and we both became quiet. And when the hot meal is ready, a family of six eats around the dining table, whispering, which is a scene that I can't get rid of in my dreams many times.

What is home? That place with parents, a place full of grievances that can be expressed. It will let you take off all the burdens and just think about talking to the people closest to you.

When I grew up, I imagined countless times what my future home would look like:

A not very big house with two bedrooms and two living rooms, very cozy. Everything in the house was carefully selected by my husband and me. In the winter sunshine, I was basking in the sun, writing articles and reading books, with children playing beside me. When night fell, I started working in the kitchen and cooked three or four dishes, which were steaming hot. I sat on the sofa with my baby in my arms, waiting for the man who still came home late. The little guy was in my arms and said in a sweet voice, "Mom, when will daddy come back?" When he heard the key "click", the husband walked in with his briefcase and said with a smile on his face, "I I’m back and it’s time to eat.” The little guy jumped up and hugged the husband who had not yet put down his bag. I watched from the sidelines and the husband hugged the little guy happily. When we put the little guy down, we both looked at each other and smiled.

I think this is probably home. A girl grows up to be a wife and a mother, which is the most enjoyable state.

I once took it for granted that the so-called home should have a house. And when I fell in love and lived with my husband, I realized that it doesn’t matter whether we have a house or not. The key is whether there is someone in the house who cares about each other the most.

When you meet someone with a gray head, choose a city to live in forever. When a long-distance relationship comes to a successful conclusion, one party comes to a strange city for the other party. In fact, those of us who have had this experience know that in this city, apart from that person, we have nothing.

Girls are always so petty. Whenever they quarrel with that person, the first thing they think of is to leave, leave that small house. Because the people I care about the most are starting to quarrel, and there is nothing left to miss in a strange city.

In a strange city, the key to whether you belong and feel like home is whether there is someone you care about.

After getting married, we still lived in a rental house of less than 45 square meters. During the day, I was rushing through manuscripts, scrolling through Weibo until my eyes felt dry, and I spent a whole day alone at home, not wanting to disturb the long-lost peace. And when my husband came home, I was "chirping" like a little bird. The usually resolute and resolute woman who "goes to the hall and goes to the kitchen" suddenly became crazy and crazy.

"Other people will never imagine that you look like a cat at home."

"No matter what you think, I just feel comfortable. People have to care about you when they are alive." My own people are happy.”

When my husband and I were together, I was like a funny lunatic, a little crazy, a little mean, and a little bit stupid.

If there is a corner, there is such a person, who can make you drunk, bury your head and cry; can make you show your madness unscrupulously, and make you laugh while you come and go; you are. She was serious and looked like a crazy woman in front of him. That is probably the person you are looking for and your home.

When I was in college, the girls in the dormitory discussed the most about their boyfriends and their future homes.

"You have to have a house. What's a home without a house?" said Minmin, who was sleeping on the upper bunk.

"What's the use of just having a house? A big house is not just for you. The men who are out there won't come back." Xiaojuan, who was on the lower bunk, also started making noise.

"Let me tell you, this family must have a house, a person, and a child." Yinzi, who had always been silent, also started talking.

"As long as you are greedy, you will never get everything you want in this life."

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Such a chat often fails In the end, everyone fell into sleep, as if they could find a home in their dreams.

In the mainstream concept of most people in China, a house is a home, which leads to the concept of "you must have a house to get married." You are about to get married, and you don’t have a house. How can you get married? You still want to have a family.

In fact, it is not the case. The house is just an empty shell, a place that can shelter from wind and rain. And if there is no one around, there is no fun in living in an empty house.

There are many girls around me who did not have a house before they got married, and not everyone is so materialistic. The reason why two people are together is more because of the friendship between each other. form a small family.

The days in the rental house were not long. After three or five years, the couple finally saved enough money and bought a house of medium or small size.

In fact, it doesn’t matter whether you have a house or not. The key is whether the person you live with has the same life goals, the same three views, and the same dream of building a home.

Everyone longs to go home when the lights are on and night falls. No one really likes socializing, having fun, and being a libertine outside?

In all kinds of bloody plots in TV series, I always like to talk about the man who can't go home and the woman who is waiting for him to come home. It seems that men become bad when they have money, become wild-minded, become carefree, and even lose touch with the family.

Have you ever thought about another aspect, why what is supposed to be a safe haven has become a "fleeing". You would rather sleep outside drunk on the street than return to the home that is supposed to be warm.

Has your home changed? It is no longer the place that makes you smile. The relationship between the two people also became tense. They didn't know what to say, and it was more of a quarrel.

How could a place filled with countless quarrels be the home that I had imagined countless times?

I am often a woman waiting for her husband to come home. When I was naive in the past, I always liked to call him constantly to ask when he would come back? And many times, Mr. did not answer the phone. I became completely distracted at home, wiped away tears in despair, and cursed countless times in my heart, "Bad guy, I made you not go home."

After I mature, I will no longer wait for him to come home as hard as before. In fact, I figured it out. No man likes to socialize every day. Everyone gets tired and wants to go home and sleep peacefully. I just need to make sure he's safe, what time he'll be back, and whether he'll be working overtime tonight or just having fun. If he is working overtime, I will heat up a meal when he is about to come home and wait for him to come back to eat; if it is a social gathering, I will pour him a glass of water to moisten his throat.

I would nonchalantly ask him who he was having dinner with tonight, whether he was full and what he wanted to eat. I won't deliberately look at his phone. Occasionally, the two of us will exchange information, just because my phone is out of battery.

My husband once asked me why you have changed.

"It's not that I have changed, but that I understand you men better." I have so many things to be busy with every day, so how can I have any time to devote to you.

As long as this home is as you like it and is so comfortable, who doesn’t love going home?

After marriage, an unsmart woman will become a resentful woman and turn her home into a place full of negative energy; but a smart woman will know how to manage and turn her home into a place full of "happiness" place.

Before getting married, a forty-year-old reader once warned me like an old lady: "Little girl, when you get married, you will know how bad men are. There is nothing good about this man. The strongest thing is you and your house.”

At that time, I sent him a “haha” expression. I felt very embarrassed and didn't know how to comfort her.

Many people have never thought about a question. There are so many people in the world who are disappointed with marriage. Why do they choose to get married again and again? Even if many people get divorced, they will still end up divorced. Choose to remarry; some people even marry three times, still hoping to find someone to accompany them until they grow old.

After all, people are afraid of being alone, and they are even more afraid of not having a home in this world, and not having anyone who knows how to feel warm and cold.

Many people’s families have broken up due to infidelity, conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, or various reasons. In addition to the person being a real scumbag, it is more likely that there is a problem with the family management.

If there is no warmth in the home itself, and the two people will have a huge quarrel as soon as they come home, no one will want to stay in that cage.

If that home is warm and some people don't realize it, it can only be said to be "greedy". People are immature and do not deserve happiness.

"Have you ever thought about what a home should be like?"

"I have."

I will try my best to live a warm life. , it is enough to make that home full of laughter, plain, happy and simple.

And when the lanterns first came on and you came back, I walked over and hugged you, as if I was hugging the whole world.

A thoughtful and insightful housewife. WeChat public account: Dawn ID: yibao8690