Summer vacation is so tiring, it is better to put down your children and yourself.

A few years ago, some landmark events happened during the summer vacation, such as "Princess Zhu Huan" and "Legend of the New White Snake". In the past two years, landmark events have taken place in the circle of friends. In addition to the trend of travel photos, a number of articles have reappeared, such as "A summer vacation with a monthly salary of 30,000 can't afford to raise a child".

When you open these articles, you will be frightened by the bills above. In short, travel, day care, swimming lessons, Olympic math lessons, English lessons, writing lessons, piano lessons, etc. It will definitely exceed the monthly salary. After reading them, people will always be flustered. Many people are probably thinking: with a monthly salary of 30 thousand, can I have children without tens of thousands?

In the past, I always joked with others that people with a monthly salary of 10,000 to 20,000 yuan, occasionally adding a little salary and giving a little bonus, are all floating clouds in front of housing prices. But after reading these articles, I suddenly feel that these are just clouds in front of housing prices and education.

Although everyone will say that you can't go to school if you can't afford it. There are too many requirements for math, English and going to public schools. However, when your child is going to school, he can't wait to sign up for all the training classes. It is best to let children become omnipotent superman after a summer vacation. These somewhat reveal the anxiety of parents. They are always afraid that other children will learn and their children will know nothing. They are always worried that their future life will be a mess because they have not learned this knowledge.

This anxiety constantly urges us to send our children to training classes with training fees that we can't afford. This kind of mood is very similar to most people's experience of buying a house: the original budget was 1.5 million, so we asked the intermediary to introduce the house of 1.5 million, and the intermediary looked at several houses of 150- 1.8 million, and calculated it himself, 65,438.

The difference is that the bottom line of buying a house is often passive, and the bottom line of the training class is to find it yourself.

Sending children to training classes, whether you like it or not, always comforts yourself silently. After this summer vacation, my children can make great progress in English and swimming again.

Once I went to a training class to find out the situation. When I met a child who was very sleepy, I asked him if he didn't sleep well. As a result, the child was very excited and said:

"I have classes every day this summer vacation, including English classes on Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Saturday, Olympics on Monday, Wednesday and Thursday, Chinese classes on Tuesday and Wednesday, Go on Monday, Wednesday and Thursday, and swimming on Tuesday and Saturday."

Well, I have classes every day from Monday to Sunday, and I feel so hard myself.

As a result, the child added that there are two or three days of classes every week until 9: 30 in the evening, and I have to get up early to go to other classes the next morning, so I often want to sleep during class.

I said sympathetically, "You have worked hard, and you are more tired than we go to work." The child said it was nothing, and there was a classmate in his class who had one more door than him.

An idea flashed through my mind: how much hatred do your parents have with you? Yes, these parents work five days a week, nine to six, and they are too tired to have a rest on Saturday and Sunday. Why do they have to force their children to become superman and cram for seven days a week?

When I came out, I saw many parents waiting for their children to finish class in the hall. Two or three of them are reading books with books in their hands, some are walking back and forth, and most of them are playing games or playing with friends with their mobile phones. Seeing this scene, I really want to ask, if this lifestyle is the same at home, even if children are constantly on their way to various training courses, will they really win at the starting line and will they be superior in the future?

Perhaps many parents are in this state, while forcing their children to keep running on the way to cram school, while worrying that their children can't afford training fees. Everyone wants to get rid of their inner anxiety, and maybe they will not be anxious if they think about spending money silently. But seeing a tired child with an empty pocket, why can't you let go of the child and yourself?

I can understand parents' feelings, and I always hope that children will have more life skills in the future, so that they can live a better life in the future and walk less on their own. This is related to our ancestral motto "Don't be carried away by skills".

But why does he have to become an expert in all fields at a very young age? Are these skills really impossible to learn in the decades after graduation from school?

My friend is a teacher in an English training institution. A few days ago, she talked about children's study. She told me that her son was admitted to the top five junior high schools in Shanghai this year, saying that the requirements of the school are very high now. There are literacy tests in Chinese, mathematics tests, and English tests in vocabulary, listening and speaking. I know very well how difficult it is to get close to this kind of school, so I asked the child if she was in the cram school of her institution. She said no, she never attended cram school, so she often contacted her son at home and read English books with her children, so she didn't attend cram school and did well in the exam.

After listening to this, I feel a lot. Now the children's parents are both born in the 1980s and 1990s, and everyone's academic qualifications are basically college graduates. There should be no problem in tutoring primary school students, but why do you have to send your children to one-to-many training institutions to play games outside the door, and you don't want to spend time with your children?

There is no denying that there are indeed some children who are very talented in learning and always need new knowledge to fill themselves. Parents should give these children the greatest chance to help them, but we also have to admit that most of us are ordinary people. Why can't we provide a little loose and positive guidance on the road of children's growth, so that they can study happily within their own ability, such as signing up for one or two training classes at a time.

After all, it is easy for us to grow up when we are young. Now why should we put our children through this torture? Is it really necessary to say, "The more we lack, the more we want to show off?"

After all, this society definitely needs a professional, and the end result of all-rounder is that most people become mediocre people. Is our goal to cultivate children into "all-purpose oil"?