Rural mother-in-law takes care of her children at home, and when she comes back from a week's business trip, she sees that her mother-in-law can't take care of her children at all. What should I do?

My husband and I were introduced by colleagues. He is six years older than me. In my heart, my husband is the kind of person who is very enthusiastic about his work. If his family hadn't urged him to get married, we wouldn't be together, but fortunately my husband is very nice. After we got married, he was also very kind to me, but he was often busy with work and had little time to accompany me at home. He said he would be a husband.

My husband's monthly salary is about 16 thousand, and mine is 8 thousand. Fortunately, my husband has bought a house and a car in the city, so our life is still ok. A year after we got married, I gave birth to a son for my husband. I also took my mother to take care of it at home for a while. After the maternity leave, I immediately returned to work, and my mother has been taking care of the children. After all, the competition in the workplace is so fierce that I dare not slack off.

In recent years, my husband has been very busy at work and has no time to take care of me and my children. My husband and I really seldom sit together and chat, and my husband often goes on business trips abroad. After all, there is only room for promotion if you travel abroad on business. This time my husband will go abroad on business as usual. He said that after this business trip, he could get a promotion and then he wouldn't be so busy. I happen to be away for a week, but my mother is also anxious to go back to her hometown. Because my father is not feeling well, I have to go home to take care of her. I have no choice but to pick up my mother-in-law who has been in the country and ask her to help take care of the children for a week.

My mother-in-law in the country is also a freak. Obviously, our family conditions are better, but she just likes living in the country and living with her brother-in-law. It's okay, her mother-in-law's house is not far from downtown, so I'll take her there to talk about it. After all, she is her mother-in-law and has no home to take care of. After her mother-in-law came home, she took good care of her baby. My mother-in-law has been asking me to pack my things and go back early. Seeing that she tried her best, I was relieved to go on a business trip and called her every day to ask about the child.

When I came back from a business trip for a week, I found my mother-in-law was not at home, the living room and kitchen were in a mess, and the wardrobe was turned upside down. I thought there were thieves at home. I called my mother-in-law, and she said that she had brought her children back to her hometown and that she was not used to city life. As soon as I heard this, I drove to her mother-in-law's house. When I walked into the house, I saw my children and children sitting in my brother-in-law's house. The baby is wearing a pair of cotton trousers with open crotch, and his two little faces are red with cold. Besides, the clothes worn by my brother-in-law's son are also my baby's. I was angry at that time and looked around for my mother-in-law. When I walked into their kitchen, I found that my pot was also in my mother-in-law's house. When I met my mother-in-law, she was still wearing the down jacket I bought for 2,000 yuan, and there were a lot of oil stains on her clothes. I was really angry. I really didn't expect my mother-in-law's behavior to be so rude and bad. I picked up the pot in the kitchen and smashed it on the ground, taking off her down jacket. What is even more ridiculous is that my mother-in-law also said that I was crazy and that I wore one of my clothes in winter. As for losing my temper, I almost fainted and went home with my child in my arms. I spent two or three hours cleaning up.

Later, my husband and I also talked about it. My husband not only refused to speak for me, but also said that I had too little respect for his mother. He said it was wrong for me to lose my temper with his mother. As a daughter-in-law, I shouldn't do this. I really think it's easy for my husband to stand up and talk, and it's good for my mother to take care of the children at home. Why did his mother come? Everything is at sixes and sevens, and children are dressed in open-backed pants in winter. Am I still wrong?