How to solve the difficult mistress? Tips for dealing with mistresses

San Xiao has been the cancer of a happy family since ancient times. Every wife in the first office hates this kind of crowd, so how to deal with the difficult mistress under such circumstances? What's the trick to deal with mistress?

How to solve the difficult mistress

For women, it is a headache for their husbands to cheat. However, if she wants to move on with her life, she should not play "cry, make trouble and hang herself" with her husband. This can only drive away her husband, but she should fight San Xiao flexibly and strategically and shoot San Xiao on the beach.

However, different types of mistresses should adopt different strategies. Now I will tell my female friends how to overcome those difficult mistresses.

Female subordinates

This kind of underground romance in the office is the most common. It can be said that this is a kind of "love" that lasts for a long time. It is difficult for them to know their husbands better than their wives, know that their bosses and supervisors are married, and are willing to give up their birthright. It is their "selfless dedication" that makes derailed men feel guilty and even more reluctant to abandon them.

Countermeasures: Once you find that your husband has an unusual relationship with a female subordinate, you should keep it in mind and never act rashly until you enter the company. Instead, it is necessary to cleverly and repeatedly find excuses to "be a guest" at the husband's company, show off the love and family happiness of the husband and wife in his company, send your husband an IDA in front of her, and vaguely say, "I will wait for you at night." At the same time, create conditions to strike up a conversation with female subordinates, become friends quickly, and then find opportunities to "beat about the bush" and "make a diversion" to fight with the wisdom of female subordinates, so that she will be impressed by your wisdom and generosity, and will also shrink back because she is too familiar with each other.

Divorced woman

If Xiao San is a divorced woman, she is probably holding revenge and loneliness. Their difficulty is that they don't care about the third place and are satisfied with revenge ... It can be said that they have put everything down except their children.

Countermeasures: Although divorced women put down their face, they can't let go of their children. So, you can make a fuss about children. For example, you can ask your child to write a letter or negotiate with her directly to influence her with your child; Another example is to find the school where her children attend, and then negotiate with her directly and tell her clearly that if she doesn't give up, she will tell her that she is a mistress and even spread around her children. This is a bit harsh, but we must pay attention to the discretion and minimize the harm to children.

Illiterate women

Such a woman is nothing but a little beauty. They are willing to be mistresses because of money. Their difficulty lies in money and they are particularly greedy. No matter how much compensation you give her, they will feel less, especially the mistresses who have given birth to children.

Countermeasures: If you want to deal with such a mistress who is bent on money, you must not expect to settle it with money. You know, she is a bottomless pit and will never be satisfied. The only way is to be tit for tat and fight evil with evil. There is no need to be afraid. As long as she dares to challenge, you must not be afraid to make public. You should fight, she should fight. You have to be more aggressive than her, and subdue her once and for all from the momentum.

Post-90 s women

Women of this age are often rebellious and self-centered. They stay with married men just for fun, and often violate other people's marriages under the banner of "love". They are rebellious and fearless.

Countermeasure: As a woman, if you have a post-90s mistress in your marriage, don't panic, she doesn't really want to rob your husband. You should first find out the character of this post-90 s sister, and "set" out in detail how they met and went to bed from her husband. You should also win her husband over, fight together, act together, obey her on the surface, and slowly alienate her husband secretly. Get rid of the post-90 s mistress must take it slowly, not too fast and too fierce. After 90, if the mistress is tired and upset, she will naturally think of leaving.

A spoony woman

Such women tend to pay more attention to feelings. They don't want money or fame. This is the most difficult one. A cheating man will lend a helping hand when he is in trouble. This is her most powerful weapon.

Countermeasures: to deal with such a woman, we must prescribe the right medicine. Since she values "love" with your husband more, you should work hard on this word "love". In her eyes, your husband can only be enjoyed by you and her two women, and your husband is not allowed to be a playboy. In this case, you can find a trustworthy girlfriend to "rob" your husband (naturally, your husband can't notice). After your husband hooked up with your girlfriend, he would subtly reveal it to the spoony mistress, and her psychological jealousy would come out. They will also weigh whether their efforts are worth it, thus giving birth to retreat.

Defense of marriage: if you want to see mistress, you must have both offensive and defensive skills.

In the face of cheating men, women have only two ways: one is to fight against mistress, strive for victory and maintain a happy marriage; Second, surrender, take the initiative to give way, and give San Xiao a chance to turn over a new leaf and return to freedom. Usually, most women will choose the first method, but the initiative can not be blind, and it needs to be targeted and highly intelligent to win the battle. If there is no need to "fight" this battle, it is only a matter of time before Xiaosan wins, so it is better to surrender.

The secret of attacking marriage defense

Therefore, how to implement the marriage defense war requires a detailed analysis of its own situation and war situation, and the inviter should follow the following points:

First of all, don't be impulsive, don't make noise, don't cry, and learn to be quiet first to stabilize your husband's heart. The louder the argument, the more the other person will want to leave.

Secondly, feelings are two people's business. Extramarital affairs cannot be the responsibility of only one party. You should reflect on yourself more, dare to take responsibility, and don't put all the faults on your husband's head, so you will feel resentful and he will be at a loss. We should strive to improve ourselves, conquer our husband's heart with tolerance and beauty, and save our feelings.

Finally, make friends with mistress, let her know your charm, and let her back down. Or, show the conjugal love in front of mistress, and let her take advantage of it. However, this method is very difficult, and it is best not to use it for women with weak gas field, otherwise they may be persuaded by mistress.

Self-protection method of marriage defense war

The above-mentioned offensive opinions are only applicable to wives with emotional basis and the purpose of defending marriage, but they cannot be used in some cases. Therefore, we should learn to give up voluntarily and only seek self-protection.

First, women are self-respecting and strong-willed, and cannot forgive their husbands' extramarital affairs. In this case, you can choose to leave decisively, turn around gracefully, leave the good in the past, and get together and part.

Second, my husband and Xiao San have developed true feelings and are completely on Xiao San's side. A changed heart is irreversible. In this case, the wife's efforts are doomed to be in vain. It is better to let him go and give yourself a chance to live.

What is your combat effectiveness index in the face of mistress?

The battlefield of love has no smoke. Even if you have a red certificate, there is another blue book waiting for the opportunity. The person who sent the blue book to your marriage may be a mistress, and this battle started. So, did you win the war or be conquered by your opponent? Do a test to see your "fighting capacity".

Test question: When you take the subway, which of the following seats will you choose?

A. Seats next to peers

B. sit next to the opposite sex.

C. Seats next to middle-aged men

D. a seat next to a kind-hearted gentleman

Answer analysis

A, you are too simple in marriage. San Xiao may become your bosom friend, best friend and partner. Because they are soft-hearted, they are often the object of being kicked out. At that time, you might have thought it had come true! Alas, it's really stupid.

B, you are intoxicated with the fairy-tale perfect marriage. Because of the gap between reality and ideal, you are always dissatisfied with reality. For your other half, your harsh requirements are undoubtedly an opportunity to send feelings to others. But in the end, you will be in a favorable position. Strong combat effectiveness! No hostess can easily conquer your fortress.

C, you feel insecure. If your partner can't give you enough sense of security, I believe you will "say goodbye" to him soon and then look for what you need elsewhere. The combat value of love is as high as 80% or more. If you break up, you will take the lead, and you will definitely dump someone. No one will dump you. At that time, you would throw that guy to Xiao San like garbage, which was quite chic.

D, you like to compare your other half with others. If he can't give you a stable life, you will look down on him. In the battle of love, you are full of confidence in yourself and have a heavy revenge. If you are kicked out, you will definitely find a chance to get back at you. You are definitely not easy to mess with. However, a strong personality will be the main factor of your failure.