As the saying goes, "Married daughter, spilled water", why does the old man say this?

Married daughters, spilled water, can never go back, that is to say, married daughters are like spilled water, which can't be collected once spilled. Later, my daughter was someone else's daughter-in-law, and some places gave her a husband's surname, so even her surname was changed, and it really belonged to someone else's family, let alone her husband's family, and everything in your husband's family would be with you.

I think in this matter, parents can take care of their daughter-in-law's children, but they are unwilling and have no choice. After all, you are the water spilled, the child is someone else's grandson, and so is the husband. Whether they like it or not, the husband's family is their grandson, calling themselves grandparents, and their blood is there. Anyway, they all say that we are too old to take care of.

This is a traditional concept of ignorance, which was originally a good morality. There is a custom of getting married, that is, after the daughter's wedding car leaves, the mother of the bride's family will splash a basin of water behind the car. Originally, it was said that I wished her a happy marriage and never looked back after marriage, but later it was passed around, and the married daughter became like a spilled water, no longer belonging to her own family, but to someone else's family, and her parents could leave it alone. Now many parents do have some secular ideas about their married daughters. Some parents think that women are not allowed to stay, and some parents leave their property to their sons, thinking about their daughters' filial piety. On the contrary, some women think that they can do whatever they want after marriage, regardless of their parents. In any case, the married daughter has her own small family and left her parents for a long time. Their care and love are all in their hearts, and they can't be expressed at all times like at home, so sometimes they feel as if they are not as good as before. No matter whether the married daughter has been splashed with water or not, as a daughter, you should remember the kindness of your parents and don't care about the gains and losses with your parents.