Another strange thing is happening in the countryside, leaving behind women and men. Why?

Now, the left-behind families in rural areas have added a new member-left-behind women and left-behind men. The so-called left-behind men and women mean that the wife goes out to work and the man looks after the children at home. So, why is this happening?

Let's tell a true story first. There is such a left-behind woman and man around me, my classmate's brother. He used to have a good job. It is said that his parents spent a lot of money looking for him, but he was later fired for personal reasons.

Since then, he has looked for several jobs, but after a few days, he quit, either tired or earning less money. In this way, he looks after the children at home every day and no longer goes out to work. The expenses at home are all supported by his wife's salary, or he asks his parents for it. Let children watch TV and play mobile phones every day.

In fact, left-behind women and men have a * * * nature, that is, they are idle, and he doesn't do jobs with less money, and he can't do jobs with more money, so he finally started left-behind women and men at home.

My uncle is a left-behind woman. I used to work as an engineering contractor in Dongguan, earning a lot, but I owed the workers wages. Over time, no workers were willing to work for him. The materials used in the projects he contracted are also not good, and some customers are unwilling to contract him. Business has been difficult in recent years, so he simply went back to his hometown, leaving my aunt to work alone in Dongguan. Now I go fishing at home and go out for a walk by bike every day, sometimes for three or two days. His son and daughter don't care if they go to school at home, and my cousin is skinny and doesn't take him to see a doctor. My grandparents are looking after the children. My grandparents are over seventy, and they have to cook and farm. After a long time, they complained and advised him to help at home. This angered my uncle and drove my grandparents out. It really makes me angry. I'm a junior and married again, so I can't interfere too much, alas! I have never seen such an irresponsible person as my second uncle in my life.

There are many such situations in our village, where the wife is working outside and the man is at home. In fact, this situation is also deeply difficult, not only because the living women at home can't do it.

This is the case with my cousin. At first, both husband and wife worked in Shenzhen. My wife works in a factory to process electronic products, with a monthly salary of about 8,000 yuan. My cousin works as a security guard in a company with a monthly salary of about 5000 yuan. The young couple rented a house, monthly rent 1500 yuan. Basically, my wife's salary is saved, and my cousin's salary is reserved for living expenses. The two-year-old child is taken care of by his parents at home.

However, today's situation is very different. Every time my cousin goes back to Shenzhen for the New Year, it takes a long time to find a job, and it is still unstable. On the contrary, my wife is really easy to find a job, and it is much higher than the salary. This is one of the reasons. The children's wives at home can't control it at all, because they don't listen to their wives at all, but they are afraid of their cousins. Therefore, it is much better to put the child in the hands of my cousin.

For elderly parents, it is inconvenient for the wife to take care of them, and the cousin is always angry because the wife always keeps her parents at home and ignores them. In order to avoid many contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and to take better care of their parents, the couple finally decided that my wife would go out to work and my cousin would stay at home.

Tell the stories of rural people and their lives. Hello, everyone. I'm Laoshan.

Left-behind "women and men" have a new concept. The wife goes out to work, and the husband does housework and takes care of the children at home. Tell me what I know!

Our village has such a partner. In fact, he also worked outside in the early years! After working for five years, I was introduced to a daughter-in-law and got married. The situation at home is also relatively good, so people have been at home with their daughter-in-law since they got married.

Later, I gave birth to a child. At this time, the daughter-in-law felt that she could not keep it at home all the time and let her husband go out to work. Her husband also went to work, but she couldn't stand the pain, changed jobs before and after, and then stayed at home!

Daughter-in-law couldn't stand it anymore, so she went out to work. The salary was not high, but at least it was enough for children. Then a situation was formed in which the daughter-in-law worked and the man took care of the family!

In fact, this situation is also caused by the fact that it is much easier for girls to find jobs than men, and they rarely do coolies. It is also that some boys are spoiled and grown up, can't stand suffering, and are doomed to be eliminated by society!

But I hate such people! Men have to support their families, the pillar of a family, not just thinking about themselves, but taking on that responsibility! I may not earn much, but at least I can have a clear conscience if I work hard. The right family and children are the real men!

This situation does exist, for example, in a small city near us, there are many leather processing points. Leather clothing is suitable for women. This kind of work is piecework. As we all know, women are very suitable for sewing. Because they are clever and careful.

My niece's house, that's it. Last year, from July to December in the lunar calendar, my niece earned 50,000 yuan by making fur coats. They work for more than ten hours every day, which is very hard. However, this kind of work is only a long time, but the labor intensity is not very great, which is very suitable for women to do.

Niece and son-in-law bring their children to farm at home. My niece works during the day and goes home at night. Their children are in their teens, and their niece and son-in-law use their children's school time to finish their work in the fields. If my niece is asked to do this work at home, she can't do it alone.

If my niece and son-in-law go out to work, we do have a cable factory here, but the salary is very low. If he goes to work in a cable factory, his annual salary is only 30 thousand. If you have to work every day, you can't work in the field. So my niece went to work and let her husband do housework at home.

Here, like my niece's house, there are many such situations. It can be said that there are many villages near this small city.

As for the elderly men going out to work, my wife and brother are like this. He went out to work and his sister-in-law was at home. Many places in the city need to burn boilers in winter, and he just went out to burn boilers. There are also people his age who go out to be security guards and watch the gate. They go out to work only to lighten the burden on their children.

To sum up, the situation of "left-behind men and women" in rural areas now depends on the specific situation of each family. Middle-aged and elderly men go out to work, but also to reduce the burden on their children and provide for themselves and their wives. They all have their difficulties. I hope everyone can give them some help, so give them more. If you can't help them, don't look at them with color-changing glasses. They are really not easy!

"Left-behind men and women" is really a new word, which refers to the phenomenon that rural women go out to work and men take care of the elderly and children at home. In fact, this is not only in recent years, but also in early years.

Xiao Li and Xiao Ruan in the village are a couple. They were in Guangdong together in those years. Xiao Ruan was pregnant before marriage, and went back to her hometown to get a license and hold a banquet in the New Year. But not long after the New Year, Xiao Li's job in Guangdong was gone, and the factory didn't want him. The reasons for it were not known (Graphic irrelevant)

Without a job in Guangdong, Xiao Ruan's stomach is getting bigger and bigger, and the couple returned to the countryside. They can't plant land, so they live on their laurels. Children need money to buy milk powder and diapers when they come out. Xiao Li went out several times, but failed to find a suitable job. Either he will leave after a while, or he will be rejected. There is no way. When the children were older, Xiao Ruan came to Guangdong again and Xiao Li stayed at home.

Xiao Ruan is a real person. She works very hard in Guangdong. By working overtime, she earns 4,000 to 5,000 yuan a month. Almost all the money is sent home to buy a car and build a new house. Life is getting better. Xiao Li is still that Xiao Li. She idles around all day and plays for three days a day. (Graphic irrelevant)

It happened that Xiao Li had an affair. The marriage ended under the strong opposition of four old people in the family. Xiao Ruan is very sad. After so many years, all the money was sent home, and finally she made a wedding dress for someone else.

The story of "left-behind women" Xiao Li reflects one of the reasons for the rise of "left-behind women". Young farmers have no skills and people are not practical. Many of them are still precious mothers, so it is difficult to find suitable jobs, while women are different. On the contrary, they are willing to endure hardships, be more diligent and practical, and become the first choice of many light industrial enterprises. It is easy for women to find jobs. This is the "left-behind women". (Graphic irrelevant)

Another reason is that farming in the village is very hard. If women are left at home, the land at home will not be planted. Young couples with ideas will consider the interests inside. In addition, rural conditions are good and policies are good now. Maybe farming is as good as going to work in cities, so men will stay and women will go out to work.

Personally, this is actually caused by the traditional thinking of the previous generation. Most of the farmers in the previous generation were men and women. For a long time, men and older women ran everywhere. They never went out when they were young, and they won't go out when they are older. Besides, the elderly at home can't do without their own care. Let the elderly stay at home. It is estimated that you have to worry about what to eat at home every day.

It's sad to say. For the elderly in rural areas, it is not easy to work outside, whether it is windy or rainy.

Summary: Young "left-behind women and men" and older "left-behind women and men" are both phenomena branded with the times. Every struggle to go out and stay has promoted the development and progress of rural areas. They deserve everyone's respect, but at the same time, they should adhere to our original intention when we separated the two places. Don't forget that your initiative should put home first, and don't disappoint the other half's struggle and efforts.

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It is not only women and men who stay behind, but also a large number of "pseudo-widows" in rural areas today. In the final analysis, the "popularity" of left-behind men and women and pseudo-widows is not forced by life. Who wants to separate the two places from their families if it is not because they have no choice?

First of all, explain what are "pseudo widows" and "left-behind men and women". "Pseudo-widow" refers to a rural woman whose husband works outside and takes care of her baby at home alone. Although their husbands are alive, they don't see each other several times all the year round and live like widows all the year round, so they are called "pseudo widows".

On the contrary, "left-behind men and women" refers to middle-aged men whose wives work outside the home all the year round and stay in the countryside. Although such men are few, they are not completely absent. Because now many men not only have no education and skills, but also refuse to work hard, so it is difficult to find a job outside. In desperation, the hardworking and simple wife had to go out to work in order to have food and clothes for her children. Although I feel extremely sad, I still have to bite my teeth for the sake of my children.

Then, why are there more and more "fake widows" and "women and men left behind" in rural areas? I think there are two reasons:

In my opinion, the appearance of false widows is understandable. After all, men should work hard outside. The existence of a large number of left-behind men and women is puzzling. After all, in China's traditional culture, "the man is in charge of the house and the woman is in charge of the house" has always been the traditional mode of family life. Men should bear the responsibility of making money to support their families, while women should take care of their husbands and children at home. However, now there are more and more men in rural areas, and they begin to eat soft rice with peace of mind or even peace of mind. This is really a kind of sadness. After all, it is not because they are too arrogant to do it.

Left-behind men and women, what the hell is this This is a new term. Write it down and test it later. I haven't heard of it before, which means that men are parents and children. Is it common for rural women to go out to work? Why don't we have it there? We haven't heard of it. Aren't we in the countryside?

Even if there is, it is a minority. I guess there is a reason. Some people try their best to make money when they are young. As I get older, my health is getting worse and worse. I can't work any more, so I have to stay at home and recuperate. Having children, because men can't work. Will cut off economic resources.

But a family, old and young. If expenses are needed, only women go out to work to make money. It is helpless to shoulder the burden of supporting the family. I can't help it, as long as men can move. Who would deliberately let a woman go out to make money and stay at home by herself? If nothing else, the villagers' saliva can drown you.

Projects that work to make money are also hurt. I can't go on working, and no one wants to. For these reasons, it is a bit unorthodox to laugh at people as women and men. Birth, aging, illness and death, natural disasters and man-made disasters. Who would have thought? The ancients said. If you laugh at others today, maybe others will laugh at you tomorrow.

Apart from these situations, are there any young people staying at home? I go home every year and everyone comes back. They had finished running before I left. Run to the last one every year. I didn't see who stayed. Of course, there is another reason. I just suddenly lost my job and didn't find a satisfactory job.

I must go back. It's high time. Go home and have a look. I have been playing for so many years. You can rest for a while and wait until next year to make plans. There's nothing wrong with that. No one can rest if he works. It's a little puzzling to keep playing. As long as they are normal men, they still have jobs.

It is impossible to stay at home and let his wife go out to work. If so, I guess my wife will be lost, too. Who wants to live with such a person? Isn't that painful? Some words still need to be distinguished, either listening to the wind or listening to the rain.

With the advancement of urbanization, more and more migrant workers are pouring into large, medium and small cities to work. In addition to left-behind women, children and the elderly, there is another special group, namely left-behind women and left-behind men, for the following reasons.

First, family changes. Take our village as an example. Because the village is located in the mountainous area, it is really difficult for a family and children to go to school on a few acres of fertile land. In addition, mines, coal mines and other factories and mines have flourished in the past few years. All the strong laborers in the village went out to work in mines and construction sites, focusing on manual labor, leaving only women, children and the elderly left behind in the village.

In the first few years, it was okay. These people are strong, but after working for more than 10 years, their health has problems, some of them have been injured at work, some are old, and some have suffered from various diseases, which led to their dismissal. For the sake of family livelihood, the wife who once stayed behind resolutely chose to go out to work in exchange for her husband who once went out to work to go home to take care of the family.

The second is the type of work. In recent years, it has become increasingly difficult for migrant workers to go out to find jobs, especially for male farmers who have no academic qualifications, are old and have no special skills. On the contrary, it is relatively easy for women to go out and find jobs, such as waiters in hotels and restaurants, nannies in domestic service, and Yueyue.

Women who come out of rural areas are relatively willing to bear hardships and stand hard work, have a tough personality and temper, choose more positions and earn decent income, so rural women with strong ability will choose to go out to work and leave their husbands at home to manage the family.

The third is to give consideration to family and farm work. According to the situation of several families in our village, it is always inconvenient to be a daughter-in-law, because parents are old and need personal care when they are sick. Also, the farmland at home is a little far from the village. Women have little strength to do farm work, and they can't do heavy manual work such as plowing and harrowing fields. It's hard to work, but men can easily solve these problems at home.

In short, the emergence of left-behind women, children and the elderly, or left-behind women and men in rural areas is a helpless choice for rural people. No family wants to live together, but for the sake of a family's livelihood, housewives or women and men have to make great sacrifices, which is a test for a normal family and husband and wife.

So, please respect every migrant worker around you. What they carry behind them is the peace and happiness of the family!

The phenomenon of left-behind men and women is actually a phenomenon of social transformation. We have always felt that the biggest problem in rural areas is the problem of left-behind elderly people, left-behind children and left-behind women. Now there will be "left-behind women and left-behind men", which may be strange to many people, but careful analysis is actually a very normal product of social development.

In the early days of reform and opening up, China's economic development and social construction required a lot of physical labor, such as urbanized construction sites and some mechanized factories.

So you will see many male farmers working in cities, and these people have become the main labor force contributors during the 30 or 40 years of reform and opening up.

But now, with the development of social economy, the development of industrialization has gradually slowed down, while the service industry has begun to accelerate its growth and become an increasingly important field. Relatively speaking, there are more and more jobs that need women.

Another is that with the development of Internet and technology, the demand for precision work will also increase, which requires women to need more jobs than men who used to need heavy manual labor.

In other words, it will be easier for women to find a job and more difficult for men. At the same time, women's income is the same for families. Maybe a woman will be more cost-effective than a man, and she can earn more money.

So if everyone wants to stay in their hometown, it is better for men to stay in the countryside and women to go out to work, which is more beneficial to the family.

From the perspective of the whole society and culture, it is not surprising that men stay at home and be housewives. No one stipulates that women must stay at home, right? So I think for a family, increasing income is a good thing, and it is more meaningful for the family.