How do parenting experts correctly praise and encourage children?

The so-called parenting expert is also learned bit by bit and practiced bit by bit.

Now everyone knows the role of praise, which leads teachers and parents to regard praise as the most important weapon under any circumstances, but it has caused many side effects. The common side effect is that children will gradually realize that it is not difficult to be praised, everything will be praised, and hope is the most precious. If they often praise, children will not cherish praise so much; What's more, children live in an atmosphere of praise for a long time. When they are used to being affirmed everywhere, their ability to resist setbacks will get worse and worse, and life is doomed to be impossible. The contradiction between reality and ideal will make children at a loss; In addition, some children will have such a bad habit, doing things only with praise, not doing things or doing bad things without praise.

The essence of praise is actually an external reinforcement, and the ultimate goal is to promote the improvement of children's own enthusiasm and active exploration ability. Therefore, it really cannot be abused. The result of abuse will lead to another very serious consequence, which is to destroy the inner enthusiasm of children. So, what kind of praise is scientific? Generally speaking, praise should be conditional, such as praise when a child wins or succeeds, and it should be different according to the size of success. Secondly, don't praise everything, but praise and praise some symbolic things of children, such as the first time the child wrote his name, dressed himself for the first time, brushed his teeth for the first time, and got a good result in the first exam. As the saying goes, a good beginning is half the battle, and such praise is very beneficial to children's growth.

In fact, thinking will have a more lasting positive impact on children's growth than praise and encouragement. Encouragement will give children more courage and enthusiasm to explore the world. In the process of exploring the world, they will constantly build their own knowledge system and become more and more excellent. This driving force has changed from the outside to the inside.

In addition, not only children's psychological education pays attention to methods, but also early childhood literacy education pays attention to methods. People's memory of pictures is very profound. Compared with boring words, they need to practice line by line. For example, Cat, Xiao and Shuai learn Chinese characters is a software that evolves pictures into fonts, so that children can learn Chinese characters in curiosity and happiness. My daughter has been exposed to Chinese characters since she was three years old, and now she has used more than 300 words a year. This is a good software for free.

Cats, handsome guys and Chinese characters are good examples of picture evolution in Chinese characters. Let children perceive the world and learn knowledge at the same time. This learning method and thinking ability are of great help to the heavy learning tasks in the future.