Talking about friendliness _ articles about friendliness

Confucius put it forward? The benevolent loves others? Mencius emphasized that being kind to others is not only a noble personal virtue, but also an important civic moral standard. It contains understanding, tolerance, unity and mutual assistance, which not only makes people warm, but also is the cornerstone of social harmony.

? Bridge? Its role is to connect the two sides of the strait and make cross-strait exchanges without obstacles. Heart bridge? It connects the hearts of people, so that hearts can communicate, understand and communicate. Only in this way can we close the spiritual distance between people.

A friendly person always shows people with a sincere smile, looks at people with a sunny attitude and helps others with heartfelt actions. Friendly people, cheerful, open-minded, get along well with others, do not envy, do not hate, do not compare, self-cultivation does not need to be spurred, pay for nothing in return. On the other hand, unfriendly people are often narrow-minded and hostile to others. Such people are often vindictive, jealous of those who are stronger than themselves, discriminating against those who are weaker than themselves, and even maliciously infringing on others.

The social attribute of human beings determines that everyone is in the relationship with others, the collective and society. Individuals should not only deal with their complex emotions, but also deal with various relationships and communicate with people. What kind of mood and form to communicate with people does not necessarily affect a person's life length, but it can affect his life width.

In a word, friendliness is a gesture and way of understanding. To be considerate, instead of treating a gentleman with a villain's heart, will only increase hostility. Friendly people always reach out and smile at others when they are in trouble, and are kind to others, which shows that a person is broad-minded and reflects the purity and nobility of his spirit.

So how should a person with a friendly heart practice it? Personally, there are six main points:

People with a friendly heart should be friendly and sincere. The most important word in dealing with people is "sincerity". As the ancients said, "Honesty makes the stone open" is a wise saying. Live sincerely. Sincerity is an open heart to the world, an unshakable moral integrity of a noble person, and a moral cultivation and integrity cultivation. Being honest with others will make you attractive and build a bridge of trust between people's hearts. Sincerity can be exchanged for sincerity. Being sincere to others does not mean asking others to reciprocate with sincerity. If the motivation is to exchange one's sincerity for others' return, it is not sincere enough in itself, because sincerity should not contain any impurities. Sincerity is not unique, but it often radiates more attractive brilliance than originality. There are many things that you can't do with all your efforts, but you can do well with sincerity. Society needs sincerity, people long for sincerity, and sincerity is extremely powerful. If we treat everyone around us with more enthusiasm, less indifference, more sincerity, less hypocrisy, more understanding and less suspicion, then our family will be warmer, our neighborhood will be more harmonious, our society will be warmer and our life will be better.

A kind-hearted person should promote harmony. ? Friendly? It is not the skill of establishing interpersonal relationships, but the mutual promotion and help between people in order to realize good values. China people's worship of "harmony" culture has a long history, and this theoretical discussion is more profound. Looking back at the essence of traditional culture, it is not difficult to find that sages and philosophers are talking about self-harmony when they talk about harmony. Self-cultivation has always been the foothold for China people to deal with interpersonal relationships and solve the contradiction between people and themselves. ? Self-denial? Achieving harmony and unity with the world is our basic way of thinking. Self-harmony is essentially a person's inner harmony. If you are in harmony with yourself, you can keep your head clear, your cognition sound, play your role well, control your emotions, have no distractions, be difficult, boast and seduce, constantly surpass yourself and pursue Excellence. Pursuing inner harmony is the task and mission of life, and it is also a social responsibility that should be fulfilled. Many people have problems, the fundamental reason is that the mind has problems first, and the body, mind, spirit and god are no longer harmonious. Self-harmony is really a spiritual beauty, a beauty of both internal and external cultivation, a beauty of internal and external integration, and a real treasure of life.

A kind-hearted person should insist on being kind to others. Insist on being kind to others: kindness is a fortune in the world, and a valuable quality of treating people is being kind to others. In interpersonal communication, being kind to others is indispensable. Kindness means having a kind heart and a broad mind. Kindness also includes responsibility. Kindness comes from noble morality, is the inner communication of the wise, and is the broadening vision of the inner world of the benevolent. With this kind and precious sentiment, there is a guide to action and a fulcrum of life lever. ? Good words are warm in three winters, but cold words are cold in June. ? Kind words are the expression of kindness, and kind people are bound to treat others with kind words. It should be said that there are good and evil in human nature, and good people compress the evil part of human nature to the extent that they are not even aware of it. Therefore, kindness is not a wish, but an ability, an ability to see and suppress evil. Lao Tzu, the ancestor of Taoism, said? As good as water? In other words, the highest state of goodness is to nourish everything like water, without competing with everything. Now it is a market economy, and the world of mortals is rolling. Some people think that the spiritual principle of being kind to others is out of date and has lost its luster. This view is wrong. Society needs kindness, people need kindness, and people also need kindness. We should remember our ancestors? Good is the most precious thing, which can be used for a lifetime? Good advice, profound thinking, experience and practice make kindness an eternal state of mind, a way of life and a spiritual realm.

A kind-hearted person should keep calm. Kindness is the premise of a person's better integration into society: love, benefit and happiness are important signs of a good social atmosphere and one of the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation. Friendly people always discuss problems with others calmly. Friendship is the hand you hold out when others are in trouble. Friendship is a smile to strangers. Friendly, right? Send warm? This move. A friendly person means caring for others, not asking or imposing on others, and then helping others. It shows the breadth of one's mind and embodies the purity and nobility of one's spiritual realm. It can be seen that friendliness is the messenger of light and peace. Don't be impatient when you are calm. When you are in a bad mood or have troubles, you should adjust your mood in time. Don't associate with others with emotions, so as not to get out of control and hurt others, causing misunderstanding. Have a normal mind, when you can be calm, many things that were originally difficult will become suddenly clear.

A kind-hearted person should pay attention to putting himself in the other's shoes. Since the individual differences between people are objective, don't desire or force others to be exactly like themselves, impose their hobbies on others, and make others completely conform to their wishes. First of all, friendliness maintains equality between people. Friendship is based on the equality of subject status, and both sides have the same requirements and wishes. Secondly, friendliness maintains the sincerity between people. Kindness is not an accidental emotion, but a stable moral connection. In this regard, citizens treat each other sincerely and establish an ethical order of mutual love and trust. Third, friendliness maintains mutual assistance between people. Although friendship is not based on mutual benefit, people have further consolidated the relationship of mutual assistance through friendly contacts. In the mutual assistance between people, everyone treats each other as equals, and no one is in a priority or weak position because of giving or receiving help.

A friendly person should have a broad mind. As the saying goes: Take a step back and broaden the horizon. Tolerance means taking a step back. A philosopher once said: the sky contains every cloud, whether it is beautiful or ugly, so the sky is vast; The mountain accommodates every rock, big or small, so it is majestic; The sea contains every spray, whether clear or turbid, so the sea is boundless. As long as you can tolerate others and live in harmony with your neighbors, you will appear? Nearby? Better than what? Distant relatives? Situation. Being able to tolerate others' differences with you is universal. But it is easy for you to have a one-sided negative view of others because you are different from others in doing or thinking. Therefore, being broad-minded means being able to find different aspects. People need care, love and a friendly smile, but also need understanding, tolerance and respect. We need tolerance when we get along, communication when we quarrel, companionship when we are lonely, comfort when we are sad, and calmness when we are angry. The prime minister can punt in his stomach. Tolerance is a kind of understanding, tolerance is the communication between heart and heart, and it is a kind action after understanding. ? If you blame others, blame yourself, forgive yourself, forgive others? Think about other people's situation, understand their difficulties, and understand others.

Text/Luo