The so-called maturity means knowing how to choose.

Are you getting more and more mature on the road of life?

Some people say that middle age is a watershed in life. Someone jumped out of their comfort zone at this time to challenge a brand-new field; Someone got a promotion and a raise at this time, and made great strides all the way.

When we are young, we can be confused, sleepy, unrestrained and willful. But when people reach middle age, you need to bear more expectations and responsibilities, and you need to establish the goals and development direction of life. We need to think about how to live this life well.

1

I haven't written an article these days, and the official account of WeChat hasn't been updated, because I'm preparing for an important thing at work, which is to challenge myself to attend the open class of the whole school, which I have never experienced before.

When I received this task, I accepted it calmly, but in fact, I took the initiative to accept the task when others were unwilling and could escape.

In the later stage of preparing lessons, I try to do something every day, with the purpose of making my lessons more perfect, listening to many famous teachers' open classes, polishing my lessons and looking for inspiration and ideas. From the design of blackboard writing to the smooth connection of classroom links, we have spent a lot of effort.

I thought I would be nervous standing on this podium for the first time 1, but I was calm from beginning to end. This is really beyond my expectation. In retrospect, I think that one minute on stage and ten years off stage, if you want a good result, you must do every moment to the extreme and do it well, then the result you want will not be too bad.

This is probably what a person looks like when he matures.

2

I once met a mother in a group, not a group of friends, relatives and classmates. She said in the group that she felt difficult to breathe and could do nothing else. Someone below asked her what was wrong. She said she was sad because her grandmother was very ill recently and might die.

Then several group friends comforted her and gave her advice on how to spend this uncomfortable time. Some people are talking about what they will do when their loved ones are going to die. But, for this mother, is it really useful? Unless there is cognitive change and intellectual enlightenment, others are telling their own stories.

I can't empathize with this matter. The comfort that belongs to others actually has little effect on her. It is not only the level of family relations, but also the degree of personal mental maturity. In the final analysis, this kind of experience and the process of life need to be experienced, felt and undertaken by oneself, and it is also a period of time that needs to be experienced by oneself. Others can't replace it, and of course they can't comfort it.

Before that, I thought that the mother of this child, who was in junior high school and senior high school, would at least not seek comfort from a group of strangers when she encountered such a thing, at least not let everyone say to her, "Learn to cherish the people around you when you are born and sick." Then she replied, "Thank you."

Maturity is probably all the storms in life. After you bear it silently, you can still tell others faintly that you can experience it for human nature.

three

What is maturity? I think it is probably that you have the courage and confidence to refuse something. You can live a casual and chic life, and you can refuse something like ineffective social interaction, meaningless time consumption and low-quality life according to your own wishes. You know what is important to you and what is more meaningful to you.

Near the holidays, there are many dinners for various teams and small groups.

Before the holiday, when I got off work, I received several dinners in succession, all of which invited me to get together and have a meal. I thought about it all the way after work. Do you want to attend these dinners? On the one hand, in order to prepare for this open class, I missed many courses and didn't read books for several days. I felt sick and even stopped running. I decided to refuse these meals because of the rainy day. I think I should do something more meaningful.

So, I immediately replied to my friend, saying that I would not attend the dinner party because I had something to do. Let's get together.

Say that finish, I lost a long breath, there is a kind of pleasure in my heart.

It's not that we don't pay attention to these friendships, but that getting together is nothing more than spitting, spitting the bad feelings between classmates, spitting the mistakes between colleagues, and who is not pleasing to the eye. They are all similar things, which are not good for their growth.

My mind can't be upgraded. I spent one night, and then I became a trash can, collecting other people's garbage.

Chatting while eating, mixed with these complaints, big fish and big meat are eaten in the stomach, and it is easy to eat too much, which is bound to be bad for the body, the mind and the body.

After refusing, I went home to sort out my notes, listened to the course of financial management, and then ran down two kilometers, sweating all over, while my mother-in-law cooked dinner. Just two dishes and white rice, but it's delicious, and I can eat with my son, so I feel very down-to-earth and feel that I have lived a full life.

Although I haven't been together with these friends for more than half a year, and we have accumulated a lot of worries between us, we can talk openly, but recalling our encounters several times may not necessarily enhance our growth and thinking, help ourselves, improve our professional skills, improve our thinking and broaden our career. Then why should I spend this time? Maybe you will say that you are heartless and impersonal. Well, if you think so.

In the past, if someone invited me, I would rush to the office nonstop, even if I talked late into the night and stayed up late. I think we must never fail our friends and friendship.

I think it is also a progress and a sign of maturity to dare to refuse such things.

The so-called maturity means choosing to do the right thing at the right time; The so-called maturity is to do what should be done on the right person; The so-called maturity is probably that you understand that refusing one thing is not to lose, but to gain.