Find out five advantages of children

In the interview with parents, parents are asked to talk about the five advantages of their children. Many parents frown and say that "there are many unexpected benefits and many disadvantages", which is a common phenomenon. Or praise the children in public, I feel a little embarrassed and don't know how to express it. Later, after careful thinking and repeated encouragement, parents calmed down and slowly recalled and found out where their children's advantages were. Some people say that children are kind, brave, witty, observant and optimistic. Some people say that children are flexible, enthusiastic and active, study hard, have strong time management skills and are persistent in doing things. ...

This interview process shows how parents can express their advantages in front of their children, and say it sincerely and unconditionally without wearing a top hat. Parents often make a mistake. When they need to tell their strengths in front of their children, they often become a form of "praise", which is equivalent to "controlling the pit" after praise. What we emphasize is to cultivate parents' positive thinking and vision, that is, to have the ability to see the advantages of children. With this ability, we can find the advantages of children, so that children can win the success of development or win the initiative in life.

Empathy, initiative, enthusiasm, hard work and courage are all advantages, but they are also the most easily overlooked under the evaluation system of exam-oriented education. We should have a pair of eyes to discover beauty, be good at discovering the advantages of teenagers, and don't evaluate children with perfect filters.