Did you suddenly recognize a person in an instant?

My husband was lying in the ICU after the operation, and his relatives and parents were busy giving up treatment because the doctor said that he was seriously ill, probably in a vegetative state or was short of money. It's just that the doctor said he had to sign it before giving up. I didn't give up as they hoped, but I insisted on not giving up. My relatives told me to give up treatment, saying it would be good for me and save a lot of money. If you don't give up, you may borrow money from them in the future. And my husband's sister, who works in a public institution, told me that no one would specially prepare a sum of money to lend you there. Even if you borrow it, you have to return it. Whether it can be returned is still a question mark. Later, because I insisted on not giving up treatment, all my relatives stopped seeing each other. A few years later, my husband was still here, and I didn't borrow money from any of them, nor did I have any foreign debts. Only one day, my husband and I quit their so-called family group.

After three months of pregnancy, I recognized my dad at the negotiation table where my parents divided the property. He is the man I spurned, and I only have the obligation to deal with the aftermath for him in my life.

Don't worry about calling me unfilial. My father's sisters used to call me unfilial and say that I didn't care about him. Since he bought a car and lived in a new community, his sisters have never mentioned him before my eyes. Maybe their conscience found that he really lived better than me.

When I was a child, I said: Never look for a man like my dad! I have a son. I must tell my son not to be like him in the future!

He made almost all the mistakes made by men. But before this negotiation, I still have hope for him. Every time they have an argument, I still think it's caused by my mother's grandmother, and my mother has problems. But after this negotiation, I think I suddenly realized his true colors, an extremely selfish person!

What's it like to see dad coming out of someone else's house?

I will always remember the day when I saw his disgusting face with my own eyes. He saw me when he went out, so I called him, and he, uh-huh. Then he walked in the field (guilty? ) Come with me. Since then, I have confirmed those rumors.

He went to the woman's house to help, and all the work at home was given to my mother.

I woke up one morning and found the window broken. The woman's husband smashed it in the middle of the night. Then, the window without glass accompanied me for at least 10 years! The cold wind blows in like that in winter. ...

Because of extramarital affairs, parents often fight and quarrel, and his mother was taken back when she left. After all, he really can't do housework. The sow at home gave birth, and I looked for him everywhere, and he was actually stewing snake meat with that woman! Then I reluctantly went home and tidied up the pig.

Since I was about 4 years old, I, who loves to laugh and is clever, have disappeared. Inferiority, few words ... childhood is not happy at all.

When I grow up, I also hate to abandon my old man and those who cheated in marriage.

Later, they finally divorced. Before going to court, my mother-in-law taught me that "when the judge asks who you want to talk to, you answer my mother". None of my father's relatives taught me anything.

When the judge asked me, I really answered "Mom". In fact, I didn't know why I answered like this at that time. But in fact, my custody was given to my father.

Then, my dad hugged me and cried for a while in an increasingly messy room. After a while, my mother had already worked in the county, and he had the cheek to call her back. Then, the old problem appeared again. Without peace and beauty, we still quarreled. Then he went out to work, not far from Chengdu.

I can get there in 2.5 hours by car now. But he never came back to help during the busy farming season, and he never made suggestions for his family construction. What he does and says is about his sister's family. I can never compare with those cousins.

When I left, my mother was completely trapped and spent her whole life in the countryside!

What is his salary? I don't know. I go to college in the city and work part-time on weekends. I am very close to him. I went to his place for dinner out of my own pocket. A week later, he told me not to go, which was troublesome. After that, I seldom went to his place.

My grandfather also told me that you also study there, so go to your father if you have nothing to do. But in fact, I'm not popular.

When I was a child, I went to the city with my cousin and them in the summer vacation. He cares about others, but he said to me: don't be happy here. Do you know what happiness means? I can't answer that. It turns out that I want to be a daughter and my father can't come.

What I feel when I am with him is almost indifference, indifference, indifference.

Although the farm is busy and there are several holidays a year, every time I come back, I always pull a long face, never smile, never come back to work, and people will go home to see friends and only quarrel with my mother. So what outsiders see is his smile, and his smelly face is for us to see. Grandparents also blame us for not giving him a good look.

When I was a child, my mother always asked me to go to the poker table and ask him to go home for dinner. I called again and again, but I still couldn't get through. I used to think that women like my mother were really annoying. Why doesn't she come back for dinner and shout over and over again? Even if there are hot meals and dishes in the pot, people still don't appreciate it. Now I find that it is this kind of man who is really rude!

My father hardly took the initiative to contact me. The only time he came home suddenly, he rode my bike to school, and then I walked home. Never held a parent-teacher conference for me, never picked me up, and none of my teachers and classmates knew him.

Later, I installed a landline at home and called him. He always said, What's the matter ... If it's nothing, I'll hang up.

Which daughter will be close to such a father? Where is the father-daughter relationship?

I remember that on a rainy day, all the children around me were sent by my father or uncle, so I had to go by myself. When the water rises in rainy days, the river is full of water (bridge building), so I dare not go. I waited until another father sent his children to school, and then I followed him across the boardwalk. When I mentioned this to my friends this year, I was in my thirties, but I couldn't help crying. This is a childhood without a father.

In rural areas, most social activities depend on men. My father has no brothers, so there will be no relatives to help me, and no other neighbors will take the initiative to help me, because we should also avoid being gossiped (with my mother).

So in my childhood, my grandfather was the only opposite sex. This is very bad for my growth.

As a junior, I have never seen him pay for my grandparents. Even now he has bought a car and asked him to take his grandfather to the hospital, he said he would go to the fields to pick fruit trees.

He just doesn't call my mother and me, but my grandparents have never heard from him, nor have they seen what he said to their parents, and he rarely does anything for my grandparents.

He went out to work and heard that his salary was not high (as his sister said). He said he worked for social security. He didn't consider social security for his wife and parents.

It seems that he went back and then quarreled with my mother. Then he said my mother cheated on me (she had shit on her ass, but she said he was someone else) and smashed the house.

My mother has repaired the house in recent years. She opened the wasteland by herself, the number of fruit trees increased, and the house was repaired. I didn't agree to repair the house at that time, but she insisted on it because she wanted my father to go home.

Then my mother suddenly realized that she was going to start a new life. When she asked me if he wanted to find another one, she was actually looking. I couldn't say anything at that time.

I mean, it's been over 20 years, and my dad is about to retire. (Retired, another daughter, her parents are disease-free, and she has a house and fruit trees. This is a Huang Jinlao man. A lot of smart women will play this man's idea), bear with it. But she had no choice but to vent. So I put the separation on the table.

I was divorced once before, and my mother went home and never remarried. It is too difficult for my mother to go to court to redistribute property. So in front of the village head, three generations of us sat down to redistribute the existing property.

At lunch, he sat at the door, and my husband and mother and I were eating in the main room. I asked him to have dinner many times, but he didn't want to. So, after all, I can't remember when my parents and I ate at the same table! What a luxury it is for me!

When he proposed to split the house in two, the kitchen, the old house and the bedroom were all his (then, my mother and I were left with a bedroom and a toilet); The fruit tree growing well near my home belongs to him, and I was automatically planned by him to go to my mother's side.

My heart was cold at that time! I know this man completely!

He kept saying that he had split the money during his previous divorce, but he had no conscience. Whoever opens wasteland, who plants fruit trees, who goes to the mountains to cut down trees to make beams ... Building a house in the countryside is not like buying a house in the city. Besides spending money, it needs more energy and effort.

At that moment, the excuse I made up for him completely collapsed, and his reluctant man image was destroyed in my heart. At that time, I was pregnant for 3 months, and I was not excited, but very uncomfortable. I also scoffed at his request, as if he didn't make such a request, and it wasn't him.

It seems that my mother and I were really kicked out by him. He said many times, get out. My mother remarried soon.

If this is your father, I don't know if you will be heartbroken!

Although there will be a little kindness in the process of growing up, please look at you and your father, or you and your daughter and see if you are like this. Can you treat your children like this and accept such a father?

Other fathers think of their children, and he will always have only himself.

I haven't tried it. Maybe it's not sweet enough to eat. I also gave him something, but our feelings can't match the lack of contact between me and him. My conversation and handover with him in my life (less than 24 hours a year, not many words) can't stop my colleagues who have been with me for three years.

Later, the first Spring Festival when I bought a house, I invited him to be a guest at home. He didn't agree at the time. My husband and I will wait for him and pick him up. As a result, he said that he and his colleagues were in the Youth League. Since then, I have never contacted him voluntarily. Of course, it is even more impossible for him to contact me actively. ...

His sisters remarried at my mother's, so they all shut up and stopped saying that we were not good!

I got married, had children, a house and a car, and he immediately bought a car and moved into a new rural community (at first he was the head of the family, so my mother and I couldn't handle it and didn't go home to cooperate).

My husband met Tik Tok by accident and saw him. I saw that woman from the inside! I said to my aunt and grandparents: he can find any woman, but this woman can't!

After all, this woman ruined my childhood! If it is true love, then both of them have divorced! How come you're the only one who's divorced and women don't leave? People are still thinking about their children! Now that the woman's husband is dead and her grandson is in kindergarten, she comes to you for help with farm work. You are so happy!

But they don't care about my feelings at all. The next time I went to my grandparents' new home, I saw the face when I was a child. The woman asked them: Who am I? They whispered to her when they were menstruating: I am XXX.

I pretended not to know each other. For 20 years, when I was a child, I occasionally saw ambiguous messages between them. His colleagues will also ask me: Is that woman your mother?

He came to hug my son, and my son naturally didn't want to, because he had never seen him. His sisters said, call him grandpa. My son also ignored it.

The last time I changed my mobile phone, I suddenly couldn't remember his phone number. That number has been memorized for more than 20 years! Maybe I'll let it go, too. Maybe there is no father and daughter in my life.

I'm looking for a husband, which means never look for him like that. I will teach my children in the future, and I will also ask them to lead an honest and clean life and be good to their wives after marriage. Only by being kind to your wife will your family be happy and you will be happy.

Before getting married, my husband and I asked for a divorce: the property belongs to me, and I don't want children. If a woman doesn't care about your money, but also helps you take care of your children, that's your blessing.

My parents' marriage has a great influence on my life. Only those who have experienced it can understand.

Now he has fallen from the altar in my heart, which I built myself. ...

I hope all men will read this story, love your wife and your children, and you will be happy all your life!

When I was pregnant with my baby, my best friend came to see me and inadvertently talked about the problem of insufficient beds. She is sure that she can help me solve this problem. Then call her and she will help me. In order to promote this, I also bought a gift of several hundred yuan for her to give to the doctor who helped me.

When I was about to give birth at 38 weeks, I called her about the bed. She told me not to worry and said I would contact you again. Three days before I was born at 39 weeks, I called her again and said that frequent contractions should be what to do if I gave birth to a bed. She said impatiently, "You haven't given birth yet. How can I tell people about the bed? Why are you in such a hurry? This makes it difficult for me to do it. " After I hung up the phone, I didn't want to count on her any more, so I asked my relatives to help me solve it.

Long after giving birth, she sent me a message saying that she didn't expect you to solve the bed problem by yourself. Yes, I can handle it myself. I'm looking for you and someone else. Even if I can't find it, the hospital won't arrange a bed for me, will it At first you boasted that you could do things, and I trusted you and counted on you. But the attitude behind you is chilling. If you don't want to do it, don't put your words first. I am not a rude person. I also gave a gift to the person you entrusted, so you have to do something, right? Money is a trivial matter. The point is that your attitude towards this matter made me recognize you.

Seeing, listening and doing three steps is enough to know someone in an instant.

I met my old mother and served her in the hospital. She is either blowing her beard and glaring, or her face is full of disdain. She used to call me Xiao Wei. I was dumbfounded at that moment. Is this still my dear old mother? It's rare to have Alzheimer's disease. I haven't walked there yet. She even said not to worry. Is it a slow-motion movie? It's terrible to buy this, and it's blind to buy that? Her son came without saying a word, which means yes or no.

One year I was hospitalized, and I borrowed money from everyone. As a result, I don't need to tell you that the best way to break up with someone is to ask him for money. If you want to deepen your relationship with someone, the best way is to ask them for money.

At that time, there was a state subsidy when I was hospitalized, so the pressure was not too great. Besides, I have two commercial insurances. Generally speaking, this difficulty was no problem in the past. Besides, I have a family, but I don't want to trouble my family, but I want to trouble those who call me brother all day.

It was a relative who borrowed money from me first. I know he is rich, but he told me that he recently bought a house, had to repay the loan, and his business still needed to turn around. I deleted it without saying anything. I grew up playing with this relative. I have always known that he is very picky, and his picky is obvious to all relatives.

The second speaker was Party B. In order to get the project into my hands, I followed all kinds of flattery. Even after I left my job, we always maintained a good relationship and often went out to drink, eat and sing. After borrowing money from him, he said that the money is now on the project. I didn't say much, so I just deleted it.

The third speaker is my former leader, and basically belongs to the brotherhood. I asked him to borrow money, and he said it was polite. He said that his house should be returned, and then his old mother was hospitalized, explaining clearly that she had no money to lend it to me. I didn't delete him because I knew he really had no money.

Starting from the fourth person, I stopped borrowing money and asked for debts everywhere. I don't borrow much money. Over the years, there have been about 500,000 to 600,000, some with white stripes and some without white stripes. But I want them to pay back the money. When I was in hospital, no one could pay back the money. In fact, I also know that although I am in hospital, I may be richer economically than them. It's just that I deleted them all, and I don't think the money they sent me is likely to be paid back in my life. Because some people, you have made trouble, yelled, scolded, and even a few people have sued, but there is no money, that is, there is no money.

Just when I was a little depressed, the news that I was hospitalized was widely announced by a senior. Then brothers from all walks of life came to see me in the hospital. These are the people I am embarrassed to talk about, because these people are old and young, but they finally gave me some money. Some brothers didn't even come to the hospital, but let others take solatium.

Who are these brothers? Office workers! No one is in a high position, and no one who makes a lot of money in business is an ordinary person. And my business friends, or friends who get along well in society, are actually rejecting me for one reason or another. Finally, it was a gambler who really gave me money. Say something else.

I've been thinking, why is this? I am reminded of the words of a doctor named Paul Pi Fu from Berkeley University. He said: Compared with the richer people, the low-income people are more generous, more charitable, more trusting and more helpful. They are more adaptable to the needs of others and believe in egalitarian values more generally.

Its root is that ordinary people are more empathetic and sympathetic than the rich. It is very reasonable to consider this from the point of view of the group. As a group, the rich like to donate money to universities, institutions and other undertakings. Ordinary people, on the other hand, like to lend a helping hand to people in the same situation, who are often close to them, such as neighbors and friends.

At that time, I thought about it in the hospital for a few days, and I took my contact to do a general cleaning. To tell the truth, I didn't suddenly see them, but I never had a chance to confirm my guess. Sometimes we can't judge a person by guessing, we need evidence and facts. For me, hospitalization is a fact, and their performance is evidence.

So for a person, if he wants to live a smooth life, he can't encounter disaster. Once you encounter a disaster in the Jianghu, you need to deal with it urgently, and all monsters will be exposed. However, we can't criticize this. These are the basic qualities of a person. If others help you, it's your destiny. If others don't help you, it means that your fate is not in place. In fact, I believe that everyone has someone to give up for, and this person may not be you.

. . Recognize that a person will not be in an instant, but constantly reflect his moral cultivation in real life and be a man! Those who judge a person's quality in a moment in TV series are not practical in reality!

Friends who have been together for more than ten years. She is divorced, so am I. Like me, she is not clean when she leaves home. My ex-husband cheated on me, and she had a bad relationship. We are also linked by fate, comforting each other together, and our feelings have always been good.

Last year, my colleague introduced me to a boyfriend, and I got along with him with the idea of trying. I didn't expect my boyfriend to be generous. He got divorced. His ex-wife left him because his previous business failed. Later, he made a comeback. He is very kind to me and often buys me this and that. We have been getting along for almost a year this year, and I am also rushing to get married. My boyfriend bought me a BMW with my name on it, and the car is about 500 thousand.

Yesterday, my friend called me to help her move. I went there early in the morning. From morning till noon, she didn't invite me to dinner. She is cleaning, and while cleaning, she says, You are so lucky that you will be a rich wife in the future, unlike me going to work. The tone is very sour. I didn't speak at that time, so I went home after I was busy at noon.

In the afternoon, I brushed my circle of friends and suddenly found out what she said and showed off everything. The following is a screenshot. I was really angry when I saw it, and I was chilling for a moment. My friend of more than ten years did it for nothing, and she couldn't see me at all. I recognized her suddenly, and then I wanted to let it go. Originally, we were divorced and poor office workers. Suddenly, I found a boyfriend who is rich and still loves me. She lost her balance and was strongly stimulated. I thought she was a true friend and would be happy for me to find a good home. It seems that I am too simple!

For example, everyone is familiar with the fable "Ye Gong Long Hao". When we see Ye Gong painting, carving and carving dragons at home, we can't help but praise him. This man's love for dragons is really not as good as ordinary people! However, when the real dragon appeared in front of him, Ye Gong's fear disappointed us, as if he suddenly saw his falsehood. People who are good at dragons in all aspects are scared to death. Is this person too fake?

It is not easy to meet people. Good and bad, true and false, good and evil, and so on, are interchangeable. Each of us, in addition to strengthening our own personality cultivation, should also try not to be preconceived. Try to be objective and fair. We should be good at listening to what they say and observing what they do, and really see the essence through the phenomenon, so as to make fewer mistakes in interpersonal communication and have real friends.

A friend (female) wants to break up with her boyfriend. I wonder if it's true.

She typed a bunch of break-up messages, but she was afraid to send them. Let me send them. I ...

Finally, I pressed the send button for her. ...

Then she said, I commented on "happy breakup", and she replied: Didn't you tell me to break up? You know, she and her date are both in my class, which is embarrassing.

I ...

I will never get involved in this matter again.

You won't recognize a person in an instant, you will only be completely disappointed in a person in an instant.

I can only say that people are unpredictable.

Sometimes you think you see it clearly, but you don't;

There are too many moments when we misunderstand a person's kindness and too many moments when we take a bad heart seriously;

We have been growing up. We can't see a person clearly, but we can see one thing clearly.