Women's Extramarital Affairs: What is the biggest mistake of cheating?

Love is like a look, and the blink of an eye is all kinds of customs. Different people see different scenery. People who put each other in their hearts will find it very passionate. And those who are forgotten may feel the taste of being as cold as ice.

In many families with extramarital affairs, this feeling is particularly "real". There seems to be a stabbing pain that penetrates the soul and is branded with shame. In the hearts of many people who are hurt by extramarital affairs, once the derailed partner changes his mind, every move is full of deep distrust!

In this case, it is difficult for husband and wife to get along, and there are doubts everywhere. It is not easy to maintain a normal marriage, but love seems to be more difficult than ascension.

I heard a divorced man say that the most unacceptable thing in marriage is not divorce, but when I was still in love with my wife, I suddenly found out that my favorite woman had cheated on another man. When I bowed my head and chose to forgive for the integrity of my marriage and family, I once again found that she had divorced six relatives. I have never been afraid of divorce, but I can't accept her infidelity, her shamelessness and her reversal of black and white!

I have to say that many people who have divorced because of their lover's infidelity have had this profound experience. Men and women are the same, and they are not afraid of divorce at the critical moment, and they are afraid that they will not understand before divorce.

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In this talkative society, the opinions of others are the easiest to disturb a person's judgment. Very simple things can easily become complicated.

Many things in marriage also abide by this law, especially extramarital affairs. Once "caught", the complicated factors are not only reflected in marriage, but also often reflected outside marriage!

Sometimes we must admit that many marriages with extramarital affairs are not destroyed because of infidelity, but because of the "poison tongue" of others! When things are exposed and spread, both husband and wife may be broken!

For many injured people, they often feel that they can't lift their heads. Even if I am divorced, I dare not admit that I have been betrayed. Many people once chose to forgive their cheating lovers, but when it spread, they never had the courage to forgive.

In the same way, for people who cheat and divorce, this pressure is even greater. Many people who have cheated on each other really want to return to their families and get back together. However, when they were exposed, under the pressure of dignity, they never had the courage to return to their families. Although I know I was wrong, I can only admit my mistake with tears in my eyes.

On the whole, these people have a tragic ending. Because of a mistake, because of a "hard mouth", because there is no courage to admit mistakes, I make mistakes again and again, and gradually lose my future.

We often say that to fall in love with someone is to accept everything about that person. In fact, this truth can also be reversed: you accept everything about a person because of anger, and others will think that you are in love with that person. For example, people who cheat don't admit their mistakes, and others think it is an affair.

Therefore, many people who refuse to admit their mistakes in the process of derailment will be considered by others to be in love with their lovers. But the fact is that they just use their lover as a bargaining chip to protect their fragile dignity and get angry or bargain with the other half.

Let me show you a case of extramarital affairs, which reflects a kind of entanglement that many extramarital families have had. This case will tell many cheating people that you can't be angry.

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Ms. Zhang, 34, is unfaithful to a man she doesn't love. From derailment to divorce, Ms. Zhang has been "insisting" for two years. Obviously she doesn't love that man, but in order to "whitewash" herself, she keeps saying that she and that man are true love.

She thinks that as long as she is tough, her husband will be mainly. However, she underestimated the dignity of her husband, the harm of continuing to cheat, the harm of her lover to her marriage, and the pressure brought by onlookers.

Ms. Zhang said: I just turned 32 that year. I will never forget that day. I made the biggest mistake of my life. In the Spring Festival that year, I went back to my parents' home and attended a junior high school classmate party. When eating, I met my first love in junior high school. Under his sweet words, I was confused and went out with him once.

Actually, I don't love him, and dating doesn't feel very good. But I like being praised by men for being beautiful. I care too much about face. After the date, we left each other contact information. This incident became the fuse of my divorce. Even now, I regret it.

After the New Year, my husband and I returned home to the city. Because I often chat with him (lover) on the Internet, my husband suspects me and guards me like a thief every day.

We quarrel more and more. I know I was wrong, but I don't want to break off contact and refuse compliments from others. If I had stopped, the marriage would still be there. Unfortunately, my personality is flawed and I like to be angry.

Before my husband catches me, I will never admit that I cheated. No matter how suspicious he is, I will keep a secret. If I had realized my mistake, my marriage would still be here.

However, I cheated again. In the same year, Dragon Boat Festival, I went back to my mother's house again. Not surprisingly, I met him again without resisting his efforts. I felt better that time, but my husband found the evidence. When I got back, he saw the information I didn't have time to delete.

Then my marriage got out of hand. In order to save face, I have to refuse to admit my mistake.

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Ms. Zhang said: In fact, at that time, my marriage was also very happy and my family was very happy. I should not cheat. If cheating is inevitable, I shouldn't hurt my husband further. If hurting my husband is inevitable, I shouldn't say that I am in love with him (lover). Even if I say that my lover and I are in love, he should not tell our family about it.

I lied when I said I loved him (lover), in order to annoy my husband. Although I cheated for two years, I was only together for five times. I still love my husband. As for him (lover), I have no feelings at all, just like being praised for being beautiful.

Let's talk about what happened before the affair. Although my husband (ex-husband) and I are close friends, we love each other very much. When I was 24, we were dating. I fell in love with my husband at first sight and decided to marry him.

He (lover) and I were classmates in junior high school, and we wrote love letters to each other for a month in senior three. We should be the first love. We held hands, kissed each other and did nothing else. After high school, we separated. Later, I went to college and he went to work in the south.

We shouldn't have any intersection, but fate is unreasonable. The reunion of classmates brought my fate to a crossroads, and my stubborn personality led me to choose the most wrong way. My repeated mistakes ruined my marriage.

The first time I was suspected by my husband, I refused to admit it. I even scratched my husband's face to prove his innocence. Although I cheated, after all, you didn't find any evidence. I was really wronged at that time. Why do you doubt me? This is my character. I am unyielding. As long as you don't find out what I did, I am innocent.

I like to be angry, because I feel wronged more and more, and my husband doesn't understand me. At that time, I knew I was wrong, but the issue of face was too important. My first time was given to my husband, and I always thought I was a good woman. What about my dignity if I am found not defending myself? I have no choice but to keep my mouth shut until the end.

On the Dragon Boat Festival that year, I went back to my mother's house, a little angry, and accidentally cheated for the second time. I didn't expect my husband to pay attention to me all the time. When I came home the next day, my husband looked through my mobile phone. Those chats on the road were discovered by my husband.

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Ms. Zhang said: After being exposed, I had no choice. What else can I do? I don't love people, not at all. The person I love is still my husband But if I admit that I still love my husband, it means that I am a bad person. This is unacceptable to me. I'm afraid my own people will collapse.

From that day on, my husband and I had a cold war for a year and a half, and I broke up with my lover. I thought I could live my life slowly like this. I thought my husband would forget it one day. Therefore, I don't want to lose my motivation and future. Every time we quarrel, I say that he (lover) and I are true love. My meaning is very clear, that is, I want my husband to shut up.

But as time went on, my marriage was completely out of control. Before the divorce, my husband couldn't bear it and went to my parents. He told them everything I had done. He also told his parents that he wanted a divorce.

Because my husband had a big fight at my mother's house, all the neighbors knew about it.

All my employees have fallen, which means my future is gone. I don't want a divorce, but I'm embarrassed to face all my relatives. Not only my family can't face it, but I can't face the people outside, and neither can my neighbors. I dare not go back to my mother's house for fear of being pointed at.

I couldn't find any comfort at that time. No one can comfort me except him (lover) He was like a savior and gave me timely support. I thought he loved me, and after some thinking, I wanted to marry him. And before I marry him, I need a divorce and then break up his marriage.

I miscalculated. After my divorce, he broke up with me and I was beaten by his wife. Think about those two years, I killed my marriage.

If life gives me another chance, I won't cheat. Even if I cheat, I will kneel down and apologize to my husband (ex-husband). I won't make mistakes again and again, and I won't push myself to the wall step by step.

But what's the use of regret? My own child is 8 years old and hates me. My ex-husband ignored me and even my parents were disappointed in me. This is what I asked for, and I dare not fantasize about love anymore. The most beautiful love in my life is dead and will never come back.

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There is no doubt that Ms. Zhang is a poor and stubborn woman. If she hadn't cheated, she would be a strong woman, but she was wrong.

She doesn't love others, but others think she is in love with her lover. She was obviously wrong, but for the sake of face, she dared not admit her mistake and had to be tough to the end.

She didn't understand. She ignored one of the most important laws in marriage. Wrong will never be right, but it goes without saying that someone will cherish you. It's a pity that she didn't understand at that time. If she had, she wouldn't have a chance to cherish it.

This case also tells us that once a stubborn person is derailed, it may be the end of not hitting the south wall and not looking back. As long as a person is wrong and does not repent, he will make mistakes again and again.

For most people who divorce because of extramarital affairs, many people who cheat know that they are wrong again and again. Obviously wrong, but care about face, do not hesitate to reverse black and white. And the end result is usually divorce. You will regret it after the divorce.