If you want to collect honey, don't disturb the hive.

Honey is so sweet that everyone likes it. Honey picking should be to get honey from bees. If you want to pick honey smoothly, you must not disturb the hive, otherwise you will suffer from the flesh and blood if you don't pick honey.

Turning the scene to our daily life and work, honey has the excellent quality of children for parents; For teachers, there are students' diligence and tenacity; For the boss, there is a positive creation for the employees. The hive is the resistance of children, students and employees.

Criticism is useless, it arouses resistance and makes people eager to defend themselves; Criticism is dangerous, it hurts self-esteem and even makes people hate it.

Therefore, whenever the emotions come up, remember not to criticize and criticize, ease the emotions, and think about how to express them before publishing. Whenever children, students and employees don't meet the requirements that satisfy you, don't rush to express your dissatisfaction with them. Think about whether this requirement is harsh on them. They have worked hard to reach the level you see now under the conditions provided by ourselves. Then whether we can provide them with a better environment and better meet your requirements.

Push yourself and others, but ask for yourself. Be able to see things from the other side's point of view, be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. When you are criticized, think about whether the other person's criticism is reasonable. If you can calm down and convince yourself, accepting it with an open mind will make you better.

When we can do it well, we don't criticize or blame. And get a good experience from it, don't rush to teach others the benefits of this practice. Because people can't be taught, once the other person doesn't accept you correctly out of kindness, he may even mistakenly think that you are accusing or criticizing him.

From this point of view, trying to teach each other good behavior is extremely easy to make each other have a kind of resistance. So it is one way to let the other person feel with examples, and the other way is seen in the weakness of human nature. Site workers don't like to wear helmets. The foreman first cares about whether the helmet size is appropriate, which makes them unwilling to wear helmets, and tells them that the purpose of requiring helmets is for the safety of workers and to improve the situation of not wearing helmets.

In short, don't criticize, don't blame and don't complain. Think about why you can't meet your own requirements from the other side's point of view, so that you can not only collect honey, but also get better and better quality.