When you meet a relative at the dinner table and ask if you have found a job, is it enough to answer the question by saying it's none of your business?

When we have dinner with friends, we usually choose to do so when both of us are free. After all, everyone is usually busy in a working environment. When you have time, you will want to get in touch, choose a place to gather together, communicate with each other about each other's lives, and understand everyone's recent living conditions. Do this, one is to relax yourself, and the other is to enhance the relationship with your friends. Don't cut off contact later because you don't meet often.

When we attend friends’ gatherings, we will talk about a lot of things, including recent interesting things in life, as well as some annoying or happy things at work. If you haven't seen or contacted your friends for a long time, you may not be familiar with some things about each other. If you want to know something about your current situation, they will naturally ask you some questions.

Today we are going to talk about it. When a friend asks at a dinner party: "How is your work?" How should you answer this question? Take a look at what people with high emotional intelligence have to say.

1. First, you need to understand whether your friend has good intentions or is just watching the show.

When a friend asks you this kind of question, the first thing you need to know is whether this friend has good intentions or is just a spectator. I came to ask you because I wanted to watch the fun. This is the same as when you are at a relative or friend's house and they ask you how much your salary is there. Sometimes when faced with this situation, even if you don't want to say it, you have to respond because of the situation of your relatives and friends.

However, before that, we can at least understand whether he has good intentions or is just for fun. This can still be seen in the previous communication between you. If he has cared a lot about your life before and has given you some substantive suggestions, then he should ask such a question. In a good intention. But if he always takes pleasure in others' misfortunes and discusses them with the people around him, he turns the topic to you just to watch the fun.

2. Don’t say it directly, but respond flexibly

Of course, if a friend asks you about your work situation, you can’t just say it outright. After all, In addition to the friend who asked you the question, there are still other friends present, so when you answer, you still need to consider how other people feel.

In other words, when you answer, don’t tell them directly your working location and salary situation. If you work in some big cities and the living environment is not bad, you may Others will think you are showing off to them. If you feel that your job is not good, don't admit it directly, be more tactful. Some people really like to talk about other people's lives, and then compare them with their own to create a psychological balance.

3. Don’t use “okay” or “average” to perfunctory answers

Also, when you answer, try not to use “okay” or “average” to answer questions. Being perfunctory will make others think that you are unwilling to disclose your work situation, which is a kind of distrust or contempt for them, so you use these two sentences to answer.

You can use emotional psychology to put your work environment and friends into perspective so that others don’t think you are showing off, or in other words, use rhetorical questions to put aside the topic. To that friend, ask him how his recent work is going. In this way, you can draw other people's attention to that friend.