What if the child can't get into an ordinary high school and the child can't get into a high school?

Dear parents and friends: Hello! The middle school entrance examination is coming, and you must be in a state of tension and war like your children. For various reasons, there may be some children whose academic performance is not satisfactory at present. If the child can't catch up at the last minute, he is likely to fail in the senior high school entrance examination and miss the ordinary high school. Perhaps at the moment, some parents and friends are worried about their children's academic performance. More likely, what can they do if the children exposed in the senior high school entrance examination really can't get into high school? The more you think about it, the more anxious you are, the more confused you are, and the more helpless you are. Helplessness will produce strong mental pressure, and some parents will bear heavy ideological burdens.

I understand the feelings of these parents. If the child really fails in the senior high school entrance examination, what good is it to be disturbed? At this moment, parents should face it calmly, accept it frankly, and make correct judgments and wise choices through in-depth thinking. For parents, this is very important.

In fact, if parents can change their ideas, adjust their thinking, find another way, and seek a road that is really suitable for their children's development, they may bring a brand-new sky to their children and create a bright future full of hope.

We often see this phenomenon. It is no way for children to stay at home and do something after they fail in the middle school entrance examination. It is still young, so parents always try their best to keep their children who have failed in school. Although they didn't pass the exam, parents still tried their best to send their children to Gaopu. However, they may not take into account that ordinary high school courses are heavily burdened, more difficult, more stressful to learn and more competitive. Because of the poor foundation, children find it more difficult to learn after entering high school. Although they have been struggling to catch up, they are unable to return to heaven. If adults are forced to go to college, children are more likely to respond negatively, and even have confrontational feelings, and reluctantly do it with the idea of muddling along. In this way, children will form an increasingly strong sense of inferiority, and their weariness of learning will continue to increase. Some students still can't help but drop out of school, and some barely insist on finishing high school for three years. The result can be imagined.

The reason why parents have this choice is the result of the influence of the old concept of success. Many parents always think that their children will be in a favorable position in the fierce social competition in the future through continuous learning when they go to high school, enter universities and have a bachelor's degree. Influenced by this deep-rooted "elite consciousness" traditional talent view, many parents always let their children crowd on the road in Gaopu, causing serious "traffic jams".

The reason why parents want their children to go to high school is probably that they want their children to go to college in the future, preferably undergraduate courses, so that they can find a decent job. Even if the child persists for three years and is admitted to an ordinary undergraduate course after graduating from high school, so what? Can college graduates find ideal jobs? A few years ago, the expansion of university enrollment made more students realize their university dreams. With the graduation of the first batch of college students with enrollment expansion, the problem of college students' employment difficulty is becoming increasingly prominent, and the contradiction between supply and demand of college graduates is becoming more and more prominent. Some college graduates are high or low, so many people find it difficult to find ideal jobs, and some even can't find jobs, and finally have to be demoted. At the same time, the employment situation of students in secondary vocational schools and technical schools is relatively good. In particular, the demand for technical graduates in some technical posts under the background of new technologies and new processes is in short supply, and even the students who have not graduated are fully booked by employers, and their salaries are even higher than those of undergraduates (see the relevant news reports in the annex for details).

If you can't even go to an undergraduate course after graduating from high school, you can only go to a junior college or a higher vocational school. The employment prospects of college students are even worse, while the employment channels of higher vocational colleges are the same as those of junior high schools and vocational high schools. Whether it is a psychological account or an economic account, this is a "business" that cannot be done overnight. It is better to let children choose an ideal secondary school or vocational high school from the beginning and concentrate on learning a popular professional technology, which will have more employment advantages anyway.

First, I feel that "face" can't pass, or the traditional concept of talent. Some parents are too upset because they have no correct ideological understanding, and even associate their children's achievements with "face". Because now people have a prejudice that only students with poor academic performance go to technical secondary schools and vocational high schools. If their children go to such a school, some parents will think it is a "shameful" thing. People have no confidence to tell others before and after, and even feel that they are "shorter" than others. Some parents also failed to make the list with their children in their arms. There was nowhere to go, so they made a "helpless" choice to go to a technical secondary school or vocational school.

Second, the school choice is improper. With the marketization of vocational education, various vocational schools emerge one after another. In order to survive, some schools are not solid. Their main energy is not to improve the quality of teaching and expand employment, but to take short-term actions such as economic stimulus, recruit students through improper means, take enrollment and employment as a means of profit, and the enrollment is not strict, which leads to some students with bad conduct wandering around, which makes school management more difficult, teaching quality lower, and even the life safety of individual schools can not be guaranteed. What's more, in some schools, there have been vicious incidents in which school operators abscond with money after collecting students' tuition fees. These bad behaviors have caused a bad social impact, greatly damaged the reputation of vocational schools, and caused economic and spiritual losses to parents and students. This is also an important reason why many parents respect technical secondary schools and vocational high schools and refuse to put their children in such schools.

Third, improper choice of major. The social needs of graduates from technical secondary schools and vocational high schools are closely related to their majors. However, some popular majors are not available in all schools because of the high training cost. Even if some schools offer such majors, there is no minimum teaching facilities and training conditions for the majors. Students' study is completely on paper, and the graduates are poor in practical ability, which can not meet the needs of practical operation. To this end, some middle schools and vocational high schools have set up a large number of low-cost majors with little investment, quick results and weak practicality. Once parents choose such a major for their children, their employment prospects will be greatly reduced.

Dear parents and friends, the senior high school entrance examination is the first turning point in a child's life. If your child really tries his best, but in the end he still can't achieve the desired result, don't lose confidence in his child. At this moment, the right choice is more important than anything else. 360 lines, each line is a champion. It is necessary to educate children to fail in the list, to renew their spirit, and to find new life coordinates. As long as you strengthen your confidence and find your own way, the scenery of life is still wonderful. If you are willing to train your children to be skilled and self-reliant workers, it may be wise to choose an ideal secondary school or vocational high school.

In order to help parents and friends think, some relevant news reports are listed for their reference.

If parents and friends want to continue in-depth communication on children's life design, I would like to further discuss with you. Your loyal friend: Mr. Tong