What are the skills to get along with your sister-in-law? What is the most taboo about brother-sister love?

Nowadays, people are more and more open, and sibling love is also very common. In fact, it is not only the age that causes the emotional difference, but also the ideological and social status of two people. However, it still takes two people to overcome it.

What are the skills to get along with brothers and sisters?

There are three skills to get along with brothers and sisters. They really played down the age gap, understood and tolerated each other, and saw each other's advantages more. We all know that girls are more mature for boys and girls of the same age. Let alone a sister-in-law relationship. In this kind of love, most girls will feel tired. Because of age, two people's thoughts and feelings are different, and it is easy to have conflicts because of these. Sister-in-law's biggest problem is that girls often feel that boys are immature and naive, while boys feel that they can't guess the ideas of girls older than themselves. Many brother-sister relationships come to an end because of the differences between two people's feelings. However, without love, it is smooth sailing, and there will definitely be some bumps when two people are together. At this time, if two people know how to get along best, their feelings will be more harmonious and lasting.

1. Really solve the age gap.

True love will not be defeated by age or other external factors, but it will always be influenced by such external factors. For the love of sister-in-law, we can be together regardless of age, but we can't control the ideological differences brought about by age, which leads to the estrangement between two people's feelings. Because girls develop earlier than boys, whether physically or psychologically, they will naturally mature in their minds when they reach puberty, so there are many problems to consider after maturity. What you want is also subtle. Boys are still young, so sometimes they can't be so careful. So the problem comes out, because the age gap has not really been solved, so two people can't get along harmoniously and sweetly. The age gap here does not mean the actual age gap, but the thinking difference caused by age. So it is not easy for two people to be together. Sometimes, they must know how to put themselves in others' shoes. Only by truly solving the age gap can we get along better.

2. Understand and tolerate each other.

Although not all brothers and sisters can reach maturity beyond their age, a small number of boys can reach maturity beyond their age. But this is only a small part. If every sister-in-law wants to meet this boyfriend in a small probability, there is no way. Although not satisfied, it can be changed. People who love you are willing to change for you and become better for you. Therefore, fundamentally solving the problem will help you two get along. Knowing how to understand and tolerate each other is one of the necessary skills for every sister-in-law relationship. In fact, it is very applicable in every relationship. Without mutual understanding and tolerance, it is impossible to walk for too long. Girls belong to a more mature side in the sister-in-law relationship and need to be more tolerant, while some don't pay much attention to details. In this relationship, boys should understand what girls want and what they are angry about. Only in this way can two people get along more harmoniously, and two people will not have conflicts because of lack of understanding and tolerance.

3. Look at each other's advantages.

This is also a particularly important point in brother-sister love. When you are with each other, if you see more advantages of each other, you will feel happy physically and mentally, but if you only see the shortcomings of each other, the more you look at each other, the more you feel that each other is not good at anything. When you have a negative image of the other person in your heart, it is also very unfavorable to this relationship. When brothers and sisters are in love, don't just see each other's shortcomings. In fact, in love, everyone can't be perfect, just because they like you, they offer their clumsy gentleness. Sometimes, they are unhappy because they can't meet each other's expectations, but no matter how bad, they just don't want to hide anything from each other. I just want the other person to see the truest self. Therefore, seeing each other's advantages in the process of getting along is also one of the skills of getting along.

What is the most taboo about brother-sister love?

1. communication is not deep enough.

In the relationship between "Xiao Yan" husband and wife, it is not just the age gap, but various problems brought by the age gap. Therefore, when the problem of sibling love comes, communication is naturally essential. Compared with ordinary love groups, "sister-in-law" couples need more patience to deal with problems. Facing the generation gap caused by different levels of experience, we need to use more communication and understanding to resolve it, so as to narrow the distance between us. If communication is not deep enough, sister-in-law's love will be more difficult to maintain than ordinary love, and the accumulated contradictions will lead to a growing emotional gap.

2. Pay too much attention to external evaluation.

When "sister-in-law" couples appear together in public, the first evaluation of them by outsiders is often their appearance and performance, so sister-in-law becomes the most fragile combination. Therefore, if you care too much about these external evaluations, it will inevitably bring more psychological pressure to the relationship between brothers and sisters. Once these psychological pressures accumulate in our hearts, they will become contradictions in the relationship between sister-in-law and weaken our confidence in the relationship.

3. Misunderstanding of integration.

Most "sister-in-law" couples will try to reform each other after their relationship is stable. Women will ask men to grow up quickly and try to turn each other into mature men in their own imagination. For example, ask a man to wear mature clothes, don't allow him to play games that are too young, don't like him to play with his former buddies, or simply ask him how to think and speak. Men, on the other hand, hope that women can cater to themselves, wear younger clothes, change their previous routines, follow his rhythm, try some exciting and fresh activities and so on. In fact, this is what any couple will do: hope that the other person can integrate with themselves, reduce differences and increase similarities. This is very beneficial to the relationship. Related research shows that the more similarities between partners, the easier the relationship will last.

4. Men should not be too weak.

Pay attention to the love between brothers and sisters. Although it is the love between brothers and sisters, it is still masculine, so we should find the right time to express it. Don't be naive. No matter how much you and your sister love each other, the other is always a woman and needs to be taken care of. Be caring and attentive to her, have nothing to say, pester her and hit her.

This woman should not be too strong.

The woman can't be too strong in this love relationship, because she is essentially older than the man. Psychology has been expounding a view that women and men of the same age are more mature than men. If the woman is still in a strong state, it will bring infinite pressure to the man, and the man will feel that he is controlled and bound, so that this relationship cannot maintain the balance fulcrum of love, and balance will only lead to breaking up.

How to maintain the love between brother and sister

1. Abandon external remarks and build confidence.

Many people don't pay much attention to sibling love, but as long as they love each other, age is not a problem. We don't have to pay too much attention to the evaluation given by the outside world. The most important thing in love is mutual encouragement and trust. There are many brothers and sisters in the entertainment circle, such as Mark Chao and his wife Gao Yuanyuan, Christy Chung and Zhang Lunshuo. They are still in love and didn't break up because of their age. But to manage life beautifully, so as long as you love each other deeply, age is not a problem at all.

2, the woman's love should not be too spoiled.

Because the woman in the sister-brother relationship is older, she always wants to solve everything for each other. Just like my own child, I always want to protect him and remove obstacles for him. But in fact, this is just wrong. This kind of behavior can easily breed the dependence of the other party, and over time it will make the other party lose the ability to think independently. He will get used to your protection, and once he leaves your wings one day, he will become helpless to everything. It is suggested that the woman give the man appropriate help, but some things that need him to solve alone should still be faced by him and he should come up with solutions by himself. The rest are suggestions at best. At the same time, don't make too many decisions for each other. You should respect him, give him the decision-making power, and let him realize the essence of "responsibility" in making decisions.

This person needs to establish a sense of responsibility.

In brotherhood, a man doesn't think that many things are undertaken by the other party just because he is young, and he has the right to be taken care of, which is wrong. In any relationship, men should know the importance of taking responsibility. Whoever takes responsibility has nothing to do with who is bigger, but with maturity. If you don't know how to take responsibility, then even if you are with a girl younger than you, you are still an immature man without responsibility. Such a boy will not be liked by girls.

Learn these three skills, and your sister-in-law can make a positive result in love.

1. Increase mutual trust.

Women are naturally sensitive and easy to think and change the subject. When they talk about a younger boyfriend, they always feel that they have to bear more responsibilities and bear the gossip from outside. Girls are naturally more mature than boys in psychological age, and girls will feel insecure in this relationship. So the best way is for girls to be less paranoid. Since you have chosen him as your partner and your support, you should increase your trust in him.

2. Enjoy the happy feeling he brings you.

Young boys are not without ideas. They also know their responsibilities, know how to enjoy life and enjoy the fun life brings them. They treat life with vigor and positive energy, which can completely infect you and make you abandon the pressure brought by life.

3. Constantly improve yourself.

Improving one's temperament and self-cultivation is a career that a woman has to work hard all her life. Don't think that if you have a partner, you must be completely attached to him. Life has no focus. You should have your own circle of friends, your own career and your own interests. The best way for two people to be together is to devote themselves to each other and respect each other's personal development. Song Joong Ki and Song Huijing are brothers and sisters, but they are very happy! Mary, the comedian, was with her young boyfriend some time ago, wasn't she?