Why do you feel that many treasure mothers would rather stay at home than go to work even if their children go to school?

I am a stay-at-home mother, and my baby 10 months. Many people ask me if I am tired of taking care of my children alone and want to go to work. My answer is that it is really difficult, but I don't want to go to work at all. I have experienced the workplace before, so why don't I want to go to work.

First, workplace discrimination. There has never been equality between men and women in this world, and women have always been a vulnerable group in the workplace. When you were single during the interview, the interviewer asked when you would fall in love. You are in love and ask when you will get married; You are married and have no children. Don't ask when to have children, because you won't be considered at all. Now that the second child is open, there are still some advantages in getting married and having children. Now I have to worry about when to have a second child, take maternity leave, pay my salary, and buy social security provident fund. This is a cost for enterprises.

Second, take money to buy cabbage and sell white powder. Most people are just ordinary jobs, the salary is not too high, but the responsibility is not small. I used to be hr, responsible for the salary module. Every day, I am asked by various employees, "Why is my salary so small?" "Why is his salary higher than mine?" "Why can't I read the pay slip?" I told you 800 times not to ask around about other people's wages. I really want to shout back: "I didn't set your salary." What's the use of looking for me I can't give you a raise. Besides, you don't know how much you weigh. " But these words can't be said indiscriminately. You have to explain it over and over again with my smiling face. Everyone will be bored.

Third, there are too many people who lack dual quotient. Not only do you have to be yourself in the workplace. A lot of work needs the cooperation of many departments. When you meet an unreliable partner, you want to yell every minute. In my previous company, there was a project that required our department to cooperate with another business department. First of all, I need another department to provide data, and I did the calculation. As a result, the other department did not provide data in time, which led to the failure to calculate the plan in time and their internal communication was unclear. Then the head of that department came up to me angrily, slapped the table and pointed at my nose to scold me. If it is my fault, I will admit it. Obviously, your question still scolds me like this, and it was raised by my parents.

As for many people who say that they can't afford to raise their children if they don't go to work, what age is this? Why can't they make money? Why do so many entrepreneurial projects have to go to the workplace as doormats?

There are several situations:

First, I have adapted to the free and rambling life at home, and I will be nervous and busy at work. So I can't adapt for a while.

Second, the pace of work can't keep up, including actions and thoughts, which leads to the inability to adapt to the working environment in the office.

Third, I can't find a decent job like before giving birth to a child, and I can't accept the feeling of "getting married" psychologically.

Fourth, for ideological reasons, the birth of a child has completed all the things that a woman should do, and J still needs to go to work for such a great contribution!

Fifth, my husband encourages me not to go to work. Some husbands can earn money very much, thinking that there is no shortage of wives to earn those three melons and two dates, or they will stay at home and take care of their children.

There may be many reasons. There are a large number of stay-at-home mothers now, for various reasons! Not going to work has become the norm.

Ask me first. Who gave you common sense? When the children go to school, the mother can definitely go to work. Secondly. How can you be sure that people don't want to go to work? As a stay-at-home mother with children. I think I can answer your question.

1 Children go to kindergarten. From 8 am to 4: 30 pm. Excuse me. That job is allowed to go to work normally at this time. Don't leave work. Who will answer the child? Who will do the work after work? That company is willing to accept you.

We all know that most kindergartens now emphasize the cooperation of parents in education. Cooperate with small manual activities, as big as teaching assistant activities in one class a week in school. Parents need to be involved. Work, live and study. Novice mothers are really hard to adapt to most of the time.

Assume that the above two points are consistent. When winter and summer holidays come. Does the mother take care of the children or work? . .

Generally, the food in kindergartens is not very good. One does not pay attention. The child is ill and malnourished. I wonder if everyone in my family will blame all the mistakes on my mother. It is the children who suffer.

To sum it up. Me. Whenever I am a stay-at-home mom. Don't be so decisive. It's not that mom doesn't want to go to work. But ... being a full-time mother is a profession in itself. Just ... China's family. I just ignored this profession.

I am a working mother, and I will go back to work after maternity leave. To tell the truth, I really wanted to take care of my baby full-time and couldn't bear to leave him. But more than two years have passed, and looking back, my growth has not been affected because I can't accompany you at any time.

There are many stay-at-home mothers around, mostly because the elderly at home can't help with the children, so the mother has to give up her job and the father supports the family alone.

In fact, I think the adaptability to comfortable environment is a big reason why many stay-at-home mothers are unwilling to go to work even if they have time.

An elder sister I know was an older woman when she gave birth, and then she took care of the children full-time. Meanwhile, she hired a nanny to help her. At that time, her husband opened a factory, and the family's economic foundation was still very good. As the child grows up, Mr. Wang hopes that she can help manage the factory and manage the finances. But this girl won't go. I kept making excuses, saying that I was not feeling well and couldn't go to work.

Then the factory at home was suddenly changed until it finally closed down. My husband was heartbroken, and some people accused her of refusing to help manage the factory. Husband and wife began to live in the open space. Even began to borrow money from the old people at home, but even so, the big sister refused to go out and look for a job.

This situation is real. Once people get into the comfortable environment they are used to, it is hard for them to bear the pressure. I really need the parties to think clearly before going to work. It's no use being forced by others.

Moreover, once the work needs to face complex interpersonal relationships, it needs to re-learn business knowledge and spend a lot of time and energy to adapt to the experience environment, which is also a big challenge for anyone. Being at home full-time for a long time is really a big test if you enter the workplace again.

First of all, whoever wants to work is born willing to work. Our colleague advised me to have two treasures. An important reason is that you can take a long maternity leave. More than half a year is good. To tell the truth, growing up with children is really a mixture of sadness and joy. Taking care of the children makes me tired. Every day has her world. I feel very happy when I see her laughing and crying. Taking care of her eating, drinking and sleeping made everyone feel a sense of accomplishment. When she can interact with you, she really feels happy.

Secondly, stay at home, no makeup, no masks, no boss's nagging, no competition among colleagues, no crowded buses, and no tired work every day. Wait, there are too many benefits of not going to work. If children go to kindergarten at this time and have more time to control themselves, how can they be too lazy to go to work?

Third, there is of course another reason. I don't earn much, I don't have a sense of accomplishment, and I'm not a job I love. Pay but don't get the corresponding return. If the salary is high, if she is an important person in that department, it is estimated that she wants to go to work before the maternity leave is over. When we generally find ourselves important and have a sense of accomplishment, our enthusiasm should be higher.

Fourth, if the family life is happy, there is no need to send feelings to work. Before my girl went to kindergarten, I found that I felt more fulfilled at school. I wanted to do something, so my maternity leave just expired and the leader didn't call, so I ran to school. After my girl went to kindergarten, I put most of my time and energy into school. The school hours are very fast, and there are only a few people at home. Besides, not much to say, everyone has their own days to live. My husband works overtime and my grandparents have their own space, so I choose to work overtime at school, do more things and study more. Very interesting.

Fifth, set an example for children. I am always afraid that when my child is a teenager and begins to have his own unique understanding of the world, she asks my mother what you know. Or one day, her classmates ask her what your mother does, and I can't make her proud. I don't want to be a housewife who can do nothing but walk around her and her father every day. Of course, I never had confidence in my cooking, so I didn't work hard on it.

Sixth, I am afraid of boring life. I always feel that life is too short to experience more interesting things. Going out every day, meeting different people and seeing different scenery will make you feel much better. After staying at home for a long time, I am a person without any personal hobbies. Apart from reading books and doing housework, I can only say that I am a person without hobbies.

On this issue, I just want to say that only if you have experienced it yourself can you understand why many precious mothers are not working. Most of them don't want to think about it, but they have to supervise their children's study, do laundry and cook, and go to work to make money. My husband is busy with things or work, and my mother-in-law doesn't want us to force the elderly to have their own lives. After all, they have worked hard all their lives, and we have no right to interfere in their lives. Women are people, not gods, and don't want to go out to earn money.

Also, sometimes it's not that I don't want to go out to work. Maybe I have been taking care of my baby at home for several years, and I am derailed from the society. I don't know what to do. There is also the time for the baby to go to school and leave school. At work, the boss can't accommodate your working hours, so you can't go to work at all. Unless there is an old man at home to help, Ma Bao can't go to work safely. One of my husband's former female colleagues is an example. My in-laws used to help me with my children. But I didn't know what the contradiction was, so I suddenly stopped helping, so because of this, she asked the company to leave work one hour early to pick up the children, but the company refused, so she was forced to leave. Well, it's sad to think about it.

I got a job, starting at 8: 30 in the morning and getting off work at 4: 30 in the afternoon. My husband quarrels with me every day He will pick up the children from work as soon as he arrives at 4: 30, drive them to work in the morning, and then come back to change motorcycles to work. I gave up after insisting for half a year, because my husband later intensified and began to quarrel in the morning. His purpose is that I can't go to work, so I will take care of the children at home. After this incident, I took over the family finances, and he didn't dare to force me to make any more money.

Tell me about my aunt's family! When my aunt's children were in the first grade, she thought they could go out and find something to do when they went to school. The result didn't go as smoothly as I thought. It really takes six months. People are really tired and often have contradictions. Get up at seven o'clock in the morning to make breakfast, send it to school, and then go to work. Come back at eight or nine in the evening. If you come back smoothly, get the dishes ready for tomorrow's work and do something else casually, which will be eleven or twelve o'clock. If it doesn't go well, it will be even worse. When the child came back and didn't do his homework, she asked her husband to supervise the child's homework and take a shower and sleep. He is asleep and the child is still playing. When my aunt came back, she had to help him with his homework. Children have poor self-control and their homework is delayed. People's mood is worse, and wars break out from time to time. Later, she wanted to find something relaxing. It took nine to five and two weekends to find out that the age limit was high and it was really hard to find. If she doesn't go to work for several years, she will be eliminated by society.

When I first entered the workplace, the bachelor and big boss of our company just got married and the bride was younger than him. She used to be a model, tall and beautiful, and stayed at home after marriage. Every day she eats and sleeps in Korean dramas. This is what the big boss said. It seems very happy! But as a hard-working novice, I am waiting, but I feel that she is not enterprising. Especially when the big boss wants to hook up with a small clerk, he even says that raising a wife like that is raising pigs, which is not worth replacing.

Later, the rookie worked hard for several years and finally entered the management of the company. He gave birth to a baby when he was ready to open his arms and make great achievements. He thought twice, packed his bags and went home, and lived like a pig for ten years. Strangely, I have lived a comfortable life in the past ten years, and I don't feel that I am not enterprising at all.

If you are not a fish, you will know the happiness of fish!

So, if you are willing to work, you will struggle; If you don't want to go to work, stay at home. I'm glad you like it, don't worry!

The child has left her hand and doesn't need her mother's 24-hour care. Mom doesn't want to go to work. There are two things. First of all, the mother is worried about whether the child can adapt to the kindergarten life without a mother at once. After all, the growth of children is not just a matter of transportation. Children's education is a big project, and many mothers sacrifice their careers to accompany their children to grow up. Moreover, such full-time mothers are basically highly educated and high-quality mothers.

The second reason is the mother's own problems. .

This mother has no self-confidence, and has no confidence in returning to society and stepping into the workplace.

The root cause of my mother's lack of self-confidence is her lack of ability and knowledge.

Mom doesn't know herself very well, and she can't find her social status there.

I remember when my children left, I couldn't wait to go to work. I feel more and more that I don't go out to work, get in touch with society and make friends. Slowly, I will return to primitive people. And the key is not to go out to work, and the frequency of husband is out of step. Naturally feel inferior in front of her husband. Of course, this is what every woman does not want. So I'm going to work. Children are two people's business, and fathers should also contribute to the growth of children.

I am a stay-at-home mom. Although my family is not very rich, I can get by. Because my husband is not here at ordinary times, I take care of the children alone. I worked for a year last year, so tired. After working all day, I'm too lazy to move. I must do housework and help my children with their homework. Teach patiently, yell at the children, and find a husband to vent. My husband still hates that my house is not clean enough when he comes back at the weekend. Chickens fly and dogs jump at home. Now I don't go to work, I am relaxed and in a good mood, so I can teach my children more patiently. Read more books when you are free. Usually, the home is much cleaner and my husband is in a good mood. Family is also harmonious. Everything has two sides. Might as well not go to work. After all, people's energy is limited. Call me lazy, live comfortably and have a harmonious family.

I can only say that I am lazy. My sister is like this, but I never have much to do. Let me vent this problem. My elder sister-in-law has only one daughter, and now she is in the fifth grade. Her husband has been working, but she hasn't worked since she got married. My mother-in-law brought up the children. She has no mother-in-law, only her father-in-law. My parents-in-law sponsored 200 thousand to build a house because of poor family conditions and no money. If you don't go to work and clean up, it makes sense for your child's husband to take care of you. However, she either sleeps or plays all day and feeds the children noodles or bean jelly at the door. Every Sunday, I call my mother-in-law and tell her what she wants to eat. Then I bring the children to eat and hold them when I leave. I didn't spend a penny for my in-laws. I bought five or six bananas when I came occasionally. My mother-in-law loves her daughter very much, but I think it's a waste of her daughter. Father-in-law understands people, saying that his daughter is lazy, and that he cried her. But it still doesn't work.

I never said a word to her, but she always told me intentionally or unintentionally that women have to go to work to make money after giving birth, and it costs a lot of money to raise children now. She is a daughter. After I gave birth to my eldest daughter, she said that one of you can't do it, which means I want a second child. Although I originally wanted a second child, it made her feel bad.