A mother-in-law confided: Daughter-in-law never does housework. Should I say it as a mother-in-law?

As the saying goes, "marriage is the union of two families, not the love of two people." In fact, every married woman will encounter the problem of mother-in-law. As mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, these two women actually became relatives because of an inexplicable fate. In the triangle relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the most difficult problem to solve.

But often men's inaction in this family relationship and marriage will lead to deeper and deeper contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, even to the point of separation. After all, men are the bond between these two women. As long as men have a correct attitude and weigh the pros and cons of things, I believe that the whole family will be much more harmonious.

Emotional tree hole

My daughter-in-law has been pregnant since she got married. There is only one suite in our house. When our son got married, we didn't pay for a wedding room for him, so the old couple lived with their son and daughter-in-law. I never let her do housework during her pregnancy, so she played with her mobile phone every day. When she is tired, change her posture, and I bring her food and drink to bed.

Less than three months after giving birth to the baby, she began to make excuses to go to work and told me that she couldn't stay at home. She took care of the baby at home during the day and slept with me at night, so she went to work. I haven't retired yet. I have to go to work during the day, I have a lot of housework to do when I come back from work, and I have to take my granddaughter at night. My husband works at the construction site and is very tired every day, but it is also very troublesome to sleep with me at night.

My daughter-in-law goes to work every night after dinner and wipes her mouth, and doesn't go home until dawn the next morning. After I gave the child to her, I washed up and went to work. Since his son got married, he has become very fat and addicted to online games. He has never found a job and works hard. Although he occasionally takes care of the children and does housework, it is only a few times.

Sometimes I really get angry with my son, but whenever I talk to him and say that he doesn't live up to expectations, he will quarrel with me. After a long time, I won't talk about him. I also know that my son has a big problem, but I don't know how to change it. I don't know what to do to change his lazy state now.

I'm living a very difficult life now. I can only sleep four or five hours a day, but I don't want to quit my job, because I want the company to help me hand over social security to my son and his young couple after I retire.

In fact, I really want my daughter-in-law to take care of the baby at home full time. On the one hand, you can put some pressure on your son to take the initiative to go out and find a job and change himself. On the other hand, you can relax yourself at ordinary times and don't have to rest so little because of your children's affairs.

Therefore, when I discussed this matter with my daughter-in-law, I promised her: "Daughter-in-law, after I retire, I will help you pick up your children, even all day. Then you can go to work well. If you take care of your children at home now, I'll pay for your children's expenses. "

However, my daughter-in-law still can't accept my proposal. Usually, the expenses at home are basically borne by me, and the expenses of the young couple and their children are borne by themselves. I often buy clothes and shoes for my granddaughter. After all, this is my first granddaughter and I love her very much.

In fact, I am very considerate of my wife. I usually do housework at home when my daughter-in-law is working, and I know it is not easy for her to work outside, but every time I do some housework, my daughter-in-law never says that she will take the initiative to help me, which makes me feel quite unhappy sometimes. After all, I think the daughter-in-law is also a member of the family, and she should do these housework.

Because of this epidemic, my daughter-in-law stayed at home for two months and really did nothing. She just lay in bed and watched her mobile phone all day. If she is hungry, she will send my son to the kitchen to see what she has to eat. If she really can't find food, they order takeout, regardless of the risk of the epidemic.

The relationship between son and daughter-in-law is very good, so sometimes they quarrel, but it will be fine after a while. In addition, the son listens to his daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law waits on them very carefully. Basically, those who serve tea and water are trivial.

Just these days, I have returned to work, but my daughter-in-law is still doing nothing as before. Besides taking care of the children, she plays with her mobile phone in bed. When I left in the morning, I had unfinished housework, and when I came back at night, I saw that the housework had not been finished.

I'm tired after a day's work, and I have to do these housework. I was a little unbalanced at that time. I directly asked my daughter-in-law to ask her, "Don't you help with the housework when you stay at home all day?" Go out in the morning, this housework has not been finished, and I have to do it at night. After all, you are a member of the family! You also have a share of housework. Don't stay at home all day, just lie in bed and play with your mobile phone and do nothing! "

My daughter-in-law was unhappy at the moment and quarreled with me: "Mom, you have to understand that it is not easy for me to take care of the baby at home every day, okay?" I work as hard as you do outside. If you want to say that I do nothing, you are wrong. I have a granddaughter at home, what's more, I have a job myself. Because of this epidemic, I haven't started to return to work. You know, your son does nothing all day. I didn't abandon your family, but you abandoned me. In that case, I'll divorce your son and leave.

After listening to my daughter-in-law, I dare not provoke her again. After all, her daughter-in-law is telling the truth My son is addicted to games all day and never does housework. I don't know what to say about him. It may also be because of our consistent connivance that our son is so lazy today. I don't know what to do now, and I don't know how to deal with this situation at home.

In fact, it is selfish for a mother-in-law to tell her daughter-in-law. Her daughter-in-law has a good job and wants her to resign. She will force her daughter-in-law to resign and go home to take care of the children's laundry and cooking. Her son is already like this, and she wants to pin her hopes on him. A man who only knows how to stay at home and not work all day can't bear any responsibility.

You know, at present, the person outside my son's house is my daughter-in-law, but she is trying to make money outside. Perhaps in this mother-in-law's mind, she thinks that women should do housework and have children. Whether her daughter-in-law has a job or not, she has an obligation to fix everything at home and take good care of your family. No matter how bad her son is, he is a man, so he can't be allowed to do housework and take care of the children.

Actually, it is because of parents like you that my son is so inactive now. Parents don't urge his son, but also force his daughter-in-law to spoil him together. You know, it's not that your daughter-in-law doesn't like such a man, and the second parent should snicker. At least the only reliable thing his son did was to marry a reliable daughter-in-law and go home.