Nan huaijin's conversation

First, the most gratifying thing for a person: the lover whose parents are alive and two or three confidants can't be stolen. Everything else is an illusion, don't care too much.

It's not your wallet that decides what you wear, but your figure. It is not your personality that determines your temper, but your position. What determines your taste is not your education, but your experience.

Third, everyone's personality has some unacceptable parts, even the best people. So don't criticize others, and don't blame yourself.

Fourth, people don't really need too many things, as long as they live healthily and love sincerely, they can be regarded as a kind of wealth.

The older you get, the more uncomfortable you feel socially. Therefore, it is never wrong to master a survival skill and seriously develop a hobby of being alone.

If you can't better protect yourself from harm, you should at least remember one thing: don't trust.

Seven, the ability is not big, don't be too angry, or there will be trouble. If you don't have too many abilities, don't have too many desires, otherwise it will be very painful. Temper should never be greater than skill. If you have no ability to clean up the mess, don't indulge in fickle emotions.

Eight, borrow the wisdom of others, improve yourself, serve others, strive for perfection, learn from the best others and be the best yourself.

Nine, the most mistakes we have made are probably when we are in a bad mood and angry with the most innocent people around us. A person needs two abilities in the world, to speak well and to stabilize his mood.

Ten, people's greatest achievement is to know people without judging them. If you don't know others, talk less and talk the most, fall in price.

Tell yourself to talk less.

I regret what I said and did wrong every day, and then tell myself to talk less and control my emotions. Not everything can be an excuse! So tired.

Tell yourself to talk less.

1. The only thing I tell myself after work every day is to talk less.

Second, once again tell yourself to talk less and do more. Don't be merciful, others won't be grateful.

Third, tell yourself to talk less. There are not many things in your mind. These people should not be underestimated. Everyone who is melodramatic and shrewd will miss the stuffing when he speaks. Bye.

Fourth, every time I think of things during the day in the morning and evening, I am stupid enough to tell myself to talk less in the future!

Tell yourself to talk less and do more, and pay attention to your words and deeds and attitude. People's words are awesome and have to be prevented!

Sixth, tell yourself again: talk less! Every word you say will become someone else's sword! I stabbed you to pieces!

Seven, too much emotion, so many years in exchange for only the word miserable, tell yourself: talk less, let alone tell the truth, just try your best, don't be as desperate as before! ! !

I always tell myself to talk less and do more. Why can't I control my mouth?

Nine, the first day of work, late. Tell yourself before going to work every year: talk less and do more. This year I will solemnly remind myself: love yourself!

X. Today, I want to prove once again that some colleagues are nothing after work, telling themselves to talk less and do more during working hours, and keep quiet.

Xi。 I did an impulsive thing and said an impulsive thing yesterday. It turns out that I am really an impulsive person. Maybe some things are my bottom line, but they don't represent others' bottom line. Tell yourself that it is a blessing to talk less and do more ~ you should have the backbone and pride of being a man, but don't overdo it ~ you'd better be moderate and don't demand anyone ~

Twelve, good night, start a new day tomorrow, tell yourself, talk less, do more, IQ is not enough, can't afford to play ~

Thirteen, I warned myself before I went, but I couldn't, cripple. Now I can only tell myself to talk less, do my own thing well, and have reservations in my heart!

Tell yourself: talk less and do more. Other people's business has nothing to do with you, and your business has nothing to do with others.

Tell yourself: Talk less, listen more and study more this year. Don't be silly, tell the people around you without reservation. Even good friends, that won't do! Everyone knows how to protect themselves, but you don't? Please, don't be silly!

Tell yourself that if you talk less, you will lose if you talk more. Why can't you always remember? You have to sell yourself clean before you want to. If you don't have a long memory, you deserve it.

17, the first day of 20xx, tell yourself to talk less and do more.

Eighteen, tell yourself again, talk less and do more, talk more and you will lose!

19. I always think that speaking and talking are the most direct judgments on a person. People who are outspoken or outspoken always feel that they have shortcomings. Even if you say you are a good-hearted person, you won't feel how good this person is from your mouth. As a bystander, I told myself not to speak until I learned the art of speaking. No matter how capable you are, it's always right to keep a low profile.

Twenty, the first day, I adapted well. I used to be an acquaintance, but I don't have much contact at ordinary times. I told myself to talk less, talk less. It's okay not to work, and I won't say the wrong thing. It's strange.

Twenty-one, the idea of brushing the sense of existence before is a bit indifferent. I don't have an intrigue brain system, and I don't have a glib tongue. I told myself to talk less. I lost control this week because all the problems are my fault, Amitabha. I thank everyone who made me mature.

When I was 22, when I saw Xia Chun say that she always put her foot in her mouth, I thought, Wow, I'm not the only one who would do that. Sometimes when I meet someone, I may not know them very well, so I give them all and regret it. Sometimes chatting with people is very enthusiastic, and at the end of the day, I lie in bed and begin to regret my talkativeness. Always tell yourself, don't talk, don't say the wrong thing, mm-hmm. After a few days, it's still the same. More, wrong.

Twenty-three, tell yourself to talk less and do more, and you will have the capital to show off if you succeed.

We are all in a hurry to talk, but we have no time to listen to others. Always tell yourself to talk less and never remember.

I never thought I would meet such a person at work, which has a lot to do with my temper. After these things, tell yourself: talk less and do your job well. It's useless to fuck too much! Fortunately, the great leader is not confused, which is the most gratifying thing. I have to curse you deputy leaders and colleagues.

Twenty-six, I keep telling myself that I must talk less and listen more. Basically, I can do it, but I don't know if I'm too eager to show myself or something. Before I said what I wanted to say, although I was listening now, I didn't listen to what he said at all.

Self-cultivation topic 20: A person's greatest self-cultivation is to know people without judging them, and to speak the most fall in price.

1. A person's greatest achievement is to know others without judging them. If you don't know others, talk less and talk the most, fall in price.

2. Speaking is self-cultivation, and keeping silent is education.

The greatest achievement of the elderly is to control their desire to criticize the young. Maugham

4. Why do some people look friendly, but they are always alone? "Being friendly to others is cultivation, and being alone is character."

A person's temperament is not in appearance and figure, but in the past, which is a deep and quiet impression left by the heart. Therefore, elegance is not dressing up, but the condensation of experience; Indifference is not a disguise, but a precipitation of life. Time will make a soul more and more moved. Control your temper and be an educated person.

6. A person's greatest malice is to impose his own understanding on others, take all the results for granted and explain them in his own process, always thinking that he is right. "Not judging others is a kind of accomplishment, and ignoring others' evaluation is a kind of practice. Love life is the same as daily life.

7. How did self-cultivation come from? Is to face all provocations, suppress the idea of an outbreak, and then enlighten yourself. -Liu Tong, "Whose youth is not confused"

No one will make us better and better, time is just a foil. What supports us to become better and better is our own advanced talent, cultivation, conduct, and constant reflection and revision.

9. Everyone has a blx. When I was a child, I was sad because others didn't give me gifts. Who cares now? Therefore, what cures blx is growth, knowledge, knowledge, suffering and self-cultivation, which can't be obtained again and again. -Fu Nan

10. Seeing others is not pleasing to the eye, but my self-cultivation is not enough. At the moment when people are angry, their IQ is zero, and it takes a minute to slowly return to normal. The key to elegance is to control one's emotions. Hurting people with your mouth is the stupidest behavior. Learn to control your temper and be an educated person.

1 1. The greatest achievement in life is tolerance. It is not cowardice or forbearance, but examining people's difficulties, making up their shortcomings, developing their strengths and forgiving their mistakes, instead of being jealous of their talents, my abilities, satirizing their shortcomings and blaming them. If the heart cares, there is resentment everywhere; If you relax, it is always spring. If you care, no one or thing can satisfy you.

12. It is often said that this person has no culture. What is culture? Today I saw a very reliable explanation-culture can be expressed in four sentences: self-cultivation rooted in the heart; No consciousness of reminding; Freedom based on constraints; Be nice to others!

13. Learning to be grateful is a kind of self-cultivation. For others, this is a comfort.

14. People's lives are ups and downs in the high tide and low tide, and only mediocre people can live like stagnant water. Or you must have a high self-cultivation to be carefree and truly free. As long as the climax doesn't make you nervous and the low tide doesn't make you decadent, there is no problem. If the sun is too strong, it will scorch the grain. Too much rain will flood the crops. We just want a relative psychological balance so as not to get hurt. -Fu Lei's letter Fu Lei

15. Running a business is not just about how much money you want to earn, but about making your life more independent and complete. Seemingly pursuing material wealth, but actually pursuing self-growth. After a period of time, I found that when my heart is strong and I have enough self-cultivation, making money is only a trivial matter, and success is an excellent product! The growth of people is more important than making money! Being a valuable person is more meaningful than being a rich person!

16. Everyone will be angry, even a good-natured person will probably curse a few words in his heart when he meets something that makes him uncomfortable. But some people are very cultured and won't let you hear his curses, because he knows that after an angry attack, there may be a temporary sense of carefree, but the side effects afterwards often need to be cleaned up with great effort. Wu Danru

17. jealousy is human nature, and it is self-cultivation not to lose your temper or even retaliate because of jealousy. We cannot suppress human nature, but we can be educated. -Zhou

18. A real gentleman always asks himself whether he is knowledgeable or all his undertakings, only how much he has. To what extent is it concentrated? How hard do you work? All achievements depend on your own efforts, not on others, and don't succeed because of others. In introspection, just ask yourself how to treat others, and don't ask others how to treat you. -nan huaijin's The Analects.

19. Life is practice, and practice is to cultivate one's mind and a normal mind. When you face all kinds of disappointments in life, you will not be serious or dissatisfied. As Master Huihai said, "Eating is not perfect, sleeping is not complete." Can live a happy life with peace of mind. -Nine precepts for lay people

20. A cultured person can show his anger without showing his face. But not in appearance, not necessarily anger does not affect his judgment and choice. Wait for feelings to be satisfied or vented, and calm down, so that intelligence will not be driven by feelings. -Jiang Yang's "Walking to the Edge of Life"

Tell me about the awakening philosophy.

Tell me about the awakening philosophy.

First of all, in real life, the second reunion is an unrealistic expectation. No matter how beautiful the mirror is, once it is broken, even if it is repaired, it is difficult to bridge that crack.

Second, a wisp of fragrance, self-purification, the pure land of idealism, a wisp of moonlight, a drop of dew, a white crane, feeling the sanctity of a flower and a dust, a leaf and a bodhi, all like flowers, and flowers are everything.

Third, life is like a journey, with crying and singing. At the end of the song, people left, but the painful people hurt themselves, and the injured people hurt themselves. After a dream, a prosperity and a glory, the king reigns in the world. As soon as I turned away from you, I spent my whole life forgetting you. Who let go of whose hand, who is more uncomfortable than who? This life, the afterlife, in my heart forever, covers the world, but it will always be prosperous.

4. Who can deny that thorns are accompanied by flowers, who can deny that wind and rain are accompanied by sunshine, who can deny that failure and success coexist, what is lost is gained, and being open-minded is a relief.

Five, a cloud river, a flower on the other side, fleeting time scattered at the fingertips, a shadow of broken thoughts, a wind flower, shallow songs into music.

Sixth, touch time, some thoughts, such as dust; Some dreams, faint, fingertip temperature, slip through the quiet years, and any acacia, enchanting Xiao Yue's eyebrows in the depths of my heart. For a long time, I danced across the ink and wash, leaned against the window and twisted a picture of a thousand years, and stood up by the moonlight to make a thin note for you.

Seven, quietly sitting on the lake in Liu Di, watching the breeze and the waning moon, counting mottled memories, deep meditation, drinking a glass of wine from the past, and indulging in the cold moonlight. Time folds, filled with the lingering fragrance of Xia Na; At the corner of the time, I miss it when I am warm. Holding a dead leaf and touching a deep and shallow vein, although it is a leaf, it adds a little sadness to this autumn.

1, successful people won not at the starting point, but at the turning point. There are no ifs in life, only consequences and results. 3, life is eight words, joys and sorrows, sorrows and worries, joy and happiness only account for two of the eight words, just see through it. 4. The time of youth is wandering, and it takes a lot of time to wander, and only a few moments to grow up. 5. Under the blue sky is sunshine; Come through thick and thin; Failure is experience; Success is brilliant.

Looking back on the fleeting time, who is the ignorant memory, who walked into whose dream, and who is the tenderness at the fingertips? Only the wind is like this, the fragrance remains the same, leaving the sky alone, confirming the story that happened in this world. Day after day, year after year, the lotus in Dongting is getting thinner and the years are white.

Ten, imagination is far more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited, but imagination covers everything, stimulates progress and breeds evolution. Life needs to wait, waiting for a gust of wind, waiting for a flower to bloom, waiting for the arrival of a dream, waiting for the strong voice of life. Don't wait until tomorrow, or you won't be able to grasp today. Everything in your past is no longer important. Please don't run aground again. Please don't delay any longer.

Walking on the foggy balcony. More than 480 ancient temples were left in the Southern Dynasties, and countless pagodas were shrouded in wind and rain. Invited to walk with the continuous spring rain, set foot on the first step and look up at the magnificent buildings with sloping corners.

In fact, there is one person in everyone's heart that can't be forgotten. You always think about it when you are bored, when you eat alone, when you walk in the street at night, and when you listen to music. Later, you gradually realize that this person will not change your life, whether he is with you or not. You will still eat, sleep and play, and meet friends. At this time, you will understand that there are some people in your life.

Thirteen, people live a lifetime, if born in summer flowers, life is like grass, more indifferent and true, less vain and flashy, then live a free and easy life. For people, life is a journey of going our separate ways. Whether you are sad or happy, you should feel it yourself. Rest quietly when you are tired. Relax gently when you are bored. A person on the road will gradually realize that life is a journey of self-improvement and self-challenge.

Ironically, as time goes by, nothing seems to have changed, but when you look back, everything has changed. Life is very tired. I'm not tired now, but I'll be more tired later. Life is hard. It's not bitter now, but it will be more bitter in the future. Only when you are tired can you have leisure. Only when you are bitter will you know the sweetness.

15, April, Chunfang has passed away, and the green is colorful. Perhaps it is because there is not too much romance, perhaps it is because there is not too much noise. The passionate April can't bear loneliness, and the restless heart turns into a raging rain, which makes people almost suffocate.

Sixteen, fate is responsible for shuffling, but it is oneself who plays cards! If you have good thoughts, the sun will shine on you; If you are beautiful, warmth will surround you; With great love, sublimity will follow you; Be considerate of others, and the true feelings will be returned to you; Be grateful, and noble people will favor you. There are two realms in life, one is silent pain and the other is silent smile. Life is hurt/painful/sweet and bitter, and every kind of trauma is a kind of maturity, which makes people think, make people strong and cherish!

The world favors ambitious people. The only condition for success is thinking. When your brain is running at the highest speed, optimism and happiness will fill your whole body. No one can do a good job in the fire of negative thinking. A person's most perfect works are all completed in a state full of happiness, optimism and affection.

Eighteen, life is alive, the road is in a hurry, there is always some love in life, there is always some attachment to the soul, there is always some warmth and winter, there is always some painful and strong journey, there are always some ups and downs, there are always some indifferent and relaxed hearts, there are always some stories accompanying the journey, truly flowing in the blood, waiting in the heart.

Nineteen, how many encounters touched the years; How much knowing each other warms life. If all encounters are fate, then fleeting encounters are an unbeaten flower in my life. Meeting, stopping and caring are enough to make my soft heart happy.

Twenty, the past experience is not enough, the present experience is not enough, and the future experience is not enough. We don't have to choose sentimentality for the doomed tragedy. But we can't stop practicing for the sake of future perfection and realize Zen in clear water. Let's not be confused by appearances and arrive at the other side of peace as soon as possible.

Twenty-one, the breeze echoed, and a melancholy was scattered in the shallow ink of the night. There is a comfortable bed under the screen window, with a guitar lying on the bed and a purple bamboo flute at the head of the bed. A desk lamp with a Buddha's light curled up shines my world into the depths of Zen. I sat quietly in Bodhi's pencil box, trying not to be contaminated with dust, as if I had seen through the world of mortals at this moment and made a positive result, waiting for the morning bell to shake and turn me into a Tathagata.

Twenty-two, many times we are not unhappy, just because we often cling to the unhappy side of things. Those who have a successful career say that the work pressure is great, those who have a leisurely job say that there is no future in this line, those who have no family say that they can't meet the right person, and those who meet are not suitable. Happiness kicks around like football, and troubles are like trophies. In fact, what we have is worth cherishing; Learning to enjoy the present life is happiness.

Twenty-three, many things are beyond your control, and the experience of mood is a kind of self-transcendence; Be happy when you are alive, because we will die for a long time. People's life, when they step into the road, there will always be a turn. Don't take shortcuts, shortcuts have dangers you don't know! I have been walking all my life, but I always take detours.

Twenty-four, everyone from birth, life is counting down. Time flies, along with the years, there are people and things we have experienced. Right or wrong, it has become the past, and indulging in it is a great waste of life. Life is alive, it is impossible not to experience loss. Instead of clinging to the past, clinging to the past, it is better to let it go. It must be sunny after the haze, and it is often the dawn after waking up from a nightmare.

Twenty-five, a green leaf in my hand, smelling faintly, fresh and cool, like the smell of clear rain in the south of the Yangtze River. Flowers fall everywhere, inadvertently, a touch of peach blossom is stunning, a touch of pear blossom is white and melancholy, floating in the wind, thousands of times, graceful and restrained into poetry.

Twenty-six, remembering Jiangnan, we met by chance, and you were arbitrary and always willfully refused to accept your fate. In late autumn, I often pick up a maple leaf and hold it in my hand, savoring the past. Occasionally look up at the clouds and listen to the graceful dreams. I really don't know how many moons I missed. Fireworks burning with passion rose in the body, melting the ice in the snow in Qian Shan, and touched countless insipidity and piety.

Twenty-seven, the grass is growing, and the willows are yiyi. Spring scenery gives people a kind of enthusiasm, a fantasy, a vision, and a look when sailing; The sky is high and the clouds are light, and the mountains are red. Autumn gives people deep thinking, harvest, victory and the joy of reaching the other side. Thousands of miles are frozen, and the snow is drifting in Wan Li. The winter scenery gives people a kind of quiet beauty, which is quiet and serene, and it is to prepare for tomorrow's voyage.

Twenty-eight, missed it. Maybe regret and youth are always tied together. I used to think that as long as I worked hard, I would get results. Now it seems that everything is meaningless. It's a good choice for feelings to do what you can. Just make a movie with the shock of death. Life really doesn't need it.

Twenty-nine, look at this autumn morning, she must be anxious, otherwise she is ignorant and time is short, how can she sing such a happy song; Look at that Qiu Guang, she must be in love with that flat land, otherwise her light should be fierce and fiery, but why does it exude such loving warmth? This autumn morning light, like euphemism, like attachment, like lingering love, will always make you intoxicated, crazy, crazy.

Thirty, tolerate a drop of ink in a glass of water, this glass of water immediately changes color and can't drink it; A drop of ink melts in the sea, and the sea is still blue. Why? Because their stomachs are different. Immature ears of wheat stand upright, and mature ears of wheat hang their heads. Why? Because the weight of the two is different. Tolerance of others is magnanimity; Humility is weight; Together, it is a person's quality.

Thirty-one, the blue night sky is clear and quiet. The twinkling and blurred starlight, like a child's eyes, is shining and brilliant. The windless night is quiet and serene, but I clearly heard the sound of nature, which sneaked into my heart from the boundless night and stirred my mood. My heart quietly bloomed like a summer flower.

32. The wind chimes of memory ring the rhythm in the fleeting breeze, but now it is the helplessness of the moon monologue meeting the wind. When I open the palm of my memory, I see another world that belongs to me. In this country, time has left me an indispensable seat, which is a pure land that belongs only to me.

33. I used to think that some things could not be let go. Over time, when you look back on the past, you will find that what you once thought could not be put down was just a springboard of life. If you skip it, you can become more exciting. The most difficult thing for people on the springboard is not the moment of take-off, but the inner struggle and helplessness before take-off. We thought we couldn't jump, so we closed our eyes, got up the courage and jumped.

34. Coming and going is the real free and easy practice, not to impress anyone, but to face the joys and sorrows, to praise life and to be as brilliant as him.

Thirty-five, shallow time, fragrant moonlight and flowers bloom silently at your fingertips. Walking leisurely, the corridor of the years is full of agarwood, and my thoughts wander. Looking back gently, it blooms gracefully. It turns out that the ink is mellow and floating, and it smells all the way through the four seasons.

Thirty-six, spring flowers and autumn moon, lingering season after season, warming the flowers of a tree; Those old feelings are floating, and those lingering memories are lush in the years; Holding a shallow brush to exile the years, blooming on the title page of life, warm and persistent; I only hope that this small stream will be accompanied by long safety and warmth, and a drunken beauty will flow; I am full of tenderness, gentle and warm in my hand, and worried eyes!

Thirty-seven, the philosophical punch line 1 is easy to go downhill. Freedom is not to do whatever you want, but not to do whatever you want. 3. Life is an excuse for losers; Luck is a modest word for success. The best way to impress people is to say what is most precious to them. Personality is not determined by what you have, but shaped by what you lack. 6. When you are depressed, kneel down and hug yourself, forgive others and let go of yourself.

Thirty-eight, life, don't be controlled by the past, it is the future that determines progress; Life, don't be controlled by ease, it is struggle that determines success; Life, don't be controlled by others, it is you who decide your destiny; Life, don't be controlled by money, what determines happiness is contentment; Life, don't be controlled by hatred, what determines happiness is openness; Life, don't be influenced by appearances, what determines maturity is to see through.

Thirty-nine, gazing at the place, thousands of miles of smoke, castles in flowers, deep in the misty water clouds, the ancients interpreted thousands of customs in their illusions, and the people and clouds with ancient charm quietly spread in their minds, a graceful and meticulous elegance, a graceful and light elegance. Push a passionate maple red, put nostalgic words, fade away all the joys and sorrows in the world, hold your gentle hand, snuggle up on your generous shoulder, and turn into a butterfly as close as wings, regardless of life or marriage.

Forty, plum blossoms fall in winter and bloom in spring. Every season will bloom or wither a flower, every year will experience or hide a love, and every year will record or have a youthful pattern; We are all the same, monsoon rains. We are all fragile, waiting for the charm to fade away. Life is just a passing thing. Only by grasping every season and every encounter can life be full of meaning.

Forty-one, when you are calm, you can hear your own voice. When you are awake, you can see the reality of everything. What you don't want to let go is often not worth cherishing, and what you strive for is often not what you need in life. The pace of life is often too hasty. You should learn to stop and laugh at the clouds, sit down and watch the flowers bloom, calm down and watch comfortably. When the mood is calm, everything reflects naturally, and the mind is extremely quiet, the moment is eternal.

Forty-two, fallen leaves leave the branches because of the arrival of the season; Fish leave the water because of the sadness of reality; You left me because of the end of fate. From this edge, to this edge, from now on, you are you, I am just me. The more brief the encounter, the more the true feelings of a lifetime are condensed. When the mind is stable and balanced, life will be happy without regrets, such as a beautiful picture, quiet, warm and quiet.

43. Tolerance is a kind of release. Sentimental people are usually unhappy because they care too much; Narrow-minded people are seldom happy because they care too much. Tolerance is like building a road, which is convenient for others and for yourself. People who like to care don't want to build roads, just don't want others to take advantage, but they ignore that they are blocked. Being a man, even if you can't bring happiness to others, don't dislike others' happiness.

Forty-four, we all know that people, no matter how beautiful they live, will be miserable; The road, no matter how chic it is, will be confused; No matter how loud the song is, there will be silence. People, each with its own position, each with its own bumpy scenery.

Forty-five, philosophical sentence 1, when the pressure is the greatest, the efficiency may be the highest; 2. When you are busiest, you may learn the most; 3. When you are most comfortable, failure often begins; 4. When it is extremely cold, the sun may come; Talk less and do more, and you will be valued by others. 6. If you talk too much and do too little, your speech will be ignored by others.

Forty-six, still water flows to its heart, and everything is fine. The world of mortals has finally faded away, in this self-exile. Listen, the Sanskrit of the years. If we walk with heavy thoughts and clear feelings. Then, all the troubles in the world are unspeakable enlightenment in Zen. All kinds of prosperity and pain in life will always disappear with the passage of time. The only thing we can leave is the Sanskrit sound in the hearts of these plants, which curls in every morning bell and evening drum.