Now the divorce rate is so high, why should parents and relatives carry this pot?

Now the divorce rate is so high, should parents and relatives carry this pot?

The reason why the divorce rate is so high now:

1 People have high demands on the quality of marriage, so they will no longer live, and they will separate if they don't want to live.

There are more people with personalities and no longer live in other people's discussions. They know that their marriage is their own decision.

I was introduced to a girl recently, and when she came up, she asked me if I had a house. A materialistic marriage can't stand a little storm. Girls take these things too seriously and make boys look down on them, which has already buried hidden dangers for themselves.

There are more and more mothers, and the marriage is constantly breastfeeding. The participation of parents leads to the intensification of minor contradictions into major contradictions, which is also a factor of divorce.

Modern people are more open-minded, and people who have been divorced in the past will be looked down upon, not to mention the second marriage. Now this problem basically does not exist.

In the past, people were very cautious about marriage. Although it is not said that parents' orders or matchmakers are necessary, most of them have been agreed by their parents, and there are relatively few family conflicts. Once they wanted a divorce, and their family and relatives also advised them not to split up. Nowadays, many young couples go to get their certificates without saying hello at home. Marry casually, and when they want to divorce, they are naturally casual.

Nowadays, many families are only children, and there is too much family participation, but the husband and wife are open-minded and rebellious, and the contradiction between the two sides is stimulating, so the divorce rate is naturally high.

In the final analysis, marriage and divorce have little to do with parents. It can be said that marriage, whether there is money or not, and who to marry have little to do with parents. Because you are an adult, your parents should take care of you, not your parents, but they don't want to see their children wronged and want to share it for them. Now many people think that parents should.

Married, parents want you to have a good life. For example, after marriage, your parents take care of your children, but they just think you are very hard. Helping you take care of your children is to lighten your burden, not to say that your parents have to take care of your children.

As for what divorce has to do with parents, life is between you two. Parents are obliged to help you, not to help you. How can you blame your parents for the divorce?

"As good as ever"

Children can't be financially independent, especially after parents have prepared a wedding room for their son, they have a strong desire to control their children's marriage, which leads to a large number of "mother-in-law men". Now, few parents think and do things reliably, and with the help of their eight-aunt relatives, marriage is a nightmare for girls, and girls who don't rely on marriage to obtain economy, housing and so on will definitely choose divorce.

I envy the love in the 1970s and 1980s. A paper umbrella and some love letters are not straightforward enough. Euphemism can make you ashamed to hold hands, and you can grow old together as soon as you meet.

No two people are born perfect. The right person comes through running-in. Two of a kind doesn't mean getting along well. The real perfect match needs running-in and mutual understanding. Being in love and getting along are two different things. Love depends on attraction, and getting along is a change. Correct management is the most important thing. The strongest feeling in the world is not that I love you, but that I am used to having you.

If you love, don't part easily. This marriage lasted for 78 years. Landis and Wenger, the centenarian American couple who set a world record, once said, "Even the happiest marriage in the world will have 200 thoughts of divorce and 50 thoughts of strangling each other." When you have the idea of divorce, the happiness and misfortune of marriage only lies in whether you can use your wisdom to save it in an instant. The maintenance of a marriage depends not only on conscience and responsibility, but also on wisdom and charm. At work, capable people can do well everywhere, and incompetent people can't do well anywhere. The same is true of marriage. A smart woman, no matter who she is with, can handle her marriage well. Even if a woman without wisdom ends a marriage, she will encounter such problems when she enters the next one. Marriage needs love and wisdom.

"Old-age love"

When divorce is about to happen.

First, handle it calmly and minimize contradictions.

When there are problems in your marriage, the first thing you should do is to block the news. Don't spread your story everywhere, don't look for people to complain everywhere, and don't speak ill of your husband everywhere. When others find out, it will have no effect on your marriage, and it will only make your affairs become their gossip after dinner. Men are proud. The more people know, the less likely he is to turn back.

Second, enhance your charm, and your husband will naturally return.

Don't revolve around your husband every day. Being at arm's length with him is not inseparable. In the past, the focus of your life was your husband. From now on, shift your focus to yourself. It can not only give him some space, but also relieve your own pain.

"cherish each other"

We must cherish each other and be happy together. A wife is the backbone of a happy family. So divorce is a problem for two people, not the fault of any family or relative. If you want to solve the problem, you must start from the individual. Do you think so?