Take it easy and talk well, and we will be happy.

Recently, I read several articles about "speak well" and happened to meet an interesting thing, so I thought I'd stick to everything and talk about my feelings.

I don't know when, "speaking well" has become a common topic for modern people, just like the pressure of work and life that modern people generally face. Since when does our life seem to be full of pressure? Why is our happiness index getting lower and lower with the improvement of social development level and salary?

Not long ago, I happened to be reading a book by Bi Shumin. She said, "The happiness test paper is like a homespun with elves hidden." In this article, she introduced our little neighbor Bhutan, a small country that I have only a little impression on junior high school geography textbooks. Its King wangchuck IV put forward the concept of "gross national happiness is more important than gross national product" in 1979. This gross national happiness is called CNH, also known as happiness index.

In 2008, King Bhutan approved the first Constitution, and Chapter 9 of the Constitution reads: "The state should strive to develop conditions conducive to the pursuit of gross national happiness." Happiness index is quantified from nine aspects, including: spiritual happiness, health, education, use and balance of time, cultural diversity and flexibility, good governance, importance of community, ecological diversity and flexibility, and living standard. At that time, Bi Shumin typed 290 questions, including 34 pages, on the printer investigating happiness index, using old continuous printing paper with holes. She said, "This long paper tape seems to be a homespun with a happy spirit." .

It can be said that in this world, many people are richer and more powerful than Bhutanese, but they are not necessarily happier than Bhutanese. King Bhutan's persistent efforts for many years have finally paid off handsomely, and the happiness index of Bhutanese people is obvious to all, which is rare in the world. At present, the wise Bhutanese government accounts for more than 30% of the national budget in medical care and education every year, and has long realized that all children receive free education and all those who set foot in Bhutan receive free medical care. I would like to ask, how many countries can provide free medical care to people who enter their territory regardless of nationality or race?

Therefore, the happiness of Bhutanese comes from the true happiness in their hearts.

I remember when I was a child, my family was poor and I couldn't afford the tuition of 28 cents a semester. After two years in primary school, I had to drop out of school.

Every afternoon after school starts, other partners in the village come home from school. I will lean against the door and watch them skip home from the roadside with their broken schoolbags. My mother and my sister didn't care at first when they saw me like this. Later, when they saw me standing by the door like that every day, they knew that I still wanted to study. So my mother, who didn't go to school one day, went to her mother's house to borrow three yuan from my second uncle after other children went to school for more than ten days, and sent me to the red brick wall primary school in the village.

I started my student days again. I went to town to take part in the competition in patched underwear. I ate the spicy "squeezed pepper" brought by my family with the dry food in the school cafeteria. After being criticized by the teacher, I used the noon time to rush a few kilometers home and carry firewood back to school ... After graduating from junior high school, I was admitted to the county key high school with excellent results, and after three years, I successfully entered the university and became the first child in the village to enter the university and jump out of the agricultural gate.

I don't feel bitter in those days when I don't have enough to eat and wear warm clothes. I am still grateful to my mother for borrowing money to send me to school that day, to my sisters for supporting me to continue my studies, and to the teachers, classmates and friends I met along the way. At that time, I didn't think too much, as long as I had books to read, as long as I could jump out of the farm, as long as I had a job, it seemed that I would be satisfied as long as I could go on foolishly. Even when I graduated from college, the initial work assignment was tortuous and unsatisfactory, but the calm face was a kind of contentment.

Recently, I often ask myself in my heart: Why are children so stressed now? Why do we live more and more relaxed? Where did the happiness we always thought go?

Think of CCTV reporters who have visited China many times: Do you feel happy? What kind of happiness do you want? Although China people's answers are varied, we feel that most people don't have the sincere happiness from the bottom of their hearts.

A few days ago, someone chatted with me and seemed to consciously ask me what I think of Y Jun (because Y Jun has something to do recently). I said, he is very pragmatic! Is a person who wants to do practical things and work hard. I said, why do you ask me this question? He said he just wanted to know what I thought of Y Jun.

Then he asked me: What do you think of President H? I said, I look on the bright side of everyone. President H is a thoughtful person, and also a person who runs the school with care and attaches importance to education.

He stopped asking. In fact, I know that he may want to find some advice from me. But I always look at people and see the good in others. Although I know there are some rumors about them now, I don't know or pay attention to them. What I see is the good side they show.

Moreover, in my previous work contact with H, I really learned that H is a serious and responsible thinking and management person. She gave up the rich life in the city and the children she needed to take care of, and went to a remote mountain school alone for five years. Every time she went to a school, she devoted herself to managing the school and making efforts for local education. How many people can do this?

Although Y Jun has always been a controversial person, maybe I don't understand the hidden side, what I have come into contact with is that he has been trying to do something practical for local education, including drastic reforms, and he has dutifully rushed to the front line of teaching. In recent years, he has indeed made some contributions to local education. Although some people were unbalanced, relaxed some demands on themselves, and some were willful and inflexible, they were often the kind of people who ate the play but didn't look good.

For me, I just express my opinion, look at the good side of people and talk well. Isn't it easy for people to get along with themselves?

Of course, it doesn't mean that I will only be a good person without principles. In practical work, people feel that they are principled and outspoken. As some articles say, many people speak too straight, even their best friends can't stand it. Straight people often don't forget to add, "I am a straight person, don't take it to heart." Now every time I see such an article, I will reflect on myself. In the future, don't "hurt people around you on the grounds of speaking straight", but learn to speak well and communicate with people calmly.

Before, I didn't think I would be insincere. I only know how to treat people sincerely. In my work and life, it is always right to think about the good side of others. It's hard for me to hate a person and feel unnecessary. If I saw the bright side of things, I wouldn't have so much hatred in my heart. I remember working for more than ten years before, and I was often told by my boss that I was too pedantic and didn't understand the world. However, the things in my bones may not change all at once. Later, I often comforted myself: Isn't it easier and more secular to look on the bright side?

I often think that we have been very serious and responsible in our work, and we have been running at full capacity, so life should be relatively simple and easy, so I have always adhered to the creed of "work hard and live simply".

People's energy and body and mind are limited, especially the spirit can't be nervous all the time, and working hours can't be relaxed. Then relax after work hours, so that life can be constantly adjusted and we can go further and better.

I finally realized that we can't have everything. If we want too much, people will be tired and bound themselves. So, start with the most practical and recent goal and work hard step by step.

Dr. Lan Hai once said: "If you realize that everyone interprets the world from their own perspective, and behind every anger, tantrum and anger is a call for love, you will understand others more easily." She also has a set of "peeling onions" method to control her temper, which is very enlightening. Therefore, at any time, you should learn to communicate well, talk well, try to think more about the good side of others, put yourself in others' shoes, observe and appreciate the advantages and disadvantages of people around you, and learn to be grateful. You will gradually find that warmth and happiness have already quietly surrounded us.