My sister is coming to my house for confinement, and my wife doesn't agree. What should I do?

Recently, a reader wrote about his dilemma: a few years ago, after years of struggle, the husband and wife bought a suite in a big city, and my sister in a small county was going to have a baby, and she wanted to have a baby in a big city with better medical conditions and go to their house to have a confinement.

The reader originally thought that there was an empty guest room in his house where his sister could live and his mother could take care of it, so he wanted to agree, but after discussing with his wife, he firmly opposed it.

"My sister wants to go home and have a confinement. What if my wife doesn't agree? " This problem has aroused the discussion of many friends around me.

Many friends said that he didn't consider the problem in a normal position at all, and even thought that his wife refused, which made him lose face. However, what is inconvenient for relatives to come to their home for confinement?

1, confinement meals should be separated.

Anyone who has been sitting for a month knows that sitting for a month has special requirements for diet, and it is necessary to pay attention to all kinds of food supplements, which are very different from what we usually eat and need to replenish qi and blood. If breast milk is insufficient, she needs to be provided with an accelerant. So if someone suddenly comes home for confinement, the difference in diet will be very troublesome.

Moreover, the maternal diet is not only different on the dining table, but also different in buying food and cooking. From these aspects, it is more difficult to eat at home. If my sister is left unattended at home, then my wife will inevitably be complained by her mother-in-law and brother-in-law.

2, confinement affects daily work and rest.

When the mother is in confinement, the newborn baby is inseparable from her mother. Therefore, my sister should also take care of the baby when she is confinement, and the newborn baby often cries at night. In the same house, others will inevitably be affected by this midnight cry.

For those who need to work during the day, it is very important to rest at night. If you are in this state of being woken up in the middle of the night for a month in a row, the quality of sleep will be greatly reduced and the quality of work will be deeply affected.

3. confinement increases the amount of family labor.

My sister is kept in her own house, and her health remains unchanged after delivery, so she often needs someone to take care of her, so she will bring more housework, such as washing clothes, making milk powder for her children, coaxing them and cooking. Who should do these extra housework at this time?

If you see that your sister and mother-in-law are busy, then as others, you must also help. So I have to do housework very hard when I get home every day, which will be very hard and add a lot of trouble.

4. confinement may affect the relationship between relatives.

Many parturients will have emotional changes when they are confined to the confinement. Although it is not out of the intention of the parturient, sometimes they can't control their emotions, so their tone of voice may be too heavy and even quarrel, because wealth itself is the object that needs to be taken care of. At this time, families who accept their loved ones will inevitably feel wronged.

In addition, a simple family organization, with more sisters and a baby's role, will make family relationships complicated and more difficult to handle. What if my sister doesn't want to leave after confinement?

Yes, if a relative comes to his house for confinement, it's not as simple as it looks. You have to consider issues such as diet, housework and interpersonal relationships, so it will bring a lot of inconvenience.