Changes in matchmakers and introduction methods

? Tomorrow, as a witness of a couple, I feel excited and responsible. This is a witness as a matchmaker. After checking the changes of matchmakers, I found that matchmakers are also called Wako, Matchmaker, Baoshan, Iceman and Matchmaker. They have different names in different times. Now they are called matchmaking agencies, and more modern ones are matchmaking platforms, such as Lily.com and jiayuan.com.

On the evolutionary history of the matchmaker, The Marriage History of China holds that "the matchmaker has the nature of intermediary and existed immediately in the age of buying and selling marriage; Almost buying and selling marriage has evolved into hiring marriage, and the middleman who buys wives and sells women has also evolved into a matchmaker, so it is difficult to match surnames. It is enough to spread the news of marriage through the media, or just an' emissary'. "There is a saying in the Book of Songs that' how to take a wife, a thief can't', which shows that the words of a matchmaker became an important condition for marriage as early as the Western Zhou Dynasty. Judging from the six ceremonies of the wedding procedure stipulated in "The Wedding of the Rites", from adoption, name asking, Naji, recruitment to invitation and wedding, no link can leave the matchmaker. " So men and women know their names through the media, and there is no media to pay; Men don't marry, women don't marry "On the Law of the Tang Dynasty" also said that "there must be a matchmaker in marriage", and the presence of a matchmaker is the legal condition for marriage.

The matchmaker system is also an important part of the ritual system: "Lu Huan will win and get married in Qi, but he was not reported by the media to get married, so the historian dismissed him as disgraceful." When he got married, he violated the etiquette because he didn't have a matchmaker, and was laughed at by later generations. In Guanzi, there is also "the daughter from the media, ugly and unbelievable", which shows that the media used in marriage has risen to the height of ethics and the media used is in line with ethical norms. Not using self-media is against ethics and should be despised. Zhang Dian in the Yuan Dynasty recorded that "the matchmaker is a local elder, a loyal wife and an official." Matchmaker is mainly composed of women, so it is also commonly known as matchmaker, which is an important occupation of ancient women in China. However, although the matchmaker system and matchmaker are extremely important,

The introduction method of matchmakers has also changed a lot. In ancient times, the introduction method was mainly to go to the homes of both parties, meet their families and talk about each other's personal situation, family situation and requirements. At the same time, observe the appearance and behavior habits of the man and the woman at close range, so as to make corresponding statements in each other's home. In modern times, the man's family and himself were taken to the woman's house for a face-to-face blind date. In today's society, the new introduction method is more convenient and direct. The matchmaker leaves a phone number for both men and women to communicate by themselves, or add a WeChat to each other now, get along slowly, get to know each other online first, and then meet again if you are interested. Basically, the introduction method is getting simpler and simpler. Faster and faster, the matchmaker does less and less, and the responsibility is getting smaller and smaller. By the way, success is not success.

Therefore, with the change of modern lifestyle, the role of matchmaker is not only women, but also people who are willing to help, classmates, friends and relatives, and the introduction method is faster. The establishment of some matchmaking network platforms further simplifies the procedures of matchmaking, and one platform can be used as the matchmaking service for everyone on the website. In short, no matter how the society develops, matchmaking will definitely exist, but the way will become more and more convenient.