My boyfriend and I often quarrel. What should we do?

You often quarrel with your boyfriend. Find out the reasons for the quarrel and adjust accordingly.

If:

1, personality incompatibility, long-term running-in is not good. In this case, it is recommended to let go.

It is difficult to change a person's personality. Even if there were changes at that time, I was actually controlling myself, and I gradually felt depressed. If there is not enough love as a prerequisite, quarrels may often break out. It's better to be apart than to feel so bad.

2. If you quarrel only because of disagreement, learn to be tolerant and understand.

The two are independent individuals, and it is normal to have differences. The best way is to think from the other side's point of view, don't think about yourself blindly, don't think that your statement is correct, and learn to absorb the other side's opinions. Only in this way can two people continue to associate.

3. If your feelings are weak, you should learn to operate.

In the process of getting along, two people will go from the initial love period to the dull period. Once in the dull period, all kinds of contradictions will come, and they will quarrel. In this case, if you want to learn to manage your feelings, you can leave work to travel, have a proper candlelight dinner and find opportunities to cultivate your hobbies, which are all good ways to enhance your feelings.

I met a boyfriend in my junior year. His personality is very outgoing and humorous. It feels good to get along at first. He will adapt to my quietness, and I will tolerate his shortcomings. But over time, two people can't reach a rhythm in the end, and they always quarrel over some trivial things. Every quarrel hurts my feelings, even I have the idea of letting go.

But after all, because it is not easy to know each other, I also advise myself to think calmly, find the reason for the quarrel, and then make adjustments. After all, feelings need to be managed, and everyone understands this truth.

We made further communication and determined that the reason for the quarrel was personality problems. And as we all know, people's personality is hard to change. And judging from the current situation, feelings have entered a dull period, and later we discussed and made a small plan to travel to enhance feelings. In this way, it lasts for a while and calms down for a while.

In fact, we all know that personality cannot be easily changed, and the change is only temporary. So, about half a year or so, I broke up.

My situation belongs to a quarrel caused by personality disagreement. Personality is hard to change, and in the end it can only be let nature take its course, because everyone knows that love without results can't continue, otherwise it will be very tired.

In short, we should learn to correctly analyze quarrels and solve problems according to problems. We should also learn to communicate, know what the other party is thinking and doing, and then choose the appropriate way to adjust. But if it is really a personality problem, you can only let go after you are sure that you can't change it.