Only when there is a way can there be virtue; When there is no Tao, there is no virtue; There can be no happiness without virtue.

The old man has no virtue, his family has fallen, his children have no filial piety, no happiness to enjoy, men have no ambition, their family has no prosperity, women are not soft, and they have driven away all their money. (A woman's temperament should be soft as water, so that she can be rich, and money and luck will naturally follow; If a woman is tough, fierce, aggressive, stubborn and extreme, vindictive and resentful, gnashing her teeth and glaring, the result will only harm others and herself, and the husband and wife will lose their happiness and their faces will wither. )

Old people should inherit the family tradition, parents should demonstrate the family tradition, husband and wife should steer the family tradition, children should inherit the family tradition, grandchildren should obey the family tradition, and brothers and sisters should contend with it.

Morality is the law of heaven and earth, and obligation is the law of individuals. If we break the law, people will be in disaster.

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As the saying goes, everything goes well at home. As small as the country's prosperity, social peace, personal happiness, career prosperity and physical health, all depend on a harmonious family.

This book is based on many years' quotations, works and lectures of China's famous modern peasant thinkers, educators and teachers. This paper tells the responsibilities of everyone in the family from the aspects of ethics and traditional ethics in easy-to-understand language. Call on everyone to go their own way and live in harmony with their families. What is harmony? Harmony is mutual respect and mutual courtesy. In this family ethics, we can only compare ourselves and reflect on ourselves; If we compare this kind of ethics and blame people around us, it will be counterproductive. In the family, we should know how to repay kindness with gratitude. "Don't look at the good of others, just care about yourself." For parents, "whether children are filial or not depends on their kindness." For children, "whether parents are good or not depends on whether they are filial or not", so that the family can live in harmony. Today, Qi Xin is building a harmonious family and society. This book may be of some help and benefit to you and your family.

Only when there is a way can there be virtue; When there is no Tao, there is no virtue; There can be no happiness without virtue.

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1, the old man is the star of the family, with virtue as the root. "Virtue" is the responsibility of a family and a peaceful family.

2, the old man's face is dusty, gentle and not angry, talk less, don't talk, don't talk about parents, take the lead in seeing each other's benefits, and have to take care of their families.

3. Ford is full, gentle and heavy, and his sex is like ash.

4, contentment, living at home. Carry forward the family style, praise Zude, and educate future generations to know how to be grateful, grateful and grateful.

5, don't mind your own business, don't worry too much about your children and grandchildren, "children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren."

6. Don't interfere in children's affairs, let go and give way to the younger generation to be the master, and don't get old.

7. There are problems at home. First of all, there are loopholes in the behavior of the elderly. First, we didn't do our duty. Second, we went too far.

8. If there is something wrong at home, the old people should be ashamed: my old people have not done well, are immoral and have not educated their families well.

No matter who is at fault in the family, no matter what disasters and right and wrong happen, it is nothing but a shame.

10, do not create right and wrong, do not say right and wrong, do not preach right and wrong, do not listen to right and wrong, be responsible for right and wrong, and are not afraid of right and wrong. Reconciling a family does not cause right and wrong, otherwise the old people are immoral.

1 1. Whether a family is developed or not and whether its children are prosperous or not is directly related to whether the old people in the class have good roots. The elderly are virtuous, and their children and grandchildren are prosperous; The old man is wicked, his family fortune is declining, his family fortune is not prosperous, and his fragrance is dead.

12. How can the elderly make a family prosperous? Is to do more good deeds and accumulate more virtues. On the one hand, Xiu De can be exonerated; On the other hand, he can cultivate morality for children and protect them.

13, the old man propped up a blessed land and created a blessed land. Fude is stronger from generation to generation, and Fuyao is more prosperous from generation to generation; Children and grandchildren are stronger than you, which means you have virtue, otherwise you have no virtue.

14, the old man is like the earth, silently bearing everything, embracing everything and educating everything. Old people are generous, and the family will be blessed.

15, old people love things, and their children and grandchildren are prosperous. If the old man is insatiable, he will eat up all the blessings of his family.

16, the virtue of the elderly is the best feng shui, the highest feng shui.

Parent Road (Middle-aged Road)

1, the star family of abundance, with ambition as its root. That is, taking the happiness of the whole family as our responsibility and benefiting the whole family.

2. Respect the old and love the young in the last life. Use gratitude to perfect everything and make the family harmonious.

3. Publicize the merits and demerits of the elderly and their ancestors to their children, show them the filial piety model of respecting the elderly, and enlighten future generations with gratitude for the kindness of their ancestors.

4. Don't arrange for the elderly to do things. They can do whatever they like, but pay more attention to the elderly and often advise them to have more rest.

5, parents are the beginning of human relations, the way of Yin and Yang, Yin as the mother, Yang as the father. The harmony between Yin and Yang makes everything grow, while the disharmony between Yin and Yang leads to mental pain and disagreement, that is, the children born must be bad in nature or lack of children.

6. Parents are children's first teachers and families are children's first schools.

7. Whether a child is healthy or not has a lot to do with his mother, and whether he is smart or not has a lot to do with his father. Whether he is solemn or not depends on whether his parents often do things with happy love.

8. If your children are disobedient and unfilial, first ask yourself whether you are unfilial to the elderly and whether you have done something wrong. I don't recognize my parents' achievements in the upper class, and I can't educate my children in any way.

9. Children's irrationality equals fruit acid. If the fruit is sour, you should work hard at the roots.

10, don't resent your children, let alone beat and scold them, because their success or failure is also related to their parents' own moral character. Second, we should consider whether our education methods are improper.

1 1, the five steps of educating children: raising, educating, teaching, leading and guiding, but not managing. The key is to cultivate morality and educate morality.

12, "management" means that parents let their temper go, find fault with their children and refuse to accept his temper, so the more they manage, the worse it is. Because using temper to control children is not only bad, but also arouses children's temper, contact, and even enmity between father and son, all because of parents' incomprehension.

13, children don't have to worry, they are all influenced by virtue. Understand his character, help him cut small branches and leave big branches. Not charming, not drowning, not hitting people, not swearing. Encourage more, affirm more, criticize less, and don't use material temptation.

14. Correct yourself first, and parents will first turn it into temperament and cultivate nature. Self-denial is the only way to educate children. Whether children are filial, ask yourself whether they are kind.

15. Children belong to themselves, to society and to heaven and earth. If a child can't teach well, it will affect his family, society and the world. Educating children well is a great responsibility.

Lovers Road

1. Husband and wife are the star of the family, with love as the root.

2. The whole family is based on love. Without love, families cannot be established. Love is the first condition for marriage.

3. If you love someone, you must first understand their responsibilities. Complement each other and improve their responsibilities. Inspire each other and play their role. If you don't control each other's freedom, you should give them happiness, not trouble. Complement each other and understand each other's physiology and psychology.

4, the standard of love: true love is selfless, feeling love has no frame (price), universal love is unconditional, true love is unbiased.

True love and selflessness: respect each other and don't give them any trouble.

I feel that love has no shelf (price): don't elevate your position and don't treat love as a business. Understand each other's benefits and admire each other's benefits; Understand each other's difficulties and forgive each other's mistakes. If the other party has it, you can enlighten and guide the other party to change.

Unconditional love: regardless of people, don't bind each other. Give each other freedom.

True love without prejudice: believe in it and don't doubt each other.

If you can do this, you will have a home and everything will prosper.

5. Love is the origin and general principle of harmony. Without love, it is impossible to build a harmonious family.

6. There are three reasons for the combination of husband and wife: one is to take care of each other and care for each other in life; Second, it is to have children and carry on the family line, leaving a beautiful human root for the world; Third, it is to better care for and take care of both parents and make the elderly feel at ease and happy.

7. Husband and wife should catch up with each other instead of blaming each other.

8. It was my husband's business, but my husband forgot to do it. A wife should not complain, but should do things well; Conversely, husbands should do the same. Make up for what the other party can't do. This is to trap each other.

9. After marriage, if a man can't lead a woman to the road, can't be filial to his parents-in-law, can't be filial to his middle-aged brothers and sisters, and can't be kind to his children, he is very filial and the old man is not at ease. If a woman can't help her husband become virtuous after marriage, she is filial to her in-laws, and the old man is not at ease.

10, the husband takes care of her parents-in-law, and the wife respects her parents-in-law; For example, to buy things for the elderly, the son-in-law should personally give them to her parents-in-law, and the daughter-in-law should personally give them to her parents-in-law.

1 1. Gender equality means equality in power and enjoyment. There must be no equality in responsibility and etiquette.

12, men have men's duties, women have women's duties, and yin and yang have their own positions. Men are upright and upright; Women are soft-oriented. "Gang" is motionless (don't lose your temper), and "Zheng" is right. "Softness" is as important as water, and "harmony" makes sense. Therefore, completeness is softness, and softness is completeness. Although the terms are different, the spirit is the same.

13, the husband and wife have conflicts. First, it violates the grace given by heaven and earth; The second is to violate the feelings given by parents; Third, it violates the karma of having more children and robbing more people. If you violate the karma of life's duty, life will lose its dependence on positive reports. The difference between husband and wife is the difference between life.

14, the way of husband and wife, that is, the way of yin and yang, the husband is righteous and the woman is obedient, and the gas of yin and yang is smooth, which cannot be opposed. Not only will they not get sick, but they will not die young. You can still have a good family, and your children will thrive. So men should understand women's ways, and women should also understand men's ways, so that families can be happy together.

15, sex (sex), body and mind. Is the real harmony between husband and wife.

16, Zhijie and his wife thanked each other and never complained. Italian couple are very happy. A husband leads his wife to become a teacher, and a wife helps her husband to become a virtuous man. They will never get angry. The couple in the inner world are polite couples, so they will govern each other! Couples in the physical world are abusive couples who disturb their lives.

Husband's way

1, you should keep your word, one is one, the other is two, and you keep your word.

2. Don't talk if you can't do it. If you don't keep your word, you will have no dignity.

3. Men belong to Yang, and Yang is selfless. Selflessness means expressing love for a family.

4. If you are selfish, you will secretly do something against your conscience and worry the whole family. This is not a good man.

5. Men should be "fair". It's not just beating and cursing, the person who beats and curses is an incompetent person.

6. "Help" means not only not hitting people or swearing, but also not answering, refuting or worrying when being scolded. Don't move (don't lose your temper). Be obedient, be at ease, and be a gentleman.

7. Men are divided into three types of husbands: weak husbands, violent husbands and husbands.

8. A weak husband is also called a coward and cannot support a family. Only Nuo Nuo, who just talks and doesn't do it, dares not take responsibility, pushes the woman to the front and follows her instructions.

9. Violent husbands are not fighting or swearing, and they are unreasonable. I don't understand my responsibilities, so I dare to run amok.

10, the husband has the courage to assume the responsibility of a family to convince others that the family is at fault, which in turn makes him feel ashamed.

1 1. To be a husband, you must settle down from the "three classes", which refer to the sexual class, the spiritual class and the physical class; Immortality (not losing your temper) is the key to sex; Can't afford selfish desires; No bad habits as the key link. Anger is sexual breakdown; Swearing is the heart; Beating someone is falling. "Help" is to lead, and women must get on the road, be filial to their parents-in-law, be gentle with their sisters-in-law, and be kind to their children.

12. Men are the backbone of a family. They should be sensible, ambitious and take good care of their wives.

13, if men do it, there will be fewer disasters at home; If men can't do it, the family will be troubled.

Wife's way

1, women are the mother of the country, the wife of the family and the wife of people.

2. Women should be soft, smile peacefully and be welcomed by the whole family.

3, like water, it is generally round and square, with five colors and five flavors. The original substances are the same. Happy-go-lucky, rich and poor, can be high or low, such as water can support everything, do not compete with everything, at the lowest place, low down, often admit that it is not, is the duty of women.

4, women have many things, men are silent; Women are not soft and their wealth is not prosperous.

5, don't just be violent, don't be impatient, don't talk too much, don't care about men's affairs. You should help your husband instead of your husband.

6. To be a wife, you must first settle down from the "three obedience" in order to help your husband become virtuous. "Three Obediences" means that the nature is from heaven, the mind is from reason, and the body is from reason. What is "obeying reason"? Do what you have to do. It is my duty to be filial to my parents-in-law, gentle to my sister-in-law, and to teach my children well. Not afraid of hardships and difficulties. Don't get angry, complain or regret after doing it. "Follow the truth from the heart": it refers to getting rid of greed and disturbing selfishness. All I can think about is how to repay the kindness of the old man. How to live in harmony and how to educate children? Keep the interests of the whole family in mind, and everything you do will naturally be harmonious everywhere. "Nature follows nature": we should not only give priority to immobile nature, but also eliminate temperament, improve nature and carry things with morality.

7. A woman has three wives: a bitch, a weak woman and a daughter-in-law.

8. Women are violent, controlling men, bullying men mentally, talking like thunder, being very strong, covering the sky with one hand, and being called a bitch. In this kind of family, the yin flourishes and the yang declines, the husband declines before he is old, or even dies young, and the children born are useless.

9. A woman who does nothing but rely on her husband and parents is called a weak woman.

10, women are lazy, complaining is the jinx of the family, and a bitch is not a daughter-in-law.

1 1. Daughter-in-law means to calm down the discord of a family, to be an auspicious messenger of a harmonious family, to be equal and friendly to everyone, and to be a blessing to the whole family.

12. If a daughter-in-law wants to be like water, she must be contented and happy, which means root and support her family, which is pleasant. Being a happy star of a family, being filial to parents, neutralizing sister-in-law and being kind to children can help a husband become virtuous. So her husband can serve the society, stand on the street and make a name for himself. Not only run a family, work in society, but also abide by your duties and make a difference. Only by having a long family life can we enjoy a long life.

13. Whether a family is happy, quiet and prosperous is very important. A woman can be a wife with water, have children, help her husband become virtuous and have a happy family.

Mother in law's way

1, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law at home are all foreign surnames, and they come to the same home, just like mother and daughter.

2. Tao is used in benevolence and righteousness, getting along with Tao and serving for life.

3. Not in line with the Tao, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not harmonious, the housework is not divided, the family is falling apart, and the family is unhappy.

My mother-in-law has been a daughter-in-law for many years, and when she marries her daughter-in-law, she becomes a mother-in-law. Daughter-in-law is the girl at home. As soon as I got married, I went to my mother-in-law's house and became a daughter-in-law.

My mother-in-law comes early and knows everything. Daughter-in-law came late and didn't know anything. Mother-in-law should take her daughter-in-law to the road, tell her what she doesn't know, guide her and don't do anything difficult, just like her daughter.

6. Originally, the daughter-in-law was not born to her mother-in-law. Mother-in-law doesn't understand the truth. Without showing goodwill first, she puts forward her shortcomings or controls her with her temper. How can my mother-in-law have a good impression?

7. Every family should imagine their daughter marrying into this family, and housewives should love their daughter-in-law as much as their daughters. If not, the daughter-in-law will treat the future daughter-in-law like this, causing a vicious circle.

8. I often mention the advantages of my daughter-in-law and thank her parents for their education. If the daughter-in-law is wrong, her mother-in-law will come quickly, be tolerant first, and then teach her a lesson behind her back. Never quarrel with her, the daughter-in-law will naturally be grateful and repay her kindness.

9. As a daughter-in-law, if you love your husband, you must love your in-laws. Understand that without in-laws, there is no dear husband. I sympathize with my mother-in-law's hard work before, and I have worked hard to raise my son. No more suffering for her mother-in-law, no more ordering her to do things, no more complaining about her words and deeds.

10, a daughter-in-law should treat her in-laws as parents. The ancients said: Everyone has two parents. Therefore, both parents should be treated equally.

1 1. I should love what my mother-in-law loves; I should respect the people I love. I'm sure I can win the joy of my mother-in-law. If you can understand the old man's heart and obey his wishes, you will get this word.

12, as a daughter-in-law, be reasonable: in-laws are real blessings. Don't want the old man, hate the old man, refuse to be filial to the old man, even if you don't want good news, there will be no good news.

13, unfilial parents-in-law, planted such a reason, and when the children grow up, they will get their own rewards.

14. In-laws are like the roots of a family. If they want to flourish and have sweet flowers and fruits, they must treat their roots well, fertilize, water and loosen the soil.

15, everything goes well at home. If you want to be rich and virtuous, you must teach your in-laws well to be rich. Otherwise, the rich flower dew and the rich grass head cream will not last long.

Zinv avenue

1. Children are the star of a family, with filial piety as the root.

As children, it is difficult to help parents in their livelihood when they are young. The most important thing is to let parents worry less. Not letting parents worry is the greatest gratitude. When you grow up, you should do your best to be filial to your parents' body, mind and ambition.

As children, we should take filial piety as our duty. Can inherit the ancestral business, carry forward the family style, and aspire to surpass the predecessors.

Giving the elderly material satisfaction is an obligation, not filial piety. "Filial piety" is to do one's duty, to reassure parents, not to cause trouble to parents, and not to look at their mistakes, which is the real filial piety.

5. "Shun" means accepting parents' words and deeds to make parents feel at ease. Even if the parents are obviously wrong, they don't refute it in person. Parents have, not only don't blame parents, but also improve what parents should do. It's called setting traps for parents.

6. Parents have had it, and children can make up for them, which is the real star of a family. Obedience is bound to fall into injustice, which is not true filial piety.

7. Our life comes to this home, which is tantamount to the life of this home. Good is the blessing of your life, bad is your own destiny. There are pains and troubles. It is this family that has made you, honed you and made yourself. Be grateful, too.

8. Ask yourself whether your parents are kind or not.

9. If you want to be filial, you should start with sex, mind and body. You can't be filial without sex, you can't be filial without sincerity, and you can't be filial without self-cultivation. If you want to be truly filial, you must clear the three realms.

10. "There are three realms of filial piety". The three realms refer to sex, mind and body. Filial piety should pay attention to parents' food, clothing, housing and transportation, and adopt parents. Filial piety should follow the hearts of parents everywhere, and I love what parents love; Near, I should follow it; I should respect the person I kiss. Filial piety should make the old people naturally happy, not sad, don't let the old people move their hearts, and make fun of their grandchildren in order to have a happy year.

1 1. Filial piety is divided into filial piety, filial piety and filial piety: filial piety means respecting and understanding the elderly; Filial piety means trying to provide parents with material needs; Filial piety means forgiving parents' mistakes, which is great filial piety.

12. Parents are filial; Making parents happy is filial piety; Keep your parents' aspirations in mind, so that parents can feel at ease and be happy, and don't worry about them. This is filial piety (sex).

13. Children who are unfilial will be rewarded. If you complain that your family is poor, you will be poorer.

14. Children are filial and parents naturally live long; If parents live a long life and their children are not filial, it will bring great troubles to their parents all their lives, and such children will become losers.

15. Being alive can make the elderly feel at ease and happy, which is filial piety; An old man dies peacefully and with a smile, which is the end of filial piety.

Brothers and sisters island

1. Brothers and sisters are the heavenly helpers of a family, with righteousness as the root.

2. "Righteousness" means unconditional help at all costs. If one person is in trouble, others should help him in place, and those with good conditions should try their best to help those with poor conditions.

3. If you are in the same room and share the same roots, it will make your ancestors turn gray and you will become weak and isolated. If brothers and sisters can't love each other, parents must be worried, and filial piety is still incomplete. So if you honor your parents, you have to live in harmony with your brothers and sisters.

Brothers and sisters are like brothers, so they should respect each other, sympathize with each other, help each other and fill each other's gaps.

5. To get help from brothers and sisters, you should know how to be grateful, grateful and grateful.

6. My brother is half a parent, so he should set an example, help his father establish a career and help his parents improve everything. We should inherit the aspirations of our parents and follow the virtues of our ancestors.

7. Brothers should love their brothers and sisters like their parents.

8. Sister should regard elder brother as elder. What my brother can't do is to make up for him.

9. Don't gossip and blame your brother and parents.

10. Lively and thrifty, ordered to be thrifty and loyal.

1 1. Learn the virtues of the whole family and carry forward the fine family style. If you can do it, a family will prosper.

12. After marriage, don't compare wealth, compete with each other, and each family will do better than the other.

13. Brothers and sisters should not fight for family property, nor should they hurt their brotherhood by marrying the bride. The way of brotherhood is the word "love", which is endless and involves filial piety. If you hurt your hands and feet and your family, you will go against the sky and be punished by God in the future.

Guniang island

1. Women are the source of the world. If you want a good world, a good country, a good society and a good family, you must start from a girl.

If you want to be a good girl, you must know the girl's way.

3. The girl is the star of the family, ambition is the root, sex is cotton, and the family is full.

Taking ambition as the root means resolutely fighting greed, being filial to parents, respecting sister-in-law and loving nephews and nieces.

5. Sex is like cotton, as white as cotton and as clean as jade; Soft as cotton, not grumpy;

6. If cotton is warm, it is not cold for others; Don't give up as long as you have cotton.

7. You can do everything, without choice or separation. This is why sex is like cotton.

8. A girl is the guest and the host at home. She should be aware of everyone's benefits and be able to bring up the harmonious and happy spirit of the whole family and form a family relationship.

9. Girls are the key to a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. When you meet your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you should persuade both sides. Say the benefits of my sister-in-law in front of my mother, comfort her heart in front of my sister-in-law, understand my sister-in-law, and mention the benefits of my mother on weekdays.

10. In this way, filial piety in front of mother and eldest brother and sister-in-law. A happy family will be full of affection.

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12. Being a good girl at home, becoming a monk will definitely be a good daughter-in-law, helping her husband get married, respecting her husband, living in harmony with her in-laws, and making the whole family happy is the real happiness.

13. If you have children in the future, you will naturally teach your son to become famous and be a good mother.

14. When I get old, I will be an old lady, or I can take care of my family and be a lucky star for my family.

15. If a girl knows how to do it, she will be clean.

16. When you are a girl, you must practice being a daughter-in-law in advance and grasp the happiness of your future marriage.

65438+ If you persist in charming and lazy habits after marriage, it will inevitably lead to family conflicts and you will be extremely painful. Therefore, in front of parents, a daughter must first learn to serve Weng Gu.

18. Girls are irresponsible for the family economy. If they worship enjoyment, form luxury habits and start their own families, then they are absolutely or relatively responsible for the family economy. However, due to his extravagant habits, it will inevitably lead to family conflicts and he will suffer greatly. Therefore, in the girlhood, developing simple living habits and cultivating the virtue of thrift are the cornerstones of building a happy family in the future.

19. When you are a girl, you should practice housekeeping. Such as economic domination, housework management, children's education and guidance. Are the responsibilities that must be faced and assumed after marriage in the future. If you are lazy and shy, your parents will be partial, and you (the girl) will suffer in the future.

Friend Dao

1. Like-minded people are friends, and synonyms are friends.

It is moral for a gentleman to make friends, but it is proper for a villain to make friends.

3. Being able to persuade good rules is a friendship between morality and a gentleman; Making friends pays attention to snobbery, wine and meat, and you will encounter advantages. Once you lose, your friends are finished, and they are small partners.

4. A snobbish friend who is interested in righteousness cannot last long.

5. As the saying goes, "If you are near Zhu Zhechi, you will be black if you are near Mexico." Therefore, we should be close to good friends with benevolence, righteousness and morality, and stay away from bad friends who only know how to spend money and drink.

6. Get along with friends, choose the good ones to follow and change the bad ones, so that you can get the benefits of your friends without being hurt.

7. If you go with the flow blindly, regardless of good or evil, right or wrong, you will get tired of your friends.

8. People who have good ideas can be kind and correct themselves without tiring their friends. They can also use morality to turn their friends over and try their best to be friends.

9. Being responsible for kindness is the way to be friends, but you should stop blaming your good friends, otherwise your friends will be unhappy. There are few friends.

10. If you want to be right first, you must be right first, be well-behaved and persuasive, and your speech will be effective.

1 1. Smell anger, smell pleasure, hurt friends, but benefit friends; Smell the fear of fame, smell the joy, trust the scholar directly, and gradually blind date.

12. It is important for friends to get along and leave appropriate space for each other.

13. The way to be friends is to trust each other first, so that we can share the same interests and learn from each other. Not only his own relatives, but also his only son. All men are brothers within the four seas.