Everyone has a superficial scenery, but in fact, every family has a difficult experience, right?

I think it's right. Every family has its own problems. Every family has some difficulties that outsiders don't know, and also has its own unique difficulties. On the contrary, a family has its disappointment. As the saying goes, you have your difficulties, I have my difficulties, and everyone has songs that are difficult to sing. Life is not easy, there are no people who enjoy themselves all the time, and there are no people who have been down and out, so don't laugh at others easily.

Home is a small group of many people. Everyone has his own understanding of things, so sometimes conflicts arise because of different views on things. Every family's environment is different. Under the influence of different environments, people will become different, have different ideas and sometimes have different conflicts. Things are different for everyone. His own ideas may be different from those of his parents. Everyone will make different decisions because of different personalities, but he will always give and take.

Every family is not perfect. When you are upset, be happy and don't lose your kindness. When you are busy, pay attention to rest and don't lose your health. Stop when you are tired and don't lose your company. Everyone is ordinary. It must be a special fate to make you a family along the way, so cherish this fate and cherish your family.

Mr. Wang from my cousin's company was majestic at the meeting. After returning home, he put on his household clothes, apron sleeves, danced around the pot, cleaned the stove and brushed the toilet, just like a housewife. He couldn't believe his eyes. Do you think he wants to? That was forced.

Mr. Wang has been engaged in hydraulic system equipment. He has three companies with nearly 65,438+0,000 employees. My cousin is in business and has a close relationship with Mr. Wang. There are big and small things in his family that need entertainment.

He will come to my shop and dig two people to help him at home.

Once, we refitted the gas pipeline in our shop and had a two-day holiday. All the employees went to visit the Bund. Only my father and I were left in the shop, and my cousin asked us to go to Mr. Wang's house to help.

Their villa has three floors up and down. When we went, Mr. Wang said that he was making soup in the kitchen. He came out to meet us in an apron and sleeves, without any presidential pride.

After entering, a chubby girl in pajamas came down from the second floor. Judging from her age, she is in her twenties. Listen to Mr. Wang and tell Linlin to call her uncle and aunt.

Linlin's eyes glazed over. I thought I just woke up. She just replied, oh! She didn't let us sit on the sofa and grab a handful of grapes and put them in our mouths. The way she eats makes me curious.

Girls in normal families will dress up when there are guests at home, which is the most basic etiquette, not to mention dozens of people will visit at home that day.

Sit down and have a cup of tea. According to Mr. Wang's instructions, we put on our work clothes and chef's hats and went to the kitchen to prepare lunch!

At the same time, Linlin came in for something to eat from time to time. Mrs. Wang and Grandma Wang just looked at her and told her to eat slowly and stop choking.

At noon that day, all the executives of the company were invited. My cousin accompanied the guests instead of Mr. Wang. Mr. Wang didn't touch a drop of wine and poured a cup of tea, thanking us for our help.

I packed my things and went home with all kinds of questions, and the father of the child was also at a loss.

Later, my cousin brought Manager Wang to our store to eat grilled fish.

They took cellar wine out of the trunk. It should be expensive. (2) Someone pushed a cup for a change and drank a bottle of wine backwards. Mr. Wang said that he was not drunk and asked me to heat him two more bottles of yellow wine.

The guests have all left, only the two of them are in the lobby, and the employees have finished packing and returned to the dormitory for lunch break! My wife and I sat down to chat with them.

He clasped his father's hand and said, Brother, I really envy you. Your children are happy and free, and can do whatever you want.

I was depressed when I was around. You are rich and have several villas. We have nothing to envy for earning a few wages! I think he's a little ironic.

At some point, he actually shed tears.

It turned out that his wife took medicine at the beginning of pregnancy, and everyone advised her not to give birth. She is stubborn and won't listen to anyone.

As a result, when the child came to learn to speak, she found that her reaction was very slow. At first, she thought it was normal to have another child in two years, but her wife insisted on not having one, saying she would be ashamed of her daughter. She just wants to give her full love.

I don't know when, a person secretly went to have a vasectomy.

When Mr. Wang was young, his family was poor, and his father-in-law helped him get where he is today. At the same time, he also supports his brother and younger brother and his two sisters.

His family rose to the top because Mr. Wang married Mrs. Wang, and his father-in-law had deep roots, so he couldn't run away. If he acts irrationally for his own happiness. This will hurt the whole family.

Mr. Wang lives like a puppet. In fact, he doesn't have much choice. Everything from company affairs to dress style is up to his wife.

It seems that listening to politics, he is very wronged.

He is so envious of the freedom of ordinary people.

His favorite food, mashed garlic and white meat, has been completely quit since he got married. His wife can't smell garlic and doesn't like going out to eat.

Therefore, in addition to business trip, he must go home and cook.

Take care of your daughter and wife before going to the company in the morning.

I asked her why she didn't hire a nanny, and she said her wife wouldn't let me. The driver was arranged by his wife and the secretary was her. He feels that someone is watching him all the time.

Once, he really felt wronged and went to the sauna with my cousin. After returning home, he was bullied by his wife's three brothers and one younger brother, and was beaten black and blue.

He said that he had been greedy for money and could not blame others. For the freedom of his family, he can only continue to live like a dog.

He said that occasionally the owner of the dog would put a rope for him to play with.

He pointed to Bentley parked outside the window and said that the driver was waiting outside! After that, I gulped down the yellow wine in the cup.

It's a life that looks like infinite scenery, but in fact it's suffocating.

Suddenly I don't envy rich people at all!

Behind the surface scenery is also a chicken feather.

It turns out that everyone's pot covers are a little black.

God is actually fair. What he gave you is bound to lose. Fate has marked the price in the dark.

You envy other people's luxury villas, others envy your ordinary enrichment, and that kind of elusive light happiness.

The point is that freedom is priceless.

I am glad to be able to answer this question. It is true that every family has a hard experience, because life is like this. Let's say a family that looks beautiful. I have a friend whose father is the boss of a well-known enterprise in the province. He is a very powerful person, that is, rich and powerful. He is a typical rich second generation, well-fed and well-off.

Outsiders look envious of him, but several of our intimate friends know that he is unhappy, and he has little contact with his father since childhood, so that his relationship with his father is very general now, and he always quarrels. According to him, "the two are strangers who rarely meet." Apart from money, that feeling is hard to make up, and precious memories are gone.

There is also a high school classmate. His father is a deputy magistrate and a big shot in the local area. He studied in general, but he had a strong family network and went to a good university. After graduation, he arranged a good job. After my father retired, he really stopped taking care of tea, and his usual contacts gradually faded. He is used to being taken care of by others and lacks his own ability, so he has also suffered a great blow at work and lost confidence.

In fact, life is a drama and a kind of cultivation. Although you come from different backgrounds and families, you can't escape birth and death. In just a few decades, you have money and no money, and you have the right and no power. In the end, there are only two results. One is that you have gone through hardships, understood the meaning of living, and passed away safely; The other is that you get drunk and die in a gentle box.

If you want to understand, the most important thing left is the example of life, and the spirit of living is not only the wealth left to society, but also the sail left to children!

This is very correct. Everyone looks beautiful, but in fact, every family has its own problems.

The so-called superficial scenery is not entirely true, and the normal state of life is like this, but it is true that every family's life has many unsatisfactory places, which is what the subject said.

Let me talk about myself first.

On the surface, I graduated from 2 1 1 key university, and my family paid a down payment to buy a house in Qingdao. I got married last year and got a good wife. Now I have a stable job in a state-owned enterprise and drive to and from work every day. My daughter-in-law is pregnant this year and will be promoted to father next year.

In fact, if you buy a house, you have to pay back the mortgage of about 4,600 yuan every month, and the parking space loan of 2,300 yuan can be paid back in 5438+ 10. State-owned enterprises have stable jobs but low incomes. Especially this year, affected by the epidemic, all employees have their salaries reduced. Only 2000 yuan last month. It's really ... I don't want to quit my job, I want to change my job. I found that I have learned nothing in state-owned enterprises in recent years. On the contrary, I weakened my previous working ability a lot, fearing that I could not keep up with the pace when I entered the society. I'm 30 years old, and I'm not sure if I can be like.

Fortunately, my daughter-in-law earned more than 1000. However, my daughter-in-law's company was also affected by the epidemic this year, driving away many people in disguise. The rest of the start requires mandatory 996. My wife will work an extra week next week.

The wife who gave birth to a child will take maternity leave next year, and her salary will be affected. In addition to the expenses of the child, she will basically have to live on her laurels.

Dad bought a house in the county this year, with a total amount of 600 thousand. He took130,000 from me and 300,000 from his boss, which will be deducted from his salary every month. My mother is still in the market to earn money, 5,600 yuan a month, and she still lives by taking a taxi, but when my daughter-in-law gives birth to a child, my mother has to come up to see the child.

I'm a little worried about money.

There is a colleague elder sister in the office, and the conditions at home are very good. She drives her own BMW to work and is in her forties. She just had a baby last year. It's a son. It is also decent to clean every day, and the family is also the kind with a nanny all the year round.

In fact, her father just had a heart bypass surgery last year. My father-in-law checked this year that he might have to have a bypass if his heart is not good, and he often went to the hospital. Mother and mother-in-law are in poor health and can't help her look after the children. After all, they are not young, and they are almost 70 years old. Her husband often travels on business, and everything at home is her own. She said she was tired, old and small now. A few years ago, when she was young, she was too tired to give birth to a child and was brisk for many years. Now she has returned it.

Now she took a long vacation directly from the company and went home to concentrate on family affairs.

There are countless such phenomena in the village. Several families are poor and have no money at all. They also bite their teeth to buy a car, so insurance is just a compulsory insurance. The car stops at the door every day because gas is expensive.

There is also a story told by a neighbor in the community. He was driving a BMW 5 Series that day, and his neighbor's car only lost a little paint. BMW's mirror was broken, and the traffic police came to sentence BMW to full responsibility. The BMW owner was almost crying at the time. His car was only in danger, and BMW had to replace the mirror and assembly 10000. . this ....

Agree with the subject, indeed.

Just like a hundred flowers blossom in spring, everyone wants to show their positive image. Positive, sunshine, health, happiness, wealth and so on can all be displayed. We are often used to "going home in clothes" instead of "walking at night in clothes" to gain recognition, win respect and meet our spiritual needs. I think this is understandable and cannot be simply defined as "vanity".

As the saying goes, "unpleasant things are often eight or nine times, but you can talk to people in the same way." I'm afraid the perfect life only exists in fairy tales. Behind the beauty, there will inevitably be regrets or imperfections in one way or another. Perhaps because of "saving face", we seldom say unpleasant things to others, and we are not good at talking and listening.

Just as celestial bodies maintain vitality through movement, a gentleman should constantly pursue self-improvement. In the face of disappointment, I suggest that we still need to face it with a positive attitude and try our best to solve the problem instead of avoiding it. In the adult world, there is no such word as "easy". "If you want to get ahead in front of others, you must suffer in front of others." Life will not be merciful because of our weakness, which will reduce our suffering on the way. Only by facing up to difficulties, never looking back and not afraid of setbacks can we hope and possibly overcome them.

At the same time, we should also have an objective understanding of our own abilities, which can be achieved by our own efforts and which are beyond our power. Make a practical goal in life, "three points are destiny takes a hand, seven points depend on hard work", don't be too hard on yourself, face the task that you really can't complete, shake hands with fate and make peace with yourself.

This question is a true portrayal of everyone! It's really hard to be a man, especially one who keeps the scenery on the surface all the time. I have worked hard, struggled, and even often fantasized, just to win more scenery. Don't say that every family has a hard experience. Isn't that what everyone does?

Light light blue in the next room is his wife's niece, in her twenties. She is tall, with good features and good temperament. She has no job, and she has no job. She married a developer who is 20 years older than her, wearing gold and silver, wearing famous brands, driving a luxury car and living in a villa. The scenery is infinite, and her neighbors, relatives and friends are envious.

Lan Lan's husband, Zhang Buge, a suburban vegetable farmer, has little education, but he is cool, honest and honest, entangled with a group of unemployed people, forcibly contracted the project and earned the first bucket of gold. With the acceleration of urbanization, the rapid expansion of the city and the huge demand for housing, he seized the opportunity to set up a real estate development company, which was prosperous and made a lot of money.

Shortly after marriage, light light blue gave birth to a daughter. Brother Zhang was very angry at the sight of giving birth to her daughter. During the confinement, she only visited and disappeared. Light light blue and the baby are served by her parents, and we can't stand it. But light light blue said that her husband is very busy and earns money very hard, which is understandable and she doesn't care.

Later, I learned that Zhang myna has two wives. The first one couldn't have children, but she didn't get divorced. Now she is still in charge of everything in the family. The second wife (living together without a marriage certificate) has two daughters. Zhang myna was dissatisfied and bought her a villa and a luxury car. She pays 30,000 yuan a month for living expenses and lives with her second wife until she marries Light Light Blue.

We asked if we knew that there were two wives in front of Zhang myna, and they had contacts and close ties. Light light blue has long known that our generation can't accept eating together often. Light light blue said that her husband is very kind to her and she loves her husband. She said that in the new era and new life, as long as you are good to yourself, you don't care about anything else. We are speechless.

Last year, light light blue gave birth to another child. She thought it was a boy, but turned out to be a daughter. It is said that Zhang myna longed for her son and was disappointed that she didn't have a son. Now she seldom goes back to light light blue's house. It is estimated that she has been philandering outside until she gave birth to her son. Light light blue dared to speak out, so she hated her stomach and didn't have a boy.

To tell the truth, my cousin wears gold and silver, drives a luxury car, lives in a mansion and has unlimited scenery. But all day, she was in fear and extreme pain. She is afraid that one day her husband will move away and her mother and daughter will be swept out of the house, leaving her with nothing. After all, she and Zhang myna haven't got a marriage certificate yet. It's a de facto marriage, and wealth is hard to protect.

In fact, I don't love Zhang myna. She loves Zhang myna's money and gets it for nothing. For money, Zhang myna can stand how many women she brazenly finds. It's pathetic. Of course, Zhang myna doesn't love it. What he wants is for Lan Lan to have a boy and carry on the family business. Therefore, the surface scenery, the heart has a difficult experience.

Food and agriculture Dell, a family statement, don't spray if you don't like it, thank you!

Answer: That's right.

In real life, this is indeed the case; Many people have superficial scenery, but in fact there are many troubles and sorrows hidden in their hearts. It is said that "every family has its own problems", which expresses the feelings of many people who know their lives and days. Every family has its own life pressure and burden, and everyone is pursuing a more perfect life. In the process of pursuing this, there will be fatigue, frustration, pain, trouble and so on. Gu Xiao's family should take care of her husband's family and her family. If you want to read family classics well, you must first deal with the problems of family, love and friendship. Every day is different, and the "small episode" in life occasionally disturbs the mood and is also very annoying. Rich people: have their own troubles, and poor people: have their own annoying side.

I want to let myself not worry, and read my home book well; You still need to work hard to be yourself and properly handle everything at home. People are tired when they are alive. Try to avoid some unnecessary unhappiness in the "dribs and drabs" of life pressure. People can't desire too much, it will increase a lot of troubles and pressures, and learn to live a simple and happy life! It is enough to make yourself happy every day!

I think it's right. I know an aunt whose life looks beautiful and envied by others. But only she knows her inner pain. After she told me, I realized that every family has its own problems. Whether they have money or not, only they know the pain.

My aunt was born in a poor family. In her early years, because she had no money, her husband left home and she came to this city to work hard. The work of going out early and returning late, and working hard day and night, finally took root in this city with their hardworking hands.

1993 or so, the city has not yet developed, and several roads connect the whole city in series. Not far away, I left the city unconsciously and looked at the fields from a distance.

Aunt and her husband discussed it and applied for a piece of land to build a house in a village not far from the city. When the population is sparse, people from the mainland are encouraged to stay.

After spending all my aunt's savings, they successfully built a two-story building. After a few random brushes, the house was not renovated.

Aunt, they have their own children, two sons and a daughter. As time went on, unconsciously, there were more houses next to my aunt, all built by people from the mainland. Become more lively and prosperous.

The city is also developing. The registered population and floating population are increasing year by year, and there are more and more foreigners in the village, but at this time, people who come here can no longer build houses.

Foreigners came to the village to look for extra houses to rent. They all come to work. They can't afford to rent a house with a rent of1500-2,000 yuan in the community, so they have to come to the village to find a house of 200-300 yuan.

The neighbor next door to my aunt's house found business opportunities and saw that the city was developing faster and faster and the population was increasing. Urban buildings are about to surround the village. So the neighbors began to build houses on the building, and one * * * built four floors, and the total * * * reached six floors, renting the extra rooms to migrant workers.

I saw the neighbor next door pay the rent and go out to earn money. After discussing with her husband, the aunt borrowed a sum of money to build a building on the sixth floor in order to make money for the children to live a good life, and all of them were rented out.

With the rising rent of the house, my aunt and they quickly paid back the borrowed money. At this time, there are many people in the village, which is undoubtedly a small town. People come and go, and I don't know when it will become what others call a village in the city.

At that time, the city people looked down on the villagers and thought that they were just working and had no culture. Poor living conditions, many migrant workers, dirty and messy.

But in 20 17, the government suddenly announced that it would rebuild the old city, demolish all the villages in the city and give cash compensation. Soon, the government issued a complete announcement. The demolition office was set up, the area was measured at the aunt's house, and the word "demolition" was painted on the wall.

The people in the village in the city have suddenly become the relocated households in the eyes of others, which makes people envy.

Banks, real estate companies, insurance sellers, car sellers and so on. Wandering around the village every day is to wait for people in the village to demolish, buy a house, buy insurance, buy a car and so on.

Aunt, they have become people with infinite scenery, which makes people envy. As soon as the house is demolished, they are richer than most people in this city and can live the life they want.

According to the demolition office, my aunt's house should be able to compensate about 5 million. Hearing this number, the whole family was shocked and fainted all day.

Suddenly I don't want to do anything. Isn't working hard all your life for money? As soon as the house is demolished, everything is available.

The days of waiting are long and urgent. After the last measurement of the demolition office, Auntie signed a compensation agreement with them. The people in the demolition office said to them, wait for the money!

Soon after, more than 5 million yuan of compensation was paid to my aunt's account. They stood by the building and took a photo, then packed their things and left the house, and moved into a modern residential area to rent a house temporarily.

At the same time, like auntie, many relocated households flocked into the community.

The housing price in the residential area has gone up, from the original unit price of more than 6,000 to more than 2,000 per square meter, becoming more than 8,000.

Auntie couldn't wait to see the housing price rise in the community, so she quickly bought three suites in the hands of the intermediary company. She lives with her husband, eldest son and youngest son. She bought 120 m2 for her two sons and 100 m2 for her. Furniture and home appliances are also equipped, and it takes 3 million to get down.

But she only forgot her little daughter. I asked her, why don't you buy a house for your little daughter?

She said that her daughter would always get married, and then we would just give her a dowry.

But what would the youngest daughter think? After many unsuccessful discussions with my aunt, I directly took them to court and demanded that the compensation for demolition be shared equally.

Outsiders see aunt's beautiful scenery, and aunt also has a difficult experience. According to her thoughts at that time, she felt that her daughter would get married sooner or later, so she couldn't buy a house. But what age is it now? Equality between men and women. What's wrong with my daughter asking for money?

I asked her what happened. My aunt said that my little daughter dropped the lawsuit and they gave her 800 thousand. The rest of the money is left for her son to get married, buy a car and have a wedding. Now she doesn't have much money in her hand.

They haven't been to work since the demolition. People who know them are envious of them, thinking that they are relocated households with a lot of money, but in fact they don't have much money.

Since the demolition, the two sons have become idle and spent a lot of money eating and drinking outside. According to this aunt, they still owe a lot of foreign debts, and their daughter doesn't want to associate with them.

Some people look beautiful on the surface, but in fact, every family has a hard experience, and only they know how hard it is. If you want an ideal life, you must keep trying to create it. Otherwise, even if you have money, you are idle. The scenery on the surface is not the real scenery, only the inner strength is the real scenery.

Everyone's surface scenery, in fact, behind the glamorous, most of them have unspeakable sadness and pain. What people see is only unique scenery. Every family has its own problems, and there is no perfect family.