Mom and Dad, the reason I don’t want to get married is because I see you...

Article/Xiang Jian hates late

Some people say: Marriage is the tomb of love, while others say: Marriage is the best result of love.

But of the two stories below, I only saw the former.

Story 1: "Golden Wedding" must have been heard by everyone. It was once a smash hit classic family trivia drama. I am not a big fan of dramas, but I was surprised to watch it from beginning to end. In the drama, the Tong family wanted to have a son. When they learned that it was their third daughter, they randomly named her "Duoduo" when registering for her.

"Prioritizing boys over girls" is not the focus of what I want to say. What I want to say is the environment in which the third daughter grew up. Maybe it’s because there are so many children and too many chores in the family. Ever since Duoduo can remember, mom and dad have always been quarreling, always quarreling, and even “staged” a “war” with dad beating mom. Therefore, in this kind of family life, Duoduo became single until the age of "four years old" in anger.

Her mother was very worried about her marriage, and later nagged her every day that it was time to start a family. But she said confidently: "Mom, why are you getting married? It's fine for me to live alone like this since you and my dad have been quarreling all our lives."

Parents, you always say that your children are too ignorant. , always treating marriage as a child's play. But have you set a good example in marriage? When you vent your emotions to each other, have you considered the trembling hearts of us, these children? If you control your out-of-control behavior at that time, maybe we, the children, will suffer less harm to their hearts. How can your temporary preaching make up for the damage that has taken root in my childhood?

You may say that this is just a TV series, but it is this TV series that reflects real life that makes it so memorable to the audience, including me.

The reason why I can’t forget this drama for a long time is because it is the epitome of real examples around me.

Story 2: It was time for me to go to junior high school. My neighbor Xiao Zhang got married to his girlfriend who he had been dating for several years. During their relationship, they were not as good as a dozen other couples around them. Xiao Zhang is always so considerate and attentive, and his girlfriend is a good-tempered woman. According to other neighbors, they have never heard them arguing in the past three years, which is enviable.

A few years after we got married, I went to college, and their son was seven or eight years old. One time when I came home, I heard Xiao Zhang and her wife making a big fuss. I asked in confusion. My mother, they never quarrel. My mother sighed and said: "That happened several years ago. In recent years, they have always been quarreling. Sometimes Xiao Zhang gets drunk and beats his wife." My mother continued Said, "It's just a pain for their children. Every time the two of them quarrel, the children are always scared to death. One day their son Zhuang Zhuang cried and told me, 'Auntie, I will never get married when I grow up. Look at me. Mom and dad, we quarrel every day'".

Later, my mother told me that Xiao Zhuangzhuang was now in boarding school, but he told his friends that he didn’t want to go home on weekends because his parents would continue to visit him every weekend. quarrel.

Everyone knows: Parents are their children’s first teachers. But how many parents are truly “teachers”? I always feel that the child is still young and doesn’t understand anything, and he is a family member, so there is no need for him to control his emotions and solve the problem on his own.

However, parents, have you ever known that although children are small, they are still living people with small thoughts! They grow up in the trivial matters of your life, and your behavior in handling the trivial matters of life is their best textbook!

Parents’ behavior may not seem to concern their children, but their behavior of making loud noises or even fighting in front of their children makes the already weak children even more afraid of everything, including what you adults say. Beautiful love and marriage.

In everything, facts speak louder than words. Parents, please set an example of a harmonious life as a couple, because: The reason why I don’t want to get married is because I saw how you were quarreling!