Should I lend money to my brother to buy a car?

Logically speaking, you don’t have to buy it, because you are not obligated to spend money on your brother, and buying a car is not a small sum. It will definitely cause conflicts between you and your husband, and it will make your husband’s family unhappy. People are unhappy. As a sister, you can take care of your younger brother, but you must do so appropriately, not blindly, and within your ability. If the family's conditions are good, you can lend 30,000 to 40,000 to your younger brother with your husband's consent. If the conditions are not good and your daily life is difficult, there is no need to help your younger brother.

In rural areas, many parents now believe that older sisters should help their younger brothers. Some families even sacrifice the older sister’s happiness to help the younger brother. For example, they use the sister’s gift money to give their younger brother a wife, without caring about the elder sister’s status in her husband’s family. How are you doing? There are many such phenomena now. And most parents are more or less patriarchal, so they think it is natural for older sisters to take care of younger brothers. If they don't take care of or help, then they shouldn't.

If your brother has a job and is very hard-working, but he really doesn’t have that much money, you, as the sister, should help him to some extent. If your brother doesn’t have a job, does not do his job every day, and is idle, you Don't take any money. If this continues, it will only be a bottomless pit. The first time will be the second time. If you give him money to buy a car, your parents will definitely think that you have money. Whenever something happens, they will come to you. It doesn’t matter whether you have worked hard to earn money or not. You just have money anyway. In the end, even if you give money, you will not get it right. This will only make you get used to your brother and ask you for money unscrupulously.

For married people, the husband's family will be very concerned about subsidizing the natal family, so you should think carefully before giving money to the natal family and discuss it with your husband.