How to develop children's non-intelligence factors in family education

There is a saying that "the father taught badly" in The Holy Amethyst. There are countless family education pamphlets such as lessons, admonitions, family letters, aphorisms and family instructions in history, and some family education stories, such as Meng Mu's three moves and her mother-in-law's tattoo, which are widely circulated. It can be seen that in ancient China, family education was valued and became a common social atmosphere. 2 1 century today, most families attach importance to children's intellectual development, but neglect the cultivation of non-intellectual factors such as children's learning motivation, interest, emotion, will and personality, which leads to biased family education content and affects the improvement of children's overall quality. With the deepening of family education research, people pay more attention to and care about the influence and role of non-intelligence factors in children's growth. Therefore, we must attach importance to the development of children's non-intelligence factors in family education.

At present, the development of children's non-intelligence factors in family education is worrying, mainly manifested in: (1) theoretical research is lagging behind, and school guidance is weak. The research on non-intelligence factors has a long history, but it has not been systematized. Most of the research focuses on school education and teaching, and there is a lack of research on non-intelligence factors in family education. So far, the development of non-intelligence factors has not been clearly included in the category of family education. The school lacks the guidance of theory and method for parents, which makes the development of non-intellectual factors in family education have a fault. (2) Parents' ideas are backward and have not received enough attention. Some parents think that the development of non-intellectual factors is the teacher's business, not their own; Some parents think that non-intelligence factors have nothing to do with learning, and their thoughts are vague; Other parents think that the content of non-intelligence factors is complex, which can't be effective in the short term and there is no way; Many parents think that it is not easy to develop children's intelligence, and it is difficult to develop the time and methods of non-intelligence factors. (3) Parents' development method is simple and unscientific. When parents develop their children's non-intelligence factors intentionally or unintentionally, many people also lack scientific methods because of lack of theoretical study and guidance. Autocratic parents often ignore the cultivation of children's interests and emotions, which often leads to children's rebellious psychology and lack of curiosity about learning; Self-floating parents often neglect the cultivation of children's motivation, which often makes their children's learning objectives unclear and lack social responsibility and learning motivation; Spoiled parents often ignore the cultivation of children's will, which often makes children lack the ability to restrain their psychology and control their desires, and lack their adaptability and independence; Contradictory and punitive parents have a great influence on children's personality, which easily leads to loneliness, depression and stubbornness.

In view of the above problems in the development of non-intellectual factors in family education, I think family education should do the following:

First of all, we should start with the goal and stimulate children's learning motivation. Families should attach importance to children's ideological education and purposeful learning education, let children set lofty aspirations from an early age, link their personal aspirations with the fate of the country and the nation and their own behaviors, and enhance their sense of responsibility in learning, so as to maximize their enthusiasm for learning. Parents should avoid empty preaching when educating their children, and pay attention to analyzing all aspects of their children from reality. We should guide them by combining the stories of famous scholars and scientists in history and the advanced figures reported in newspapers and periodicals. For example, introduce the stories of Sun Yat-sen and Zhou Enlai when they were young, tell them the noble qualities of loving the motherland and the people, help children broaden their horizons and improve their ideological realm, and encourage them to be virtuous, talented and knowledgeable people and make contributions to society no matter what career they are engaged in in in the future. That is to say, parents should attach importance to vicarious reinforcement, so that students can obtain psychological satisfaction through individuals and play a role in enhancing their learning motivation.

Second: Starting from cultivating interest, induce children's thirst for knowledge. Interest is a great motive force for human beings to know things and engage in activities. People's interests play a preparatory role in future activities, promote creativity and innovation of activities, promote ongoing activities, stimulate and maintain attention and develop intelligence. Interest can reduce the fatigue caused by learning and maintain learning activities for a long time. When children have a certain interest, they will be able to give full play to their consciousness, initiative and enthusiasm, so that learning can get twice the result with half the effort; On the other hand, if you lack hobbies, just studying and moving will only get twice the result with half the effort. A good parent should not only pay attention to children's intellectual development and activities, but also do everything possible to stimulate their interests and hobbies. When tutoring children in learning or reasoning education, we should pay attention to using flexible methods to stimulate children's interest. When children show some signs of hobbies, they should make use of the situation, create conditions to cultivate them, and strive to form special skills as a reference to guide their children to further their studies or employment.

Third: start with cultivating healthy emotions and enhance children's self-confidence. Parents should be both instructors and actors in their children's emotional world. Parents should be good at expressing their inner feelings to their children, effectively infect their children with emotions, and cultivate their emotions, sentiments and morality. We should respect children, attach importance to their opinions and have full confidence in them. Parents should praise and fully affirm their children's little progress in time. For children, praise and reward can let children know their own advantages and strengths, consolidate and carry forward their own advantages and strengths. Usually, we should pay attention to the little things in life to induce children's good feelings, encourage children to care about classmates and friends, love small animals and take the initiative to help people in need. Educate children in school to care about the collective and care for public property; Respect your elders and honor your parents at home. Parents should also pay attention to arrange their children to participate in some recreational spiritual activities during the holidays, avoid the interference of meaningless stimuli, and keep their children happy and balanced.

Fourth: Teach children good study and living habits from exercising their will. Besides intelligence and physical strength, it is also related to perseverance. Parents should be good at grasping everything in life, cultivate children's self-care ability in specific links, encourage children to do their own things, encourage children to help parents do some housework within their power, and form good habits of regular life, orderly study and love of labor. The cultivation of good children should be managed every year, taught every month and talked about every day. Parents should care about the gains and losses of children's willpower training, even if they give help, guidance and encouragement. Parents can educate their children by talking about the city, performing sketches, praising and encouraging. Of course, in the process of cultivating children's good study and living habits, the role of role models is also very obvious. Parents should pay attention to their words and deeds. Parents' words and deeds have a subtle influence on their children. Parents should first do what they ask their children to do. Parents should also cooperate with the school to carry out hard education and labor education, encourage their children to participate in summer camps, hiking and other activities, and sharpen their perseverance in overcoming setbacks.

Fifth, start with optimizing the family education environment and recognize the good personality characteristics of children. Shaping children's good personality characteristics must start from an early age. Parents should consciously create a good family education environment for their children. Family education environment not only includes the explicit environment of family study and life, but also refers to the implicit environment of family members' feelings, interests, hobbies, conversation, upbringing and style. Parents should pay attention to improve their own quality, improve their moral literacy and educational ability, and shape their own good moral infection. They will know how to be loved and loved. They are lively, cheerful, honest and kind, and can respect their elders and care for their companions. On the contrary, if their parents often turn against each other, they will fight with each other, even punch, kick or discriminate against the elderly, and quarrel and call names with their neighbors for a trivial matter. Under the influence of this environment, children may be timid and afraid of causing their parents to say something wrong or do something wrong. Therefore, parents should set an example, overcome bad characters such as rudeness, withdrawn and depression, correct unscientific education methods such as "stick education" and letting themselves go, and cultivate children's healthy personality characteristics.