"If you make a wrong choice, your efforts will be in vain": There is a kind of wisdom called "knowing how to choose"

"Young people don't work hard, but the elderly are sad." Since childhood, the word "hard work" has been emphasized countless times, becoming the number one "chicken soup for the soul" in the world.

When I was young, my parents and teachers would tell us to study hard. After work, the leader will tell us that it is easy to do it. In the media, those who have made great achievements are often labeled as hard work. Just like the famous chicken soup for the soul: people who are better than you work harder than you, why don't you work harder!

In fact, hard work is very important, and no pains, no gains. Without hard work, it is absolutely unrealistic to expect a pie to fall from the sky. But please don't attach too much importance to the role of hard work. Hard work is not everything.

In learning, there are always students who study hard but have average grades; In the workplace, you can always see all kinds of busy but depressed people. Like most people, they work hard, but as time goes by, they are farther and farther away from success.

Hard work did not give them the life they wanted. Why? Because they ignore something more important than hard work: choice.

Choice, in fact, we do it every day, but some people can't do it well. Many people like to say that they have a phobia of choice, and they are unwilling to take the initiative to make decisions when they encounter anything, using the difficulty of choice as an excuse to avoid responsibility.

Ji Se, graduated from Shandong University, is a freelance writer. She has a cool and rational mind of a science and engineering woman, and delicate feelings on the contrary. She used the book "Wrong Choice, futile effort" to guide us to choose and solve the choice problem in life.

Choice and effort are the two most important parameters in life, similar to strategy and tactics. The strategy is wrong, even if you try harder, you can't pay for the mistake.

In management science, there is a famous saying: you can't use tactical diligence to cover up strategic laziness.

Someone once told such a story:

A farmer cultivated several acres of land. In summer, he had to carry water from the distant river and return to the fields for irrigation.

One of his carpenter friends saw the farmer working so hard and said to him, "You work so hard every day. How about I make you a waterwheel? It is much easier than carrying water by yourself, and irrigating farmland is also very effective. "

The farmer said, "thank you for your kindness, but I am still used to carrying water by myself every day." Besides, I'm afraid that when your waterwheel is built, my seedlings will be dead. "

The farmer's efforts to carry water and deliver water every day can't meet the demand of seedlings in the field at all. Soon, all the seedlings in the field dried up.

Many people may laugh at the farmer's stupidity. Obviously, the technology of waterwheels is much more efficient than that of farmers. Why doesn't he want it?

But, did you find out? There are many such "farmers" around us.

Ask yourself, when we are faced with some choices, is it really because we don't know the right option? Maybe we just don't want to face it and dare not bear the consequences of choice, so we hesitate and stand at the crossroads of life, not knowing which way to choose to move on; So we are afraid, afraid to make wrong choices, and afraid that our choices will bring burdens and challenges to the future.

My tutor in my writing class often tells us: don't just bury your head in pulling a cart, but also look up at the road!

Choosing is like looking up at the road, trying is like burying your head in a cart. If the choice is not correct, just bury your head in the cart, then there is a great possibility of problems and you will take many detours.

If you go the wrong way, you can't get to your destination. Just as enterprises should determine their strategies before applying tactics, individuals should make correct choices before making efforts.

Social changes are changing with each passing day. Everyone is wrapped in the torrent of the times, very helpless, and don't know where to go. Change has become the norm.

If you want to choose a direction at will, you want to change your life another day, which is almost impossible to achieve; And choose the right tuyere, pigs can fly.

Muddle along, don't choose. Actually, not making a choice is also a choice. It is likely that you have been working hard all your life, just lifting your legs in place. It seems that every step is hard, but in fact it is just standing still, and it is more likely to be retreating. Take the initiative to choose, don't let the future you regret today's choice.

In Xiaoping's southern tour speech, he often mentioned a sentence: if you can't take a new road, you can't do a new career.

In today's changing times almost every day, we are all confused seekers, always standing at the crossroads of choice, and our attitude towards life is often full of contradictions.

Maybe today, when you see the story of Ma Yun's struggle, you immediately have a great passion and vow to start your own business. However, as soon as I turned my head and drank a cup of tea, I remembered the birth ideas of the nebula masters, and my passion suddenly went out. Originally, I just wanted to live a Tao Yuanming-style "Peach Blossom Garden" life.

In fact, whether you want to be Ma Yun or a nebula after China's entry into WTO, it is a suitable way as long as you listen to your heart.

Chalina, born in a small mountain village, received the same education as us from childhood, studied hard to get into a good university and found a good job.

After studying hard for ten years, she was admitted to the Law Department of Tongji University. After graduation, she returned to her hometown. She passed the written examination and was admitted to a government unit and became a civil servant within the system.

In everyone's eyes, she has a decent and stable job, a house and a car at home, and will get married and have children in a few years. Her life is so complete that all her classmates envy her.

At first, she enjoyed this life herself. The work within the system is not as leisurely as expected, and there are many things to learn. In her spare time, she also likes reading books, and her life is very fulfilling.

With reading more and more books, there seems to be a force in her heart awakening and starting to reflect on her life, but she is so entangled and contradictory that she dare not make changes at the moment.

The resignation of the senior in the same system became the fuse of her action. When her brother left, he said to her, "Leaving is not a soldier, but staying is a soldier."

Brother's words woke her up like thunder on the ground. She doesn't want to complain about the life arranged by her parents all her life, and she doesn't want to spend the rest of her life in the regret of "if only ...".

Some people choose to be ordinary and confused all their lives, while others are unwilling to be ordinary to create their own value.

Chalina chose to be the one who was unwilling to be mediocre. She resolutely went to Chengdu alone with a savings of 30,000 yuan, and lost the title of a famous student and entrepreneurial pioneer. Everything started from scratch.

In order to save money, she can only eat noodles for a long time. There are confusion, confusion and fear, but she doesn't want to go back to her old life.

She spent a year reinventing herself, learning writing, speaking, PPT from scratch, making friends, doing offline activities, studying career planning in her spare time and becoming a career planning consultant. In one year, she achieved the goal of professional freedom, and her income reached the level before she resigned.

She founded "Rebirth Planet" and wrote a book "How to Start a Personal Career from 0 to 1" based on her own experience and insights from practice, hoping to influence more people.

Asked about the courage to choose, she said, "I know, I can't deceive myself any more. I want a better life, at least I can't accomplish nothing, and I can't make excuses for myself. I can't take a new road or do a new career. "

Whether you are born or join the WTO, you have to make some achievements. Chalina just wants her life to be different without regrets. Now she is busy with her own career and has a different youthful color.

In fact, Master Xingyun, who advocated the practice of being born, once said: "The greatest sorrow in life is that you have no hope for the future; The worst habit in life is not planning for work. "

It can be seen that although Master Xing Yun advocates spiritual detachment and practice, he does not encourage people to retreat in their own shells and cover up their failures and hopelessness with detachment and insight.

The most taboo in life is to achieve nothing in vacillation, not to create clouds, but to become morning dew that disappears in the sun.

Buddha said: A thousand lamps are not as good as a heart lamp.

Originally, you planned to take the postgraduate entrance examination and want to go higher and further in your favorite field. However, your parents want you to settle down early and live a stable life from nine to five, so you should take the civil service exam and do a job that can be seen at a glance.

So you have many fantasies about marriage. I hope the person you love can sing with you in spirit, and it is always hard to find a bosom friend. As you get older, you finally compromise and marry your blind date. ...

Compromise is an instant thing, but persistence is a lasting test. Only the lamp in the heart can make people stick to it.

Colleague Xiao Zhang, when he just graduated, was full of confusion about the future. Most of the other colleagues are from ordinary classes, with good foundation and strong ability, while the young ones do nothing but work as assistant designers. However, he is diligent and willing to learn, and runs around with his master every day.

Five years later, with a confident smile on his face, he was able to undertake projects independently, and his salary rose from 1000 to 10000 per month. How did you get through these years? Only he knows best.

Go all out, learn design with the master, and use the weekend to teach yourself to design software. First, imitate the case and keep drawing and designing, and then help the master to change the picture. Slowly, he can follow the master's ideas and realize the design concept on the drawings.

Every little progress is a great encouragement to Xiao Zhang, and he has always insisted that there will always be a bright light burning in his heart. His persistence and persistence will definitely make his road wider and wider and his life better and better.

All the gloom in life is just a moment, and you should also light the lamp in your heart when you are against the wind. When the storm subsides, we can still pack up and go!

Our life is always spent in choices again and again. Some of these choices are very important and may involve the direction of life, such as volunteering for the college entrance examination. Some choices are simple and unremarkable, such as what to take out.

However, will these major choices really affect your life completely? Or maybe a simple lunch choice won't have any effect on you?

After graduating from college, many people engage in jobs that have nothing to do with college majors. A simple lunch choice may be because it is convenient to order takeout, but it is harmful to health because of hygiene problems.

Choose, choose, choose again. We do this every day, but many people can't do it well.

Not all choices are good choices. Only when a decision is made will it be a mature choice; Anger can only lead to a hasty departure.

In this regard, Kyrgyzstan gave some suggestions, such as:

1. Choose actively, not passively.

When making a choice, the right time is the most important.

3. Always leave yourself the possibility of making different choices.

Choosing is trying and screening, which can help you find the right path in turning around again and again. The important thing is to make a choice as soon as possible, don't hesitate, and work hard.

Thinking too much and worrying too much will only make you lose yourself. Even if the choice is wrong, you should have the courage to stop loss. When everything goes back to zero, we are not without everything. With the accumulation of experience and re-selection, we will be more confident and calm, and more sure of what we really want.

In ancient battlefields, when besieged cities plundered land, soldiers would climb up the city walls with ladders. If he takes the ladder in the wrong direction, not only can he not complete the task, but he may also lead to the annihilation of the whole army. Choice is like building a ladder.

In today's era, at any time, you should understand that choice comes first, effort comes last, and choice is even more important than effort. If the choice is correct and the efforts are not enough, it is still possible to achieve the goal after experiencing twists and turns; And if you choose the wrong one, you will take another road, so that you will never reach your goal or even go astray.

Work or life. What determines our life is sometimes not our efforts, but our choices. So, please don't just bury yourself in your efforts, please make your own choices carefully before you work hard.

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We are always inseparable from choices, and every choice you make has a vital impact on life and the future. Remember, choice is the beginning of everything and the first step of your efforts.

There is a kind of wisdom called "knowing how to choose"! Wrong choice, efforts are in vain! There are not so many choices in life, don't wait for regret!