"The evil of parents"? Is my misfortune all the family's fault?

No, being born in a family is just a rising star who doesn't want to change. As an adult, you shouldn't always blame your failure on your family background. There is no denying that past experiences have a great influence on our lives, but we should not let ourselves live in the past, but how to treat past experiences.

For a time, I fell into the demonization trap of Origin and Destiny. I felt that all my misfortunes were brought by my parents, and I began to look for all kinds of unfortunate experiences in my childhood, but I forgot the happiness my parents gave me.

I began to demonize myself in "Origin and Fate", and the more I thought about it, the more I felt sorry for myself, and I felt a sense of frustration that I would always be so unlucky in my life. At first, the whole person's temperament changed greatly, and he began to lose his temper with the people around him, complaining about the incompetence of his lover and the ignorance of his children.

Although I know it's bad to lose my temper, I don't think it's my fault that my parents lost their temper like this. I feel like a victim, and all my mistakes are borne by my family.

Later, I have been reflecting on why my family has become like this. My husband and children have not changed, but I have become ignorant of myself.

Parents' wrong way of education allows them to continue invisibly, but they forget their feelings and the courage to change everything. Why do they want their children to make the same mistakes? We should take the essence and discard the dross.

When calmly analyzing, I found myself caught in the whirlpool of family background. Think calmly. In the process of growing up, there are some bad experiences, but most of them are good experiences.

At that time, most parents used the same way of education, and it was essential to beat and scold, but others did not have such problems and fell into the problem of being born in a family.

When you want to understand, you will find that every parent can't know how to be a parent after giving birth to a child. They are also groping slowly on the road of children's growth, and they will make mistakes in the process of groping again.

It is impossible not to allow parents to make mistakes. Sometimes they just love us in the way they think is good. You should know that there are no "perfect parents" in the world, just like there are no perfect people.

If all my misfortunes are attributed to my family background, can my parents' misfortunes also be attributed to my grandparents? Can the misfortunes of grandparents be blamed on one grandparents and the previous generation? If so, it will be endless from generation to generation.

Excessive mention of family background will only make us stay in the past and stop. What is the ultimate goal? It is to escape, to avoid changing the existing status quo, and to lack the courage to face reality.

We can't choose our birth. Some people always complain about their poor birth. Our parents can't give us rich conditions, but they never thought that their parents would love themselves as much as they do. These objective conditions have always existed and there is no way to change them. The only thing that can change is our own thoughts.

Think about why some people in Descent are worse than themselves, but they have different lives, which lies in their different ways of looking at problems. The same problem will have different results if you look at it with different thinking.

Maybe I didn't have many choices when I was young, but I am an adult, and the final choice is up to me.

Reminds me of Wallis, an African supermodel, how bad her family is, and the hand of traditional bad habits keeps getting closer to her life. But again and again, brave changes have made her, letting her drag the final decision into her own hands.

She can enjoy a free life on her own stage, but she thinks of those women who still live in the land with bad traditional habits, so she shows her most painful side-once circumcision, and begins to fight for the abolition of female circumcision. This road is so difficult, but she has the courage to constantly change the status quo. I believe that such courage can make circumcision a thing of the past and make African women stronger.

There is no denying that "Evil Descent" does give us some good and bad things, especially some people think that "Evil Descent" is so bad that it is impossible to reconcile with "Evil Descent". The only thing I can do is to change myself. After all, the decision of adulthood is in my own hands, and I can make changes. I have to believe that I have such courage.