There is also procrastination, which is always pushed back. What should I do?

Like you, I have a serious procrastination and my life is a mess. Stay up late and stay in bed. I don't like cooking, I don't like being told what to do, and I put everything off, so I quit and didn't succeed in the end. Waste time in vain. In short, everything is for myself.

So I decided to change.

But how to change it?

At first, I focused on time management websites, software and applications. It turned out to be useless. Really. Waste time in vain. Trust me.

Because procrastinators don't insist on these softwares. Maybe you are not, but I think most people should be. For example, I downloaded a software, and the novelty passed in a few days, and it was the same feeling in the end.

Some softwares let you keep records: bedtime, study time, reading time and so on.

I hope you can record what you do on it 24 hours a day, every hour, every minute.

Really tired. Maybe you said you could insist. ...

Are you sure you can focus on your mobile phone 24 hours a day? Write down everything you do? It is impossible for me. Or, can you hold on for a month? I'm afraid not for a week.

If you really insist, I don't think you are stalling.

I don't want to define procrastination here. Act like a tractor-define it by it.

So, the topic is coming: how to get rid of procrastination?

1. Take the initiative.

When you are called to cook, wash dishes and sweep the floor, you may be sitting in a chair writing or reading Weibo's novels. Suddenly being called like this, I feel a little resentful, and casually saying "later", "you do it" and "don't want to do it" is to indulge my procrastination. This is not right.

If someone else really did it for you … that's even more wrong. Because you will think that if you don't do it, he will help you sooner or later, even if you don't want to, then waste your time with him.

I used to feel the same way. Let me cook, I don't want to do it, I'm lazy, and then I procrastinate. Finally, others have no choice but to help me and say, "I'll help you once today." Actually, I dragged my feet after that.

Solution: Good! I'll do it!

When I first started using this method, the feeling of surprise was great.

After getting up early, I take the initiative to make breakfast without being urged by others. Ask what you want to eat at noon and cook directly. In the evening, stir-fry leftovers. An unexpected relief at the end of the day. There is no nagging and urging from others.

Now that I think about it, it is because of nagging and urging that we don't want to do anything. I would rather delay than roll up my sleeves and dry. This is a psychological reason. Whatever you do, don't be timid! Do it!

2. Quit computers and mobile phones

Very important, very important, very important! Be sure to say it three times!

Computer: IQ will decline over time. Find some knowledge? Collection! Take your time in the future! Find some useful information for your current study? Collection! Take your time in the future! I don't like to think before I know. Baidu has it!

You will also develop the habit of reading line by line, reading comments directly without reading the text, and so on.

Mobile phones: staying up late parties, families with difficulty getting up ... are mostly caused by mobile phones. I can't sleep at night, lying in bed always feels that the day can't end like this, but I feel impatient inside, so mobile phones have become their best choice. I didn't sleep or didn't sleep until morning 1234567.

Difficult to get up: all year round, not just winter. It's just that winter is more frequent. It's very cold. Getting up at this time is simply ... torture. So I picked up my phone and brushed it! In the past, my main apps were: Netease Cloud Music (private fm can't stop), skype (checking the news of friends who stayed up late with me), the pet development game of rotten women (going to chat rooms/chat rooms in various countries, there are many Japanese) [beep] novels (brushing all the collected novels to see if there are any updates+looking for novels). ...

So! ! ! When you don't know! ! ! Cell phones and computers! ! ! Has taken control of your life!

I don't smoke. Seeing some habits, I can't understand how difficult it is to quit smoking.

Now think about it!

Mobile phones and computers are similar to cigarettes and drugs. If you can't control them, it is their turn to control you. It's killing you

Of course, I'm not saying that you should control drugs and give up smoking. You should be glad that you are not involved in these things. I'm just saying that if you can't control the time you play with your mobile phone and computer, you will be controlled by them. Mobile phones and computers can play normally.

After all, it is very convenient to check things. Has it ...

Solution: Turn off the computer and turn off the mobile phone data wifi. Insist on not touching them When you unconsciously reach out to them ... hold back. Or slap yourself a few times. Take out all your books, especially when you want to play computer and mobile phone! Or do something else to distract you.

Get into the habit of running

↑ The above solutions can also run without computers and mobile phones. Running has many benefits. When you sit in front of the computer and play with your mobile phone in bed every day ... not only your IQ drops, but also your body is fat and your face is ugly.

Therefore, forming the habit of running has many benefits.

As for lazy running? Mobile phones and computers are banned, and I can't read books. Naturally, I have nothing to do. What can I do without running? If you don't want to run, do everything you can, and when you are bored, you have to run.

This is the accumulated experience at present.

Note: If you want to overcome procrastination, don't give yourself too many tasks. Look at the above three methods. Do you think you did it? If I know, I can't help you. If you can't do it, concentrate on it Think of these three things as things you must do every day. It must be done. Don't do anything but these three.

When you get into a habit, change it slowly. For example, if your goal is to learn English, then recite words and insert them into your daily tasks ... well, say it here now. I have no practical experience at present.

In the final analysis, procrastination is actually a lazy psychology.

Maybe you don't think it's a serious illness, but those who are willing to accept it will often mess things up, hurt feelings, and even be swallowed up by it, making virtue disappear.

First of all, we should realize its harmfulness and seriousness to us, establish a positive, long-term and healthy psychological mechanism, make a practical life plan, be optimistic and enterprising, study hard, strengthen ourselves, be brave in difficulties and strive for success! Strive to become a new generation with hard thinking, strong will and strong skills!

Procrastination is actually an escape and an inefficiency.

If you want to help yourself overcome procrastination, you'd better learn some psychological knowledge: cognitive psychology and behavioral psychology.

Cognitive point: people's attention resources are limited, and it is difficult for human nature to exclude external interference for a long time and concentrate on doing one thing.

Therefore, you should be clear about this in your cognition. You should set long-term goals for yourself, and then split them into small goals. These small goals should be close to reality and grounded, and reward yourself after completion, so as to improve your enthusiasm.

Three learning methods of behavioral psychology are very useful:

1. Develop good habits

2. Classical conditioning: it is a form of associative learning.

3. Operational conditioning: commonly used in enterprise employee training.

Using any of the above three methods well can solve procrastination well.

Of course, we also have good learning methods in China, such as Wang Yangming's psychology, which emphasizes the unity of knowledge and practice.

Come on! !

-Conclusion.

Because of sharing, it is stronger.

What shall we do? You are ill, and you must be cured! ! !

Just kidding, actually, strictly speaking, procrastination is not a mental illness, but this common procrastination actually reflects everyone's different psychological problems. Severe procrastination is often accompanied by various negative emotions, such as self-blame, self-denial, guilt, anxiety, hesitation and so on.

Don't be scared by what I wrote above. Actually procrastination is a very common behavior. Everyone has this kind of psychological problem, such as what can be done today, the phone call to make, the customers to visit and so on. It is the same as convincing yourself to finish it tomorrow. In fact, these are all manifestations of procrastination. It depends on whether you can overcome it yourself and stick to it.

If you really want to change yourself and "treat" procrastination, you should pay attention to the management of daily life.

Give you three suggestions, and make a little change from now on.

I hope these suggestions can help you.

Procrastinators are lazy people every day. People are easily controlled by laziness. Therefore, in the face of such a situation controlled by laziness, what you have to do is to find a suitable method to avoid the invasion of laziness.

For me, as a woman, cleaning the dirty clothes at home and at home every day is an unavoidable task. Who wants to work? Who doesn't want to stay for a while, read a book, lie quietly for a while and take a nap? However, these are all things that have to be done. My idea is to put a plastic basin where I can see it. If there are clothes to be washed, I have kept them for several days, but I just don't want to wash them. I soak one or two tablets in the basin every day, in the morning, and I can see them when I wash my face after work at night. It is convenient to wash my face after washing. One or two things a day, you find that you have less dirty clothes to wash.

In my shop, it is obviously time to prepare for tomorrow, but today I am just too lazy to move. However, at the thought of getting up early tomorrow morning, I will do it without hesitation, so that I can save more time tomorrow and not be too hasty.

Actually, it's also a question of self-control. People with good self-control will do what they should do. So you can read some books about self-control. Of course, all personal habits and temperament are gradually accumulated through the books you read!

Not every kind of delay is problematic. You have to figure it out for yourself.

1. If you procrastinate and don't have to do it in the end, that's not your problem. It is this society that gives you the illusion that you should do something. In fact, you don't have to do it (because you really avoided it)

If you finally finish it on time, but always divert your attention in the process, it is that you are forcing yourself to do something you don't want to do. The real problem is not procrastination (because your procrastination is actually your body helping you escape from things you hate), but "you are forcing yourself". There must be something disgusting in this matter that you haven't found yet (that's why you can't extract and deal with it). To find this hidden disgust, you need professionals to help you.

I just, everything has been put off, don't worry, until the shit reaches my ass. As an ordinary person, I don't think there is anything wrong with this. I just want to make myself comfortable. What's the matter? Of course, I don't delay eating and sleeping at all, and I always make positive progress.

1. Always remind yourself. Write down the time when you write a report or paper and put it on your desk or mobile phone desktop. Remind yourself when and what to do.

2. Set reminders on the alarm clock or calendar for particularly important things. Set a deadline for yourself. Not a deadline for leaders or teachers.

3. Prioritize the work and do some important things first. Otherwise, when a lot of work is scattered in front of you, you don't know where to start.

4. Don't give yourself too much time. If you give yourself too much time, you will have as many excuses and reasons to delay. For example, a fitness card for half a year seems to save money, but you will tell yourself again and again that you are not in a hurry to go these two days anyway. You waste not only money, but also a lot of time.

Finish at least one task you don't want to do but have to do every morning. Don't put what you hate the most at last. Only in this way can you easily finish the rest of the work.

In other words, when we focus on avoiding losses, it is obvious that the only way out of danger is to take immediate action. The more you worry, the faster you act, so if you delay because of fear, the best way is to think about the consequences of doing nothing.

Remember, you must be close to people who have strong actions. Procrastination is contagious, stay away from those who procrastinate seriously. Finally, don't let procrastination ruin your life.

First of all, thank you for inviting me.

Procrastination has become a commonplace topic. Before we think about how to deal with procrastination, we must first understand why we procrastinate. Active or passive procrastination?

If you procrastinate passively (if you want to have no time), it is a problem of time management. Let's talk about active procrastination today, but I always don't want to do it right away. What should I do if I delay?

First, let's find out the reason for the delay.

In other words, we either think that it is too difficult for us to delay this matter, and it needs many steps or even coordination between all parties to complete it. Sometimes we don't know how to start, and it's tiring to think about it. Either I think it will take a long time and a lot of time to do it, so I delay.

Seeing this, I wonder if you have found a word, "feeling". Yes, I mentioned it twice in a row. So what's the problem? The problem lies in your subconscious!

We subconsciously tell ourselves that it is very difficult, it takes a lot of time and energy, and it is very troublesome, so we will be afraid and will delay. It is human instinct to be afraid of difficulties and like to do simple things, so when we think things are difficult and troublesome, we will shrink back to protect ourselves.

Speaking of which, we can face procrastination squarely. Procrastination is instinct, not how slow or inefficient we are, and we don't need to deny ourselves. On the contrary, doing difficult things is the key to growth, so give yourself a big hug first and feel sorry for yourself for two seconds.

So, how to overcome procrastination next?

Since procrastination is rare, let's take it apart and do it. For example, use reverse thinking, be goal-oriented, then find out how, and then push forward to find out how to start.

What if some perfectionists procrastinate? Finish first and then perfect! We can finish it first, then take it back to verify it, and we can iterate constantly, so that we can correct it step by step to perfection.

Things, only you know what you need, the way, only to find the direction.

Nothing can be answered simply by thinking. We need to keep learning in our minds, practicing in our hands, then learning and practicing again, iterating repeatedly, and finally getting our own logical thinking and order.

May my answer inspire you ~

Fight procrastination with the reciprocal of three, two and one.

Han Yishi's "Knowing Skills on Wednesday"

Overcome procrastination

Even though we have prescribed countless compound prescriptions,

Understand the various mechanisms of psychophysiology.

We were still defeated.

A small way to fight procrastination

Is to put what you have to do

Simplify it into a task that can be completed quickly and easily.

then

Psychological reciprocity

Three two one

Imagine when you count to one.

Like the end of the world

Like the last second of a time bomb.

Just like the last trembling before crossing the finish line

The one with the crack

Light up in the brain

Three two one

Let go of everything else

Do it at once

So back and forth

Countdown every effort

We can gradually win the battle of procrastination.

More knowledge and skills were updated on Wednesday.

Please pay attention to Han Yi's poems.