How to politely refuse money from elders?

Many people have encountered such a situation, embarrassed to accept money from their elders, and feel that it is out of reach. What should we do in this situation?

You can say to your elders like this:

1, I'm so old, you give me my money back, I should be filial to you, or forget it.

This answer is suitable for grandparents, parents, parents-in-law, neighbors, elders, leaders and other elders

I am almost looking for a wife, and you still spoil me so much. I feel unbearable and embarrassed ~ keep it for yourself ~

Under normal circumstances, no matter what kind of elders will take back the money, because you have said so and feel guilty about taking the money, then the elders will not be reluctant, otherwise it will be difficult.

But then again, under what circumstances should elders give money? Some money can't be refused, otherwise it will make the elders feel embarrassed.

For example, the first time I went to my mother-in-law or my father-in-law's, the money given by my elders could not be refused. This is the first time my best friend has met her boyfriend's parents. It is a custom for them to give money the first time they meet. Then, the boyfriend's mother wrapped a red envelope for her best friend, 1 100 yuan. My best friend didn't watch it much at the time, but she refused. At that time, my boyfriend and mother were particularly embarrassed and felt that they had given less. She explained that it was our custom. When you meet your parents for the first time, you have to pay. If you don't have much money, it means one thousandth. Accept it.

As a result, my girlfriend still refused to accept it for various reasons. Later, the boyfriend's mother gave the money directly to her son and asked him to give it to his girlfriend. This matter will stop here. But behind her boyfriend's mother's back, she also said that her girlfriend is a bit stubborn, and the red envelopes given by her elders should be accepted regardless of size. It was a polite remark, ie it was later said by her boyfriend.

In fact, when the elders give you money for the first time, they show their love and recognition to you. Because this is your first visit, it is understandable that you are embarrassed to accept it. However, the money given by the elderly represents a wish and recognition for you. It's natural to accept money from your elders, so you don't have to feel guilty. Really can't. You can buy more gifts to honor the elderly on the second visit.

For example, the Chinese New Year is a red envelope given by the elders, regardless of the size of the red envelope, and at the same time send a blessing to express gratitude. In many places, no matter whether the younger generation is married, in love or single, the elders at home are used to giving red envelopes, and the money is not much, usually 50- 100 yuan, which represents the New Year's blessing, good health and smooth sailing ... If you don't accept it at this time, even if you express it euphemistically, the elders will feel uncomfortable and think that you didn't accept the other's blessing, which is very impolite.

We say this because there is such a custom here, and we, as young people, will gladly accept it. Similarly, we juniors, that is, people who have already gone to work, will also buy some gifts that our elders like.

Having said that, I just want to say that if there are no customs and habits in your place, you can politely refuse, such as a red envelope from your uncle and aunt. But special circumstances must be treated specially, and don't blindly refuse. Sometimes acceptance is a very comfortable thing, otherwise people will think you are stubborn.