What if no one takes the child as a full-time mother and is bullied?

Learn from my wife. My wife hired a nanny with a monthly salary of 1.3 million. She threw her two children to the nanny and went to work decisively. Although her monthly salary is only more than 7000 yuan, it is worth it.

It's not that no one takes care of the children, it's that you are a stay-at-home mother who is decadent.

My family is the same. There are two children, one is three years old and the other is one year old, and no one takes care of them. Our idea is that if we can pay someone to take care of them, then we will give ourselves a new life.

So my wife had to get up and study hard every day for four months before she planned to ask a nanny to take care of the children, and soon got the professional qualification certificate and passed the exam.

Looking for a job interview, let the nanny take care of the children on the official working day and give money every month. Although the wife's salary is not enough, the couple are already very happy.

Why?

After the wife didn't take the children, her thoughts were positive, her contacts were wide, and her ability was improved, instead of being angry and complaining as a whole like a full-time mother, and the whole person was decadent.

Although the money is not enough to pay for the nanny, it is enough for the nanny through the efforts of husband and wife. On the one hand, as parents, we will not be so tired. On the other hand, we have more time to improve ourselves, and a lot of intangible wealth has increased, just waiting for time to accumulate.

Therefore, stay-at-home mothers must not be limited in thinking. I am very tired when I take care of my children, but I must study hard, improve myself, get a certificate or be admitted to the company, and then use my ability to improve my work development and leave the hard work to the older generation. Young people should go out and work hard so that their families can be happy.

I don't know what people think, at least my husband and wife think so. Although my parents will blame my wife, saying that raising children is important and earning a few dollars is not worth it. In fact, you don't need to listen to them. Set your own goals and work hard to achieve them.

Such a full-time mother is the best mother. The children were taken care of and they came out again. I am in a good mood every day, my work has developed and my ability has improved. Only in this way can they kill two birds with one stone.

Therefore, if a stay-at-home mother is willing to invite a person to take care of the children, find a job by herself and work hard, she will be very happy and will not complain.

I am a sailor, a professional sailor, and the initiator of the emotional route. Don't forget to be nice to me when you are unhappy. I am your happy bosom friend, and I can talk about love.

I am also a stay-at-home mom, and no one dares to bully me. My husband gave me all his salary. Knowing that I love money, he makes money desperately to make me happy. Speaking of which, many people will sigh that I have found a good husband. In fact, whoever marries me must be so kind to me, or I will divorce if I don't get married.

I remember when I was just full-time, my mother-in-law said strangely: My son is too hard, and I have to support the whole family by working alone. I hate listening to such sarcastic remarks that sow discord. Let's put it this way: since you can't bear to part with your son's hard work, then really use money to express it. Don't talk with your mouth, saying that he has less hard work? Tell me, he won't have to support his family?

That's my character anyway. I won't please others, and I won't bully others, but there is no way to bully me. My husband used to give my mother 1500 every month, but my mother-in-law still cried in front of my husband. I did so well that I didn't give a dime.

The rent of the house at home went into the mother-in-law's own pocket. She has a job and won't help us with the children. I'm still crying in front of us, and I certainly won't agree.

Although I take care of the baby full-time, I never do housework. I only take care of the baby and grow up by myself. When the child wakes up, I will accompany him wholeheartedly. When the children were asleep, I tried to enrich myself by reading books, and also learned financial management and psychology. The whole person walked with the wind.

I have always insisted that no matter how good my husband is, it doesn't belong to me, and no matter how good my children are, they will eventually fly high. Only if you have enough economic strength, ability and learning ability, that is what really belongs to you and can't be taken away by others.

The value of a woman lies not in whether she is a full-time mother or a strong working woman, but in how she views herself. The first is to love yourself. If you don't even love yourself, others will bully you.

Loving yourself is not simply buying cosmetics. Loving oneself is a kind of self-confidence. No matter where you go, it is the confidence of the queen. Even though I am plain, I am still confident and charming. No one can bully you, and whoever bullies you will not hesitate to pay back!

Only when you become stronger will others not look down on you!

The most important thing for stay-at-home mothers is that they have no economic income, so they will be bullied.

Some people say that with money, you have the confidence to live, and money is the support of one's spiritual strength.

Being a full-time mother is not terrible. Terrible is that because there is no economic income, it is not recognized by the whole family. Some men even throw out a sentence directly: You do nothing at home all day, just watch your children cook, why do you always spend money?

After my sister gave birth, her mother-in-law refused to take care of the child. Her husband told her to quit her job and take care of the children at home, and promised to pay her full salary.

But my sister won't do it. She said that although she loves children, she should have her own life and career, and she can't be tied to her children all her life.

My sister began to look for a nanny after giving birth, and let the nanny go to work in advance. She let the nanny know how to take care of the children.

Most importantly, she installed a camera lens at home, with no dead angle in 360 degrees. For this, she told the nanny without reservation. She said that telling the nanny was to reassure the nanny, not to abuse the child when she was not at home, and not to think about finding a place that could not be monitored.

After spending some time with the nanny, she said that the nanny is a very kind person, very kind to the children, and the children are the purest. Judging from the interaction between children and nannies, children and nannies are very close.

In fact, my sister's salary is not high, just like a nanny. The salary she earns is basically a nanny fee. But my sister said she had no regrets. After coming home from work, she tried to spend all her time with her children. She doesn't want her children to say that she is a useless mother and a mother who reaches out.

My sister said that she had sisters around her and became a full-time mother after giving birth. However, many stay-at-home mothers are not happy. At first, the man said that I raised you. Later, it was not smooth to ask for money. Life became more and more difficult, and there were more and more contradictions between the two. She resolutely refused to be a full-time mother.

Now my sister's work is very colorful, the children at home are watched by a nanny, and my husband is very satisfied with the present state. My sister goes to work beautifully every day, and the children are arranged neatly. They are living a happy life now.

Whether to be a full-time mother or not is a woman's choice. However, being a full-time mother also has different characteristics. Gu Jia, whom we saw in the TV series Thirty, is a stay-at-home mother, but she has the ability to handle all the affairs of the company. When her husband's company is in trouble, she always lends a helping hand to turn the tide. I think as such a stay-at-home mother, no one looks down on her and no one bullies her?

I don't think a woman can regard her home as her whole world. I have always believed that a woman must be financially independent, spiritually independent and not dependent on anyone. Only in this way can we gain a foothold in society, so that we will not live in the eyes of others, and we will not be bullied by others.

Go out to work, regardless of the monthly income of 12 thousand, as long as you have income, you are not afraid of being looked down upon! Even if you don't earn enough money to hire a nanny, you should go. This society always takes it for granted that women do housework and take care of children, and it is futile for you to pay more! Mothers want to accompany their children and can't bear to part with every minute of their growth. But there must be a reason why the state stipulates maternity leave for five months. Therefore, when the child is about half a year old, it is time to find something to do! We can't bet on a stay-at-home mom. If we have a husband who loves you so much, we will make do, but only for a year or two at most. Hurry back to society, we can't afford to lose, so don't be out of touch with society! Good luck!

If you are bullied as a stay-at-home mother, have you ever asked yourself why?

Do you really think that a stay-at-home mom caused you to be bullied? No! ! You caused you to be bullied. You are the hostess of a small family, you are equal to the master, and you have the right to manage the small family. Who can bully you?

Once you are bullied, it shows that you have not exercised your rights well and have not put yourself in the position of hostess. Then, with your character, you are not a full-time mother, and you are bullied.

Tell me about when I took care of my son! As the child was born in the hospital, I couldn't get out of bed at that time. My husband still looks after the children before going to bed. At night, my husband slept like a dead man. The child slept in the crib and cried himself hoarse, telling him not to scream at all. The aunt who accompanied the bed next door got up and moved the crib to me. I twisted the bag wrapped around the child in one hand and brought the child to my side to nurse until the full moon, so that others could enjoy the feeling of giving birth to a child and confinement. And I am no different in peacetime. I will never forget that kind of grievance and bitterness. Now that the child is older, I can do what I like, and I don't have to ask him for pocket money. All the grievances and pains have passed. Women have to rely on themselves, or they have to look at others' faces like beggars and ask for money. You should be bullied by others. Those processes are only known to you [tears] [tears].

I'm just a baby. When she goes to kindergarten, I will be a teacher in kindergarten. There are more than 30 children in a class. After work, their children really don't want to be in charge. Fortunately, girls are not naughty. I'm really tired, but at least no one dares to say anything unpleasant. My mother-in-law calls me a coward. Every summer vacation, the baby will go to grandma's house. Before the summer vacation, my mother-in-law asked the baby if it was good to come to grandma's house. I told her directly that my baby was going to her grandmother's house. You don't care if the child can, and you don't care where I want to put the child.

At present, I am a full-time student. Tell me how I feel. It is really the economic foundation that determines my family status. I stay at home full-time and do nothing but take care of the baby. At most, it is for the whole family. I have been doing my own business until I am full-time, and I have been running into the store the day before giving birth to my baby. I also share money with my husband. I buy baby diapers, milk powder, wet wipes and soft towels. My husband's salary is only over 3,000 a month, which is only enough for him, but he usually gives money when he goes out. At home, the mother-in-law respects and the husband loves. As long as my husband is fierce, my mother-in-law will scold me, because I usually tease my baby to deliberately say that my father doesn't refuel and my mother doesn't go to work to get wet, so I can't afford milk powder. That little money earned in a month is not enough for our baby's fart food. Let them go, as long as these are all my responsibilities. Now that the store is closed, I don't want to lie on the credit book. I will still use my accumulated customers' mobile phones to sell products in the WeChat business. My monthly income is higher than my husband's and I have enough time to take care of my baby. I told my husband clearly that I take care of the baby harder than going to work, and I earned all the money you earned. I can't do housework. You must take care of it at home with me. Otherwise, I'll ask my aunt to give me half the money and I'll go out to work. His whole family didn't agree, but they all agreed that I only took care of the baby. When I came back, I felt that I was tired of taking care of the baby, so I helped take care of the baby and let me rest.

See you bully people. I still advocate family harmony first. For example, if your husband doesn't respect you, the first choice is to find a way to reverse this wrong attitude. If it can't be reversed, then consider asking someone to take care of the children, and you also go out to look for a job. I can't do this either. I think you should consider whether this marriage should continue. Because a family can't just ask you to sacrifice, you have to give up your dignity. Why do you want to maintain this marriage that is not good for you at all?