There is a winner in life called high emotional intelligence, and two routines cultivate baby emotional intelligence.

My friend's baby Mingzai has been a high emotional intelligence baby in my mind since childhood.

Once his mother took him to visit relatives, and the daughter-in-law of that family was going to give birth. People asked him: Do you like your brother or sister?

Before going, his mother taught him: remember, you have to say that you like your brother!

Mingzai is embarrassed. He doesn't want to lie, and he's afraid of offending others. He thought about it and said, I like puppies!

Ha ha ha, why did I just say I like both? My brain is not as good as a five-year-old baby.

When Mingzai was 9 years old, his mother took him to a lecture. People thought he was too young and wouldn't let him in. Mingzai said, "I am a child with me, and I will supervise the learning effect of my parents."

Ha, ha, ha, he amused the doorman, let him in, and added, "If it's noisy, you have to come out."

Zi Ming raised his eyebrows and said, "No problem! If my mother doesn't behave, I'll take her out. "

Tut tut, this aura, why not go directly to heaven like a rocket!

Cute to foul, a baby with such high emotional intelligence as Mingzai is a group pet everywhere, and everyone loves him.

Another time, my mother was angry with Mingzai. Afterwards, his mother felt very guilty and said to her son, "My mother is a first-time mother and has no experience. I'm sorry. " .

I thought there would be a deep hug and mutual understanding between mother and son, and then the whole play would be over.

Unexpectedly, Zi Ming replied, "It doesn't matter. I have been a baby for a long time. I'm very experienced. I can train you! " "

Wow, what kind of fairy child is this? Excuse me, does such a baby have to take part in the lucky draw to get one?

In the crowd, people with high emotional intelligence are the most attractive, treat people with extraordinary demeanor, and make people sit in the spring breeze. Such people are also the easiest to succeed.

If I make a list and write down the abilities that children need, the first thing I want to write is emotional intelligence.

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Mingzai's mother is a person with high emotional intelligence.

Master Duo was very clingy when he was a child. I asked her what to do. Mingzai's mother gave me a lot of tips for relaxing and playing. I was still very tired. I kept asking her if there was anything more relaxing and could I be lazy?

Finally, Mingzai's mother said, I have another way to make you do nothing.

What is this? Come on, come on, I'll buy you a beer.

It's very simple. You stick a thorn in your body, just like a hedgehog, and the child won't stick to you.

I see, sister. Don't scold me. I can't change it. People with high emotional intelligence are like this, smiling and "teaching me a lesson".

With such a wise mother, of course, children bring their own high emotional intelligence genes. How can they have such magical skills?

First, be an emotionally stable person.

Emotional stability is the foundation of high EQ. First of all, learn to control your emotions.

In Ming Tsai's example above, when the little guy encounters a difficult problem or thing, his first reaction is not to worry or complain. He is in a stable mood and a good state of mind.

As long as you have a good attitude and relax, you will be able to have a flash of light and emotional intelligence. On the contrary, most people with poor emotional intelligence are psychologically fragile and prone to collapse.

If you want your child's emotional intelligence to be high, parents should first be emotionally stable, and don't go online whenever something happens. You should settle down first, give your child a piece of land, and let his emotional intelligence take root.

Master Duo often washed his feet when he was a child and spilled water all over the floor. Every time I get angry, I wipe off the water with a rag.

When I learned to control my emotions and calm myself down, it suddenly occurred to me why I didn't play with the water spilled on the ground and write.

I found that as long as you control your emotions first, your EQ will be high, because emotional stability can make people play their IQ.

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The second point to improve EQ is to change the way of thinking.

I heard a story about a huge emotional intelligence.

During the Warring States Period, a king of Qi wanted to kill his groom, because the groom accidentally raised his favorite horse to death. At this time, there was a minister named cabbage, who was kind-hearted and wanted to save the poor groom.

But the king of Qi was angry, and maybe even his head fell off. So how did cabbage convince the king of Qi?

He said to the King of Qi: The groom has committed three felonies, the first is to raise the horse of the King of Qi to death, the second is to let the King of Qi kill it, and the third is to make the princes laugh at the State of Qi for it.

The king of Qi gasped at this. Alas, the king is in a hurry.

Wei Zijian is too straightforward. He described the serious consequences of the killing of the people by the King of Qi. First, you are too cruel to kill people easily. Second, it will affect your reputation. International public opinion will laugh at you as a bad king.

It was ugly and a little humiliating, but cabbage cleverly put the blame on the groom, which was the three felony crimes committed by the groom. In this way, both Xiao and Qi saved face.

Your Majesty, you see what a good step my humble position has paved for you. Why don't you get off at once?

The role of high emotional intelligence is sometimes no less than that of thousands of troops. Cabbage saved the groom in a few words, protected himself, and taught the king of Qi to be a virtuous gentleman.

The most powerful thing about EQ is that it is powerful but not destructive, which benefits everyone and is a kind of ingenuity.

This kind of intelligence comes from empathy, solving problems from another dimension, not rigid, not bashing head-on, but looking for other breakthroughs.

Therefore, a person with high emotional intelligence must have a multi-dimensional and multi-angle way of thinking, not a single straightforward one. In daily life, we try to break the fixed thinking and think from another angle, which is the focus of cultivating emotional intelligence.

For example, when someone asks Mingzi, do you like boys or girls? The answer to high emotional intelligence is to jump out of this logic and get stuck inside. I like puppies. People thought Mingzai was too young to let him in, so Mingzai put the problem on his mother.

Similarly, children who spill water all over the floor and cling to right and wrong will always be upset and disgusted, and finally do things with low emotional intelligence.

If we can change the angle, can this water also teach children to love writing and labor?

Suddenly I feel that I have stepped onto Chang 'an Avenue from a one-way street.

When I changed a little, I found that my children had more emotional intelligence than I did.

Master Duo was always forgetful when he was in the first grade. Once, I found that she left her pencil case at home again, so I was anxious with her.

As a result, Eva persuaded me to say, Mom, just because I didn't bring my pencil case, I borrowed a pen from this classmate and an eraser from that classmate, and I made many new friends today.

Ha, ha, ha, it turns out that being popular is also borrowed.

Therefore, from another perspective, forgetting things is also helpful to cultivate children's resilience and social level. There is nothing to worry about. Eva inspired my emotional intelligence.

A person with high emotional intelligence is not only good at solving complex problems, but also has many spiritual outlets, so his personality will not be axial.

American President Roosevelt once lost a lot of money when his home was stolen by thieves, and everyone came to comfort him. He said, fortunately, I am not a thief.

This kind of emotional intelligence pattern, it is difficult for you to be president!

People with high emotional intelligence have an open mind and extraordinary tolerance. Whether he can achieve great things or not, he is a happy and intelligent man.

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Recently, I was moved by a high emotional intelligence news from People's Daily.

It was cold, and Luoyang Institute of Technology distributed winter cotton-padded clothes to 3 13 students with financial difficulties. In order to protect students' privacy, the school bought all kinds of cotton-padded clothes. Poor students can choose by themselves and try them on until they are satisfied.

Netizen comments, taking care of personal privacy, so touched.

Some schools "secretly" give money to students.

In xidian university, by analyzing the data of students eating by credit card at school, it is found that students who eat more than 60 times a month and eat less than 8 yuan a day are subsidized.

The whole process does not require children to apply, and the money is secretly sent to the children's card, only the school and the children know.

"Only schools and children know" countless people have been poked in tears by this sentence. This thoughtfulness makes people feel warm and worthwhile.

Emotional intelligence is valuable, not only because of intelligence, but also because of kindness. Wisdom with love and temperature is high emotional intelligence.

Why do people attach the most importance to emotional intelligence among various qualities? Because a person with high emotional intelligence is a combination of capable people and good people, he combines two most scarce things, a good mind and a good heart.

We love those who have emotional intelligence, because they can give you nothing but love and warmth!

Emotional intelligence is a very beautiful and advanced quality, but as long as we do two things, one is to control our emotions, and the other is to look at the problem from a different angle, we can become emotional intelligence experts by cultivating these two habits every day.

It's so simple, haven't you learned?