My parents often ask me for money, which really makes me feel bad. Please enlighten me.

My parents often ask me for money, which really makes me feel bad. Why? It is estimated that your inner fluctuation is like this:

I love my parents. Why should I send money? I want to buy them anything good that I see. Our parents will not be short of money unless there are special circumstances. Why must money be used to express filial piety? Just out of society, the standard of living is not high, but also to help parents whose living conditions are much more stable than mine?

1, the specific thing: Just because you just graduated, even if you have plans to fall in love and get married, you still feel that it is not enough to give yourself to your parents.

Children have their own life path, job hunting, investing in themselves, getting married and having children in the future, and having their own small family. They need to accumulate strength and money to resist all kinds of risks in their life.

Please don't put a heavy burden on them when they are just starting and their wings are still tender.

If children have a good relationship with their parents and are willing to give back to their families of origin if they have a little financial ability, that is their freedom. But remember, this kind of feedback is based on the child's willingness. Be immersed in love with children, not duty. No, they have to. Anyone who abducts young people who have just entered the society with moral oppression thinks that they must give money to their families. Such people are either stupid or bad.

In the long run, this is a question of outlook on life. Selfishness can make you happier. Selflessness means sacrificing yourself, not obsessing, listening to your heart, making your own decisions, and not regretting. It doesn't matter even if you become a reviled person, because living is a person's own business.

In other people's homes, the opposite is true. My parents always want to give me money. They are very frugal. I want them to eat better, but they are not willing to spend money, so they have to save money for me. You will feel worse. Because of this, the gap in my heart will be even greater. This is everyone's psychology. After reading this, I understand.