How can the mother-in-law get along with her grandson without her own grandson?

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Almost always the grandson is closer than the grandson. This traditional thinking is deeply rooted. Tell me a story. My cousin and I are of the same year and different months. According to my mother, when I was born, my grandmother also came to visit and she was relatively happy, but she said it was a grandson. It would have been better if she was a biological grandson. A few months later, my aunt gave birth to my cousin. My grandma loved her very much and looked happy.

After studying, my cousin’s grades were relatively poor. Later, when he reached the third grade of elementary school, my aunt asked him to come to my house and go to school with me. Every weekend, my cousin asked me to accompany him home. Every time we wanted to buy snacks but had no money, my cousin asked me to ask my grandma to get them. I was too timid to go, so my cousin went and I followed him. My grandmother almost always gave him a piece and gave me fifty cents. Every time she buys food, she buys it for my cousin, who then gives it to me. But I never mentioned these things to my mother. I knew then that to my grandmother, I was still a grandson after all.

But I don’t blame her either. This is a deep-rooted traditional thought of the Chinese people. Although today's society is highly civilized, this kind of thinking is difficult to change. Every time I go home, I take time to visit her and give her some money. The year before last, she could hardly recognize me. My aunt told her, and she remembered it. She is over eighty this year. I wish her and all the kind-hearted old people in the world good fortune and longevity.

Actually, there is no question of kissing or not. The key is how you look at it. The palms and backs of your hands are all flesh. Could it be said that a son’s children are relatives, but a daughter’s children are not relatives? How biased! The two grandchildren will be treated differently! Only those who hold on to the old thinking will have this view. This is like saying that there is a patriarchal mentality and asking whether a grandson or a granddaughter is better. If they are not all children of their own family, why are they so clear-cut? Could it be said that families with only girls in the family will not kiss their daughter's children in the future? Don't talk about property issues. If there is a real dispute, your daughter's share cannot be lost. Don't think about these issues with old ideas. Anyway, my parents will definitely treat my children the same as their own grandchildren. It is impossible to say that they will eat meat for their grandchildren. We will stand by and watch. When we buy a house, our parents still contribute money. When the children go back, they will be treated as treasures!

I have heard it and seen it in the past. As an old man, you are still a grandson. As the ancients said, a nephew is bluffing.

The grandson has inherited the grandfather's surname. If the grandson joins the army, he can give his grandfather an honorable military badge. The grandson can build his grandfather's grave and put incense on it. In some families, parents are unfilial. It is the grandson who takes up the responsibility of honoring his grandfather.

As a grandson. Everyone has his own family and his own career. Everyone has his own grandfather, I think it really follows the old saying of rural people. My grandson earns his eight views. My nephew is fooling around.

Reunion Day and Reunion Festival are the reunions of grandchildren and grandfathers. It is rare for grandchildren to reunite with grandma.

Reunion. After the reunion, everyone went back to their respective homes. There was no reunion between the juniors and the elderly. Thanks. Because I am a rural person, this is what I have seen and witnessed with my own eyes. Let me hear your insights.

To tell a joke, my father told me that in their village, there was an old man named Zhang. He has a pair of children. When the children grow up, they each get married and have a son. Lao Zhang loves his daughter especially his nephew. One day, Lao Zhang led his grandson. Holding my nephew. When I went to Luyi Reservoir, I took a bath in the water because of the hot weather. He took off his clothes and plunged into it. In order to amuse the children, he quietly put a lotus leaf on his head and hid it. When the children saw that Lao Zhang hadn't come up for a long time, his grandson cried, "Grandpa, why haven't you come up yet?" I want grandpa. The nephew looked at it and said, "Your grandpa is gone. Alas, I will go find my grandpa." Lao Zhang heard this and went ashore. Put on clothes, hold your grandson in your arms, and lead your nephew.

Let me tell you something close to me. The old man’s two daughters got married and found a son-in-law. Each of the two daughters gave birth to a son. The old man bought his grandson a goldware, a toy car, a small bed and other birthday gifts for his birthday 3 RMB 10,000, give me a commercial house for my grandson (written in his name), two gold bars of 250 grams each, a deposit receipt of RMB 580,000, and several other birthday gifts. The old man runs a factory! Who are you talking about? ! No matter what, the grandson is still an outsider after all. The grandson's own family will always rely more on the grandson when they grow old! Otherwise, today's only daughter or second daughter's household would hire a son-in-law just for the sake of face, title and peace of mind, and to be relied upon when they grow old! If you don’t feel at ease relying on your grandson, your grandson should always be more at ease. Of course, there are also unfilial descendants, but they are a minority after all! Therefore, I think it will definitely be the grandson who will kiss in the end, which is the same as who will kiss between a son and a son-in-law!

My grandfather is an out-and-out cold-blooded creature. He has three or four biological children. When he was young, my grandmother and he left to marry in Xinjiang. He then married someone else, my step-mother-in-law. My stepmother remarried with a daughter, and I call her aunt. In order to support my step-mother and aunt when I was young, I gave my uncle away, sent my father to the countryside to eat at home, and my aunt went to Xinjiang. When my father grew up, he replaced my grandfather in the factory, but the good times did not last long and he was laid off. After my father and my mother got married, they moved out of my grandfather's house in the city and lived with my mother in the countryside because my mother had a rural registered permanent residence. My grandfather lived with my aunt, and a lot of his pension was given to my aunt. My father was laid off, and my mother was unemployed and never received any financial support from him. He was very good to my aunt's children, who were his so-called grandchildren. Buy whatever you want to eat and wear. When I went over to play, he would give me some fruits and candies for his grandson. I rarely called him when I was a child, and he called me a fool. Because of the household registration, my aunt followed my grandfather and got rich. Her child, the so-called second sister, was admitted to the city's key center, went to Nankai, and finally worked in the central ministries. Because of my rural household registration, I could only go to school with poor teaching quality. In his hometown, he finally dropped out of high school and went out to work. When I became sensible, I no longer visited my grandfather's grave. Every time I stood in front of my father's grave, I would secretly say, "Father, you and I were born in the wrong child!"

For this issue, I feel the same in my heart! But, that's really not the case. Let me tell you a little story! One year, I was having dinner at my mother-in-law's house and my son's grandfather was not there. Everyone was asking, where has grandpa gone? The son who was eating said: My grandpa is lost and no one cares about him! It would be terrible if my grandpa was lost! Let me translate what my son means. He means that he doesn't care if his grandpa is lost, but he can't do it if his grandpa is lost. This was what was going on in my son's mind at that time. We, as a couple, have never had any bias in educating our children, and the elders on both sides are equally filial. In the son's heart, it is different... Now, the son has two sons.

He also loves his grandparents equally! Who do you think is kissable and who is not?

I took my grandson and two grandsons with me. The eldest grandson, I didn’t let my son take care of himself. To be honest, I didn’t feel much pain, but I didn’t give him less food and drink. We We have a grandson and a little grandson. I took care of my grandson when he was one month old. His grandparents didn’t give him any money for milk powder. I went to borrow the milk powder on credit and then went to work to earn money to raise him until he is now 9 years old. , now I am angry, I have to go back to my hometown with my clothes, let me have some snacks? Han, I don’t know if it will be better when I get older, my own grandson, even if I am quarreling with him, he will say he loves me, Oh, grandson?

My grandparents have three children. The eldest is my uncle, the second is my aunt, and the third is my father. There are two sons and two daughters in my uncle’s family, three sons in my aunt’s family, and four children in my father’s family. I have a daughter and a son. My aunt's family used to have difficulties. My third cousin was brought up by my grandparents when he was almost 20 years old. He didn't help my uncle's family and my father's family for so long, at most a few months. Now my grandfather is 80 years old. I My grandma is 83 years old. My grandpa is now lying in bed and in a wheelchair because of illness. My third cousin came back for a few days when he was in the hospital. Now my grandpa is taken care of by my brother and my cousin when he is home. My cousin doesn’t call me very much, and he doesn’t even come back to see my grandpa during the Chinese New Year. Do you think he is a grandson or a grandson?

Tell me about me. Because I am not married yet at my age, I don’t want to see my grandson. It's hard to draw a conclusion as to which one is closer, the grandson or the grandson. But I can get some answers from my grandmother's attitude towards my cousin and me when I was a child.

My father has three brothers and a younger sister. He is the second eldest child in his family. Since we separated from my grandma's family, I can be said to be completely destitute except for two noodle pots and two bags of rice worth 100 yuan. After my parents had twins like me and my brother, their lives became even worse. So my parents worked hard to make money, and their lives were relatively prosperous. Later, when I grew up, my cousin (a child from my aunt's family, who is two years younger than me and has a good relationship with me) came to live at my grandma's house. So far, I don't know why my cousin goes to school at my grandma's house. And this stay is from the first grade of elementary school to the graduation of the third grade of junior high school, a full nine years. All the expenses during this period were borne by my grandparents (my grandfather is a retired teacher), and my aunt did not receive a penny. In fact, both uncles and uncles saw it, but they just thought it was the two elders' money. If they were willing to give flowers to their grandson, it was hard to say anything.

The following is the key point. One thing that impressed me deeply when I was a child was that my grandma’s family had much better living conditions, and they had various health products and dried fruit instant noodles and snacks. I had never seen such good snacks when I was young, so my brother and I secretly opened a few bags and devoured them. But my grandma accidentally saw it, and she immediately became furious and scolded us both away. Later, I discovered that my grandma had marinated a jar of salted duck eggs. Every time I saw my cousin eating them with gusto, my mouth watered. I secretly fished one out of the tank without paying attention. Afraid of being caught and scolded by my grandma, I hid it in my pocket. I ran to the back of the house and took out the eggs. After opening them, I was stunned. They were all sticky. egg white, and then I was puzzled and cried, why is it different from what my cousin eats? ! Later, I learned from my cousin that that thing must be cooked before it can be eaten! ! In my memory, my grandma almost never gave my brother and me anything to eat, except for those things that we couldn’t finish or were about to spoil or spoil.

There is one more thing that I still remember and will never forget. My brother has been in poor health since he was a child. He is relatively thin and often catches colds and coughs. Sometimes I go to my grandma's house to watch TV (my grandma's house has a color TV). When my grandma sees her brother coughing a few times, she blames him and tells him to stay away from his cousin to avoid infecting him.

! ! Although we were not sensible when we were young, to be honest, we still resented our grandma for treating her favorably. After all, we are our grandchildren! ! When my grandparents grow old, my brother and I will continue to show our filial piety by visiting their graves and burning paper! !

My husband’s family is a grandson. Ever since their grandson was born, they have prepared all kinds of clothing and supplies. They also raised a group of chickens for the first time. After their grandson was born, they killed them all and sent them to their daughter’s house. Got it! We finally got pregnant in the fourth year of our marriage, and there were no feathers left! Nothing was prepared. I went shopping late in my pregnancy and they followed me, not forgetting to buy toys for their grandson! I never said anything or showed anything! After I gave birth to my child, as soon as I heard it was a girl... I told me that I had to have a second child that very day! I was thinking about my mother-in-law complaining all day about her mother-in-law not preparing anything for her children and complaining about her mother-in-law's various faults. Why didn't she think about what she had prepared? Is this kind of meanness going to be passed on?

It doesn’t matter whether he kisses you or not, just kiss your own child!