Nobody can talk.

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Night, silence is like a black ribbon.

My headphones were filled with the song "Nothing", and I lost sleep again that night.

I habitually picked up my mobile phone, opened WeChat and QQ, and suddenly wanted to talk to someone. I searched my friends in the whole address book, only to find that I didn't know who to talk to.

This feeling, you know?

I don't know if you've ever felt this way.

When a person is in a bad mood, he really wants to talk to someone, open QQ and WeChat on his mobile phone, and there are hundreds of friends in the address book, only to find that there is no one to talk to.

Suddenly I thought of a sentence I had read: "Loneliness in a circle of friends is the most terrible and lonely."

I listened carefully to Mao's difficult song "Eliminating Sorrow", as if I could understand this sentence, and even heard Mao's hard loneliness in "Eliminating Sorrow".

Just like the lyrics sing: "You pick up the glass and say to yourself, one for the sunrise and one for the moonlight; A cup of respect for hometown and a cup of respect for distant places; To freedom, to death. "

02

Two days ago, Zhuzi and I chatted on WeChat late at night. He said, "Huanhuan, are you there? I broke up today, which is very sad. She said that she doesn't like me, but I still can't let go of this relationship. What should I do? "

I searched the whole circle of friends on WeChat, looking for someone to talk to and vent my unhappiness. I looked at hundreds of friends in the address book, but I couldn't find anyone to chat with.

I don't know why, when I read this passage in the post, I suddenly feel that this passage is so sad.

It seems to be a very real thing, and it is the feeling of being poked at the pain point defenseless, which is very worrying.

The pillar is a small hair of mine. I don't know why. At this time, I am particularly distressed by the pillar. I think many people are the same. After midnight, we are all lonely individuals in the circle of friends.

I replied to the post and said, "Nothing. I will be here again in the future. I don't care about anything here, I can say whatever I want, happy or not. "

No sooner had I finished this sentence than the pillar over there was moved to tears. You know, he is a big boy. That was the first time I saw a pillar cry.

Then, the post immediately called from there. That night, he told me a lot on the phone. On the phone, I can clearly feel the thick nasal sound after he cried into the microphone.

Tell me, do you know? I was really touched when you said that "nothing, I will be here in the future". Let me have an illusion that I am not lonely enough to have hundreds of friends, but I can't find someone to talk to.

I'm also thinking that the loneliest feeling is not as good as the loneliness in the circle of friends. There are obviously so many friends in WeChat, but none of them can really speak their minds.

03

I remember when smart phones first came out and new social software first appeared, we all felt that the world brought people closer and closer. As long as you can play the WeChat circle of friends, there are no friends you can't make.

Yes, when WeChat first came out, each of us played in a circle of friends. In the circle of friends, I took a variety of selfies and food photos to attract friends to like and comment. Everyone seemed to have a good time.

But I don't know when the circle of friends has become more and more hypocritical. Those who seem to have many friends live in the illusion of a circle of friends, but they are actually lonelier than anyone else.

There are hundreds of friends in WeChat's address book. In fact, few people can really chat together.

You sent a circle of friends and showed off the selfie you thought was the most beautiful, only to find that no one cared at all and no one praised or commented on you.

You have added many WeChat communities, reading groups, writing groups, friends groups, classmates groups, girlfriends groups, family groups, etc ... There are countless communities, but in fact, not many can really get involved.

Occasionally I come across one or two topics of interest, and I will also spray a few words with a group of people I don't know, but then no one remembers who.

The circle of friends is getting more and more fake, and there are very few people in WeChat who can really make friends.

When I was sad and unhappy, when I was lovelorn and wanted to talk to someone about my pain, I found that there was no one on WeChat to talk to.

You want to find a girlfriend, but you are afraid they are busy; You want to find friends around you, but you are afraid to disturb their sleep; You want to find your family, but you are afraid that your parents will worry about you. You don't want to infect others with negative energy and bad emotions.

You rummaged through that group of friends from top to bottom, going back and forth a dozen times, but you didn't know who to talk to.

The message you typed in the WeChat box was deleted and typed, typed and deleted, but the send button was delayed.

At this time you are particularly lonely, desperate, sad, afraid and confused. You especially want to find someone to comfort yourself, listen to yourself tell your unhappiness, tell your troubles, tell your confusion and pain.

However, after searching all my friends, I still don't know who to look for. You feel lonely, so lonely that you want to cry, and you can't help crying the next second.

In fact, what I want to tell you is that I can understand everything you have experienced. You are not alone in your circle of friends.

04

I only have more than 300 friends on WeChat, and most of them met in blogs. Because everyone likes reading and writing and has the same hobbies.

More than 300 friends may be insignificant compared with those big coffee writers and great gods who have a wide range of interpersonal relationships. But these are really a lot to me.

I am not the kind of person who likes to chat with others on my own initiative, and I seldom speak in groups.

First, because we are strangers, we really don't know what to say; Secondly, I always feel that things in my circle of friends are sometimes really fake. Behind the seemingly hot topic are actually a group of lonely individuals.

Behind a seemingly gregarious heart is actually a lonely heart. Sometimes, it is just an illusion, looking for comfort and a sense of existence.

This is why many people complain that there are hundreds of contacts in the address book, but they can't make a close friend and still feel lonely.

It suddenly occurred to me that the more social you are, the more lonely you are, as the president of Yale University said in Weibo.

He said that this is an era when you can chat and make friends with hundreds of people on social media at the same time with just a few buttons. People's circle of friends is getting bigger and bigger, and the contact list can't be turned over, but at some point, they still feel lonely. Does socialization bring revelry or loneliness?

Sometimes, I often think about this problem. Does socialization bring revelry or loneliness?

Why is it so difficult to find someone who can chat anytime, anywhere? Why do so many WeChat friends still feel lonely?

Are you lonely and desperate? Are you afraid of being rejected and disturbed? Do you really want to find someone who understands you and talk about the pain and confusion you have suppressed for a long time?

Think of a sentence in the song "The Sum of Loneliness": "Because of the sum of loneliness, let's snuggle up to each other and embrace each other's sadness. Even if we can't have it, we are the sum of loneliness, so we are together. "

If one day, when you are particularly lonely, bored, and can't sleep at night, you really want to talk to someone. Please remember that I am still here. I am willing to be your ferryman and spend those lonely nights with you, because we are all the sum of loneliness.

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I am Yi Huanjun, and we will make progress and grow together in the future!