What should my boyfriend do if he says his career is unsuccessful and he doesn't want to get married? Please talk about your own views.

Your expectations determine your future. The world is big and people are different. What kind of life do you want? Do you know what you value most?

This situation you mentioned is quite common. You feel embarrassed now, so you need to find out what you want and what makes you feel uncomfortable. Is it because of the gap with previous expectations, or is it a lack of security for the future? Still afraid of being abandoned?

Similarly, you should also understand your boyfriend's thoughts. As a man, it is normal to be stressed because you have no money. The important thing is, where is the source of this pressure? Is it your family? You gave it to him invisibly? Did public opinion give it to him? Or did his pride give him?

If neither of you has a high pursuit of material life, but you love each other very much, then this problem should not be so big as to affect your marriage. For the record, I speak more directly, because I think beating around the bush is easy for listeners to misunderstand and meaningless. Ok, back to the topic, let's talk about the concept of marriage first. It is natural for two people to fall in love and then get married and start a family. However, the purpose of marriage is different. I don't know what prompted you to get married. Is it because of love, because I am used to living together, or because I think marriage is necessary, and everyone around me is an object that can be grasped?

There is no exact definition of what is poor and what is rich. The poor have the romance of the poor, and the rich have the troubles of the rich. Do you have any plans for your future life, or have you thought about what kind of life you can accept? If you don't have a lot of money requirements for your future life, does your boyfriend understand? If he says he won't get married because he is afraid that you will be wronged after marriage, then you can tell her that you don't have such a high demand for money and you can simply live. If he said he didn't get married because he felt great pressure, would you like to check whether this pressure came from himself? Or can you help him decompress? If you had to choose, be poor or lose him, what would you choose? If you would rather be poor than lose him, you should tell him how you feel. If he loves you, of course he should marry you.

Well, I am a perfectionist, so in my ideal, the most fundamental factor for two people to get married is love. If you choose to lose him and don't want to be poor, or he knows that you value being with him the most, but he still hesitates, can I draw a conclusion that your attachment now is mainly based on familiarity, not love? If so, then I will analyze it from a rational point of view, because love is not dominant. To put it bluntly, that marriage was rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. Now everyone knows that house prices are high. Because your parents pay attention to the right match, they may not be able to help you in this respect. So you have to make a plan. First, you are not going to buy a house. Then, after marriage, it is not only the food, clothing, housing and transportation of two people, but also many complicated and necessary expenses. Then you will have children. Then during the reproductive period, you will not be able to work normally for at least one year. So your boyfriend, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. Although I personally don't like it.

My understanding is not to let yourself make a predictable decision that you will regret. You can also let your boyfriend think about it. Don't be blindly optimistic or pessimistic. Money can be earned, but it may be difficult to earn. So for you, if you get married and live a miserable life together, will you regret it? Then think about it. You break up and live a rich life. I believe you will come up with your own answer.

Finally, as a man, I don't really understand. Of course, as I said, the world is big and people are different. I think in the cultural atmosphere of China, marriage is a guarantee that a man can give a woman, and it is also a responsible performance in most cases. So what makes your boyfriend hesitate? You won't get married if you don't succeed in your career, but you must know that youth is short. When you succeed in your career, things may have changed. I think, as a couple, your thoughts directly influenced him. Do you pay more attention to your career or living together? If you value your family, then if he still hesitates, is it because he is too uncertain to bring you happiness or does he really not value you? Admittedly, the present society is not ideal, but if we only aim at survival, I believe it is not an unattainable goal.