Mom didn't have a birthday, dad didn't have a beard, and an uncle didn't drink well. Who said that?

"Mothers don't have birthdays, fathers don't have beards, and uncles don't drink properly" comes from The Book of Rites, which means that mothers don't have birthdays when they are alive, fathers don't have beards when they are alive, and uncles don't drink together.

In Confucianism, it is very difficult for a mother to give birth to a child, and it may even threaten her life. So birthdays should not be celebrated, but we should be grateful to her for her kindness in having children. In addition, the beard represents majesty. He was a member of this family when his father was still alive. As a son, growing a beard is disrespectful to his father. Uncle is his elder, and it is easy to make a fool of himself after drinking, so uncles and nephews can't drink together, so they should respect their elders.

Zhou Li is a Confucian classic and one of the thirteen classics. It was written by Zhou Gongdan, a famous politician, thinker, writer and strategist in the Western Zhou Dynasty? . Zhou Li, Yi Li and The Book of Rites, collectively called "Three Rites", are the theoretical forms of the ancient rites and music culture in China, which recorded and explained the laws and significance of rites most authoritatively and had the most far-reaching influence on the etiquette system in past dynasties. Zheng Xuan, a master of Confucian classics, made an excellent annotation on Zhou Li. Because of Zheng Xuan's high academic prestige, Zhou Li became the first of Li San and became one of the Confucian ceremonies.